C&P from 12-24

itskacie

https://www.thedaily.com/page/2011/02/26/030511-opinions-column-breastfeeding-valenti-1-2/

 

I agree that things have changed! When some of us were younger our moms were given a hard time for BF'ing.. now it is def the other way around! 

FWIW i BF'd Cam as long as I could but I personally think that formula was WAY easier!

iHeartHimMore

Agreed.

"It took me a long time to realize that what Layla needed more than breast milk was a mother who wasn?t exhausted and stewing in shame."

I think this is the most important point.  You need to do whatever it is you need to do to be the best mother you can be.  I was only able to BF until 3 months.  Despite fenugreek, mother's milk tea, pumping, lactation cookies, etc, etc, I just never produced enough.  It was difficult but once I accepted it and made the switch I was able to be a much better mother to Lila.  Me being stressed and upset didn't do any of us any good.

iheartstuart

iHeartHimMore:

Agreed.

"It took me a long time to realize that what Layla needed more than breast milk was a mother who wasn?t exhausted and stewing in shame."

I think this is the most important point.  You need to do whatever it is you need to do to be the best mother you can be.  I was only able to BF until 3 months.  Despite fenugreek, mother's milk tea, pumping, lactation cookies, etc, etc, I just never produced enough.  It was difficult but once I accepted it and made the switch I was able to be a much better mother to Lila.  Me being stressed and upset didn't do any of us any good.

ITA 

KNemo

iHeartHimMore:

Agreed.

"It took me a long time to realize that what Layla needed more than breast milk was a mother who wasn?t exhausted and stewing in shame."

I think this is the most important point.  You need to do whatever it is you need to do to be the best mother you can be.  I was only able to BF until 3 months.  Despite fenugreek, mother's milk tea, pumping, lactation cookies, etc, etc, I just never produced enough.  It was difficult but once I accepted it and made the switch I was able to be a much better mother to Lila.  Me being stressed and upset didn't do any of us any good.

I was coming in here to quote this exact same sentence. I was able to BF for 13.5 months, but it was not easy, and I had a lot of support.

We need to stop judging other mothers for the choices they make regarding their families. All of us are doing the best we can! I would never, ever look down on a mom for FF, and I hope no one would look down on me for the choices I have made regarding my child. As long as that baby is being fed, then the method is fine by me!

We also need to let go of our mommy guilt (easier said than done) because all it does is make what should be an easy decision harder, and it wastes a lot of time.

mishquiche

KNemo:

We need to stop judging other mothers for the choices they make regarding their families. All of us are doing the best we can!

We also need to let go of our mommy guilt (easier said than done) because all it does is make what should be an easy decision harder, and it wastes a lot of time.

Very well said, and I completely agree.

Great article.

*Bloom2be*

Great article!! I also wasn't able to BF exclusively for long (only 3 weeks before adding formula) and only could continue to BF till about 5 1/2 months before it became more stress than anything so I completely switched to FF and I felt SO much guilt and burden because of it.  I finally let go of that guilt and realized I did the best I could and that's all a mom can do!