Prayers please

Mommy2Max

Hey Ladies:

I haven't updated about my FIL in awhile, so I thought I would go ahead and do so.  Things are not going well at all.  Hospice was called in this past Friday. 

All signs are pointing to tumor growth despite the two rounds of chemo that he has had.  He is leaning to the left side a lot, he can't see out of his left eye, he is very confused, he can't bare weight on his legs anymore, etc.  My MIL called the doctor with these new symptoms and the doctor told her it was time to stop treatment and to call Hospice.  He was originally given 2-3 months after treatment ended, but we are too confident he's going to live that long.  He is going down hill fast.

Tim was there last night for almost 5 hours helping my MIL out.  He came home very depressed.  My MIL is taking care of him 24/7 by herself and she hurt her back trying to lift him yesterday.  As much as no one wants to, its looking like they might have to put him into a nursing home.  I worked at a nursing home and saw how they treat their patients.  I do not want this to happen, but I really don't know what else they can do.  We all want him to stay in his own environment with the people he knows and loves, but its getting too hard for my MIL.

Please pray that my FIL goes peacefully in his sleep.  We think he is going to slip into a coma and just not wake up.  Please pray this is the case and that there isn't any suffering.  I am asking that you also pray for the family.

I wish I new how to handle this better to be strong for Tim, but I am not doing a very good job at it

 

PirateGirl04

I'm so sorry to hear abt ur FIL.  That is def a tough situtation!  T and P for family!

MrsMandaK

You are all in my prayers. Stay strong for each other!

Superchicy

I am so sorry, we went through this with my mom's father (cancer), and just last year with both of my dad's parents (stroke and my grandmother just pretty much gave up on life and her health deteriorated).  My dad's parents did at one point hire caregivers to come in and help out for some of the daily stuff, and my grandfather was a Mason and they also have a program for in-home care.  They all though ended up in nursing care and my mom's dad went to Hospice.  I will be sending prayers your way, these situations are so tough.

KYmama9286

I'm so sorry that you are in such a difficult place right now. I will be praying for you all and for Tim's father that he will be at peace and have relief from any pain and suffering. :-( Keep us updated with anything we can do to help.

sistrkate

I'm so sorry, Beth.  I hope the family is able to find strength in this journey.

MrsMoher

Best wishes, Beth!  I know how hard that can be first hand.  T&Ps.

IAM4UK

Prayers sent.

I think the best thing you can do is just be an ear to hear and a shoulder to cry on. Sometimes no words are better than the wrong words.

Take care!

KYMelissa06

I'm so sorry Beth.  I can't offer any advice on how to be a strong person.  Brian's grandma died a few weeks ago and I was sobbing.  I'm pretty sure he comforted me far more than I comforted him. 

You on the other hand, are a very strong person.  I know that you and Tim will get through this and I'm praying for your family.  I hope that he goes peacefully and does not have to suffer.  Lean on each other during the ups and downs that will come through this.  

As always, I'm here if you need me. 

Megs&Nick

I'm so sorry, Beth.  It is never easy to watch a loved one deteriorate, especially a parent.  Big hugs to you and your family.

When we called hospice in for my Mom, they gave her several weeks as well.  In fact, I flew home just for the weekend to visit but ended up staying indefinitely because things were declining so rapidly.  It was very hard to wait for something to happen, knowing that the "something" we were waiting for was her to pass.

Please let us know if there is anything you guys need during this time.  I'll keep you in my prayers for a peaceful passing and strength for everyone involved.

doodlebug914

I am so sorry Beth.  Watching cancer take over is so incredibly difficult.  We found out my Aunt Sheila, my mom's sister, had stage IV renal cancer less than a month before she passed away.  She is also who we honored when we made the shirt for Max's picture video   We had around the clock Hospice care at her home.  They were absolutely incredible.  Regardless of if you do Hospice in home or inpatient Hospice, they are a wonderful organization who is not only there to provide for the patient, but to support their family as well.  It is not the same by far as being in a regular nursing facility (and they have far improved as well).  I will be praying for you all.