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anyone seeing a therapist for IF?

Mrs.McIrishMrs.McIrish member
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I bit the bullet and made an appointment. I'm hoping it will help me with processing the constant disappointment and sadness and how to learn to not let it take over my entire life. I've never been to one before so I'm not sure what to expect.  I've been reading some ladies' past blogs about infertility and it just really hit me how VERY LONG this entire process can take even with a good ending of a birth(don't get me started on unsucessful ventures).  I know I can't continue the way I've been dealing(or not dealing) with this for the long haul.

TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
DE IVF #3 1/14  ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d

DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!

K & K born 11/21/14 at 38wks 4 days

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SAIF/PAIF Welcome


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Re: anyone seeing a therapist for IF?

  • CheezeFaceCheezeFace member

    I've never done it but I most certainly have given it some serious thought.  Good luck to you...I think it would be really helpful.  Keep us posted if this is something that is helping you through this process.

    Also, *hug*.

     

     

    ~Married 11/08~
    ~TTC since 01/09~
    ~SA & B/W - 06/09 - Normal~
    ~Encouraged by OB to "just keep trying" 06/09 - 06/10 (oh, the wasted time)~
    ~HSG - 08/10 - Clear/Normal~
    ~Lapo - 01/11 - Normal~
    ~Clomid 50mg, Trigger shot, Prometrium - 01/11, 02/11, 03/11~
    ~BFN - 02/11~
    ~IUI #1 03/15/11~
    BFP 3/28/2011
    Diagnosed with GD at 28 weeks. Controlled through diet and exercise. No insulin.
    Diagnosed with Cholestasis of pregnancy @ 36 weeks.
    Delivered via C-section @ 36 weeks on 11/9/11.

    TTC#2 for a few months naturally (ha!)
    ~IUI#1, Clomid, Trigger,  10/13 - BFN
    ~IUI#2, Femera, Ovidrel, 11/13




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  • chicagogirl10chicagogirl10

    I went to a psychologist associated with my REI clinic when I was having my IUI's, and she was tremendously helpful.  In fact, I'm calling today for another appointment.  She is intimately aware of the struggles associated with infertility, as well as the treatments, and I can't say enough good things about my experience.  If your clinic has someone they recommend, I'd go with them.

     In the past, I called my EAP through work to try to find a therapist who I could speak to about work anxiety and stress, but they just gave me a laundry list of people who were in-network, which I didn't find helpful.  In fact, it created more stress because I had no idea where to start!

     Good luck.  Wish both of you the best, and sending hugs your way.

     

    Unexplained infertility. TTC 2 1/2 years. 2009: natural chemical pregnancy 2010: IUI x 3 = BFN. 3/2011: IVF #1 = BFP. Loss at 6 weeks. 7/2011: IVF #2 = BFP. Beta #1: 107 Beta #2: 371 7/26 ultrasound: saw heartbeat! Our beautiful baby boy born via surprise c-section 3.16.12!
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  • IHeartHypochondriacsIHeartHypochondriacs
    I have considered it.... hoping to get my husband on board.
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  • lhcooperlhcooper member
    I have had a lot of therapy over the years and I highly recommend it in general--if you find a therapist you like.  The one I'm seeing right now just happens to specialize in women's fertility issues.  I only see her about 1x/month (which I have tried to schedule around my IUI results) and it is really, really helpful.  I don't think there's anything particular to "expect"--it's just a place to vent, kind of like this board, but with someone who's professionally trained to deal with it rather than a community of those going through it.  It was with the therapist, for example, that I worked out my massive disappointment about the failure of IUI #1 in particular.
    me - 41 (dx: DOR); DH - 53 (no problems); 7/18/09 - married!; 8/4/09 - BFP on first (real)try; 9/14/09 - missed m/c; 9/15/09 - d&c; 11/09 - 3/10 - 4 natural cycles = BFN; 4/10 - dx hyperthyroidism caused by Graves' disease; 6/10 - thyroidectomy; 7/10 - 12/10 - 1 natural and 5 medicated IUI cycles = BFN; 1/11 - new RE; dx low ovarian reserve (AMH .42; 1/26/11 -- BFP (ectopic) from IUI #6; methotrexate 2/10/11; 6/2/11 - IVF #1 = BFN; 9/12/11 - prescreening for DE; 9/15/11 - IUI #7 (unmedicated)= BFN; 11/8 - begin DE cycle (shared risk program); 12/5 - ER (5 eggs/4 mature/3 fertilized/2 left by day 5) 12/10 - ET of one 1BB blast (expanded, "fair" quality), none to freeze; 12/22 - totally shocked by +hpt; beta #1 = 413; #2 = 3952 2/14 - CVS reveals a healthy baby girl! EDD: 8/27/12 DD born 8/31/12, 10 lbs 10 oz and perfect in every way. 
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  • jb2rnjb2rn member

    I haven't, but I would if we were staying here a bit longer. I also find myself letting this take over my life (mentally) and don't know how I am going to live this way for years potentially.

    Have you looked into any RESOLVE support groups? I was checking out my local chapter online and see they meet once a week. I was going to email the person in charge and ask her what it is like.

     

    b/w=FSH 15.6, AMH 0.4 surprise natural BFP on 3/12/11
    DS born via unplanned C-section at 40w6d

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  • MelleTXMelleTX member

    I have considered it. Especially after this latest dissappointment.

    My ister saw a grief counselor after her second miscarriage. She said it really made a difference and  helped her get through it.

    Single Mother by Choice. Life didn't work out the way I planned so I did it on my own. IUI #s 1-3, unmedicated = BFN, IUI #s 4-6, 50mg Clomid, Ovidrel = BFN IVF #1: 23R, 20M, 17F. 5 day transfer 2 blasts. 2 Snowbabies BFP 6dp5dt, Beta #1 7dp5dt = 58, Beta #2 9dp5dt = 114, Beta #3 10dp5dt = 187 1st Ultrasound = 5/3, not much to see yet. 2nd Ultrasound = 5/17, TWINS!!! Hospital Bed Rest at 32 weeks due to pre-ecclampsia and severe edema. Audrey Grace, 5lbs9oz, & Lydia Louise, 6lbs, born via emergency c-section on 12/6/12 at 36w1d My IVF Journey
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  • Mrs.McIrishMrs.McIrish member
    imagejb2rn:

    I haven't, but I would if we were staying here a bit longer. I also find myself letting this take over my life (mentally) and don't know how I am going to live this way for years potentially.

    Have you looked into any RESOLVE support groups? I was checking out my local chapter online and see they meet once a week. I was going to email the person in charge and ask her what it is like.

     

    I checked out their website at the suggestion of an acquaintance who has been through this. There is no RI chapter and I didn't want to travel up to Waltham. Laziness basically.

    TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
    DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
    5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
    OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
    DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
    DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
    CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
    DE IVF #3 1/14  ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d

    DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
    First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!

    K & K born 11/21/14 at 38wks 4 days

    imageimage

    SAIF/PAIF Welcome


    http://waitingforraintostop.wordpress.com

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  • KZ2010KZ2010
    I saw a "life coach" for quite a while after my divorce and found it to be incredibly helpful.  I also dated a psychologist for three years and refer MANY patients for psychotherapy, so I believe in it and recommend it highly. 
    m/c at 6 wks 2002
    Endometriosis, s/p lap 2009
    Behcet's disease, s/p partial vulvectomy 2010
    Started bromocriptine to lower prolactin level 2010
    Clear HSG 11/2010 :)
    DH morphology = 4, rest of SA looked good 01/2011
    02/2011 First Clomid 50mg cycle
    BFP 03/02/2011
    No heartbeat at 10w5d 04/18/2011; D&C 04/23/2011
    07/2011 Second Clomid 50mg cycle, BFN
    08/2011 Third Clomid 50mg cycle, BFN
    10/2011 First Clomid 100mg cycle with Ovidrel trigger = BFN
    11/2011 Second Clomid 100mg cycle with Ovidrel trigger = BFN
    12/2011 Third Clomid 100mg cycle with Ovidrel trigger = BFFN
    01/2012 Fourth Clomid 100mg cycle with Ovidrel trigger = ?
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  • SeaBlue73SeaBlue73 member

    I've been going to personal sessions & couples sessions.  They have  r-e-a-l-l-y helped me process all of my feelings, as well given me support to better communicate with my DH.  Although my friends & family have all tried to support me & DH, none of them have gone through miscarriages or lengthy TTC processes. 

    I definitely recommend finding someone you're comfortable talking with.  You deserve all the support that you need during this trying process!

    Best wishes!

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