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Patches08Patches08 member
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Not to sound gloomy but this recently crossed my mind.

 

I want to talk to DD's Amom about this but I don't want her to think I'm totally off my rocker.  Please tell me if you think I am. 

 

What happens if something happens to them?  Who would be DD's legal guardian?  Would this couple be willing to uphold our openness agreement?  Do I have the right to ask them these questions?

 

TIA Ladies! 

BM to Kenzie 9/1/04 --- Married 1/22/09 --- Me 27 - DH 25 --- TTC our first since April 2010 Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers
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  • HannaBHannaB

    Of course you have the right to ask them those questions! I'm sure they'd be happy to answer them for you.

    We haven't picked guardians yet and won't till after we finalize, but one of the qualifications for whoever we pick is that they would have to honor our openness agreement.

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  • FinallyMrs.GFinallyMrs.G
    Great question!! This didn't even cross my mind when we discussed guardianship if somethin terrible were to happen to us, I will definitely have the talk with the people we chose about our agreement we have with birthmother.
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  • baze2baze2
    I would ask them! I am sure they have a plan. I am sure they have addressed this very issue
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  • MrsKolasaMrsKolasa

    I agree with PP's. I think it would be fine to ask them. It was one of our concerns when choosing a guardian for Luke. We actually talked to them about it, asked them to think about it and then let us know. They understood why it's important to us and for Luke and didn't have a problem with it. We also had it written in to our will. Just in case. I trust that they would honor it, but I also wanted to make sure that it was written in there specifically. If the openess agreement changes (if BP's wish to add visits, for example) then we would modify the will to state that.

    Crazy the things you have to think about sometimes.

     

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  • JermysgirlJermysgirl member
    That was something we thought about when we chose DD's guardians.  I think it's something you could definitely ask!
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  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member

    Most people write up wills when they have kids, and name a legal guardian.

    I read an article last year that adoptive families should think about who would be the legal guardians for their child(ren), and should be sure those legal guardians would uphold the adoption agreement that is in place. We are having that either written into our wills, or we have at the very least made sure the legal guardians will keep to the agreement.

    I would approach it more as something they should think about.

     

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