Probably stressing over this for nothing..

gina000

We are in the process of updating our house, new carpets, paint, hardwoods, furniture etc. We just bought new sofa and chair for the livingroom, the next step is hardwoods.  My BIL replaces hardwood floors for a living so we are going to fly him up from Colorado to help hubby do the floors.  Sounds great.  Now SIL wants to come and they want to make a visit out of it.  (Over Memorial Day weekend, which we kind of already said we would go camping with my parents.) Our livingroom touches on every part of the rest of the house, our room, bathroom, DS room.  I was ok with it when it was just BIL coming to help with the floors but now with SIL coming and making it into the visit has me a bit stressed out.  I don't see how you can have a visit when the entire house will be torn up.  (We will stay in our trailer and BIL would stay upstairs.) Hubby thinks I am stressing over it to much and that they just want to see us and meet DS and they don't care if the house is torn up.  I get that, but I don't think you can really visit when the guys are working all day long.      Maybe I am just stressed out over all the other changes we are making...

RobynK

Well, at least you won't have to plan anything to do since the guys will be working so hard? 

JaimeCH

I totally see where you are coming from. When it was just BIL, your hubby would be responsible for keeping him busy, and it would be a trip focused on getting the floors done. Adding his wife requires that you are more involved, and there will be a little entertaining to do. If you like SIL, this should be a breeze, but if you don't really know her or get annoyed with her it would be stressful. Don't worry about the house part, as she will understand coming into the situation and she will share a room with BIL. I don't think that you really have a choice though when it comes to her tagging along. BIL is doing the work for you, so I would think barring his wife from coming would come off a little rude.

Seattle_JiLLn

When you refinish hardwood floors you have to move out for a week while the coating dries... can your BIL actually stay there?

 

And I say that's a bad time to have house guests personally.  But if it's just SIL and not some other kids you have to deal with, then it's her own damn fault for coming if it's not fun.  I would let her come.   

Mama_v2.0

I would just tell DH...fine than you are in charge of meals for yourself and the 2 house guests. You can't be in charge of keeping a toddler out of trouble and fixing the meals/clean-up.  (Then just buy a bunch of paper plates & plastic utensils so they can order pizza and crap like that). 

gina000

SIL is pretty easy going and understands the house will be a mess and this will be a very causal visit.  The guys are ripping out the floors and putitng a new one down so there won't be any smell.  Just a huge mess of dust etc.    Thanks for making me feel less crazy