Wording re:hostess +small vent

Athena0809

Background: my mom told me a while ago she wanted to throw me a shower and while talking to my aunt she said "let us know when to have it because your mom and I want to throw you a shower" my mom asked me to make the invitations since a I love to hand make stationary but now here is my dilemma: my mom and aunt don't seem to know what a shower really implies, every time I ask things like "what are you guys doing for centerpieces" my mom answers "oh i don't know, you tell me" so basically my mom is paying for the rental and is making the food but has left all details to me, and recently my aunt asked me "so how are you guys coming along with the shower?" uh, weren't you throwing me a shower? and my mom told me all she is doing is helping her cook. So now I'm left scrambling thinking of the cake, the favors the centerpieces etc (and the one spending on all this) which believe me, being the control freak I am i don't mind planning an event but weren't they throwing the shower? So now for the wording I had thought of writing hosted by ____ and _____. Should i even write "hosted by"?

Hillargh

You could always start it off with "Join us in celebrating (orshowering) So-and-So!" Or have a cute poem, then the location, date, time, rsvp info, etc.

Valeriam

Maybe your mom was thinking of a more simpler shower with lemonade and cake and a few games.  Perhaps after she heard you mention centerpeices she felt like she didn't have the right idea in mind so let you take over.  There are many ways to do babyshowers and to different extents.  I've attended punch and cake ones, to 5 course meal ones where I hardly got to see the prego lady. 

-Since you are planning it and doing all the brain work, leave hostess part blank

4realyo

Maybe your asking about centerpieces threw her off? Who the heck does centerpieces? Maybe they werent planning on something so fancy/schmancy. If I were you I would just let them plan it and stay out of it. If you dont have centerpieces or favors at your shower, itll be okay. I promise.

SamJustice

Valeriam:

Maybe your mom was thinking of a more simpler shower with lemonade and cake and a few games.  Perhaps after she heard you mention centerpeices she felt like she didn't have the right idea in mind so let you take over.  There are many ways to do babyshowers and to different extents.  I've attended punch and cake ones, to 5 course meal ones where I hardly got to see the prego lady. 

-Since you are planning it and doing all the brain work, leave hostess part blank

 

This exactly. My mom and younger sisters are throwing me a party, but I get to pick the location, theme, and guests. I've just decided to do a BBQ outside in the park by this one really beautiful river. Completely informal, which is pretty much done for any type of family gathering (graduation parties, birthday parties, etc.) The whole family will be bringing their own special dish (as usual) and my uncle will be working the grill. But my sisters will make the invites and my mom will pretty much make sure everyone shows up.

stephanie_shoe

4realyo:

Maybe your asking about centerpieces threw her off? Who the heck does centerpieces? Maybe they werent planning on something so fancy/schmancy. If I were you I would just let them plan it and stay out of it. If you dont have centerpieces or favors at your shower, itll be okay. I promise.

Who the heck does centerpieces?  A lot of people, lol.  I had them and favors and it wasn't fancy/schmancy.  A group of friends also went in and hosted another shower for us that was definitely casual (no decorations, centerpieces, favors, etc).  Both were wonderful.

rickandcaitlin

I am lost. Where the heck do center pieces go? I have never been to a sit down shower that ever needed center pieces. Decorations yes but center pieces??

JuneMagnolia

rickandcaitlin:

I am lost. Where the heck do center pieces go? I have never been to a sit down shower that ever needed center pieces. Decorations yes but center pieces??

I agree, lol. I don't understand the need for such formal showers. To each their own!

BrendaLou1969

are they 'raffled' off to the guests as a doorprize in some fashion?

rhubarb123

I'm surprised that your mom doesn't know what a shower entails.  Hasn't she ever been to one?  Is it not common with her friends/family?  I would start asking HER questions...when was she going to order the cake, what ideas does she have, what about games, prizes, favors, etc.  You could even sit down and make a list with her...of things that need to be done.  Obviously she is not thinking cake and lemonaide like one pp mentioned since she and your aunt are both cooking food.

As for the invite...if you plan to have them call or email your mom AND aunt then I would put them both down as hostesses.  If it is just your mom getting the RSVP's then just put her name.  You can then mention that your aunt helped a lot with making the food.

 

Athena0809

Thank you all truly for your comments....

I would have been fine with a shower at my mom's house with cake and lemonade but she was the one who wanted a "sit down dinner affair" she found the hall and paid the rent fees and all. the problem is the showers in her native country don't involve cake, games and the staple of american showers, they're typically at a restaurant and more like a "tea party" women come, eat, and watch the prego open presents....some of my friends have agreed to take over the "american traditions" part and are doing the games, cake, centerpieces and favors, so my mom will mostly do the food which was her main concern! lol so all I have to do is the invites, I'm not putting the name of the hostess since it's kind of a lot of people's effort, and as far as the RSVP it will have the website addy for the bump baby website.