A sour friend

HathaGirl

I have a friend who's kind of known among the group as the party girl, loves male attention (dates, but never is in a relationship), and she's trying to start a music career in country music. Needless to say, she's enjoying her freedom, and she loves attention, and she has a horrible attitude about men. (She makes the classic mistakes, and then says there's no good man in town)

 She also has a very bad attitude towards pregnant women in our friend circle. She makes fun of my other friend who's pregnant, and people who went to our high school who are now pregnant. She can't believe that they're "giving up their freedom". (she feels the same way for married people in our group as well)

 Needless to say, she doesn't know that I'm pregnant. I understand her perspective, I do, but I'm hating her attitude and I don't know how it's going to effect our friendship when I make the announcement. 

 Has anyone else had a friend obstacle like this? What did you do, and how did it turn out? 

marriedfilingjointly

If she starts making her rude comments when you tell her, just say something to the point like "I'm really excited and I hope you can be happy for me, too."  Then change the subject.

If she keeps on, honestly, I wouldn't want to be friends with someone like that.  It's such a drag.  

ewilliams1127

I say if a friend cannot support you in the most exciting part in your life then they are not a friend to have period!  Your life is going to change dramatically and if she can't support that then why stay friends? 

People come into your life for a reason and they leave for a reason.  Maybe the reason you all became friends in the first place is gone and over.  

 GL!  But don't let someone bring down the best time in your life!

happylady07

ewilliams1127:

I say if a friend cannot support you in the most exciting part in your life then they are not a friend to have period!  Your life is going to change dramatically and if she can't support that then why stay friends? 

People come into your life for a reason and they leave for a reason.  Maybe the reason you all became friends in the first place is gone and over.  

 GL!  But don't let someone bring down the best time in your life!

 Well said!  

fraglette

Don't go putting the cart before the horse just yet - there's no telling how she's going to react to your specific news.  I have a friend who has been biitching about some of our acquaintences and their pregnancies/babies.  But I also know that the issues are more than just the pregnancies, it has more to do with the women themselves.  I am confident she is going to be over the moon when I tell her the news.

And it's just as possible that this friend is going to be overjoyed for you because she considers you "different" from the others.

Jovan3

I have a brother like this!!! He knows I'm pregnant b/c my other brother told him but he hasn't said anything to me about it.He knows I hate the negative comments & don't need his opinion! So tell her if she's rude that you are very happy & don't need negativity.

HathaGirl

fraglette:

Don't go putting the cart before the horse just yet - there's no telling how she's going to react to your specific news.  I have a friend who has been biitching about some of our acquaintences and their pregnancies/babies.  But I also know that the issues are more than just the pregnancies, it has more to do with the women themselves.  I am confident she is going to be over the moon when I tell her the news.

And it's just as possible that this friend is going to be overjoyed for you because she considers you "different" from the others.

 I hope it's this, but part of me thinks that she'll feel betrayed (Another friend "leaving her behind" and on toward parenthood).  Let's hope I'm wrong.

onemorethyme

She sounds lie a real loozer to me! sounds lie she has some issues with commitment and maybe she' jealous underneath it all..

I have a friend who had her kids young.. she got pregnant before married.. well the last time I saw her she said.. that she didn't want to hear about anyone trying to get pregnant or anything.. she said I just don't want to hear it! ...so guess what I don't want to be her friend anymore.. we have been slowly drifting apart anyways but it still hurt.. people really suck sometimes!

why bother waisting your time on someone like this ..

vanessaipadilla

sounds like she's jealous

jaclyn mommy of 3

This does not sound like a friend.  I would drop her as such.

Ali080605

We had a friend like this in our group and eventually she just stopped being part of the group...we all got married & stopped being interested in the bar scene, then we had babies and our social life really changed.  I doubt she would even want to come to one of our BBQ's or Taco Nights now.   

I think that she will either need to change her attitude or may not be spending as much time with you.

If you really want to maintain your friendship, you may have to overlook her comments/behavior (I wouldn't expect her to get pregnancy woes or new baby stress). 

I think it would be fine to honestly tell her how you feel if she says something to you.  You both have made radically different choices in your lives and that's fine.  From what you posted it sounds like she might (on some level) be envious of you.