vent and panic

caitdana

Sophia has a horrible pedi office. They never know why you come to visit and when we reschedule a follow up visit they dont know what to mark down for a preemie weigh in with dr visit. They violate hippa by making you tell them in front of everyone at the check out counter what is wrong with your baby and why you need to come back.  They did not answer the calls from my insurance company or return them for that matter for her to get her Synergis on time and they will not take responsibility or appologize. The dr is odd but nice and has tried to make up for it but I dont trust his office staff and so now we are switching pedi's after Sophia finally gets her shot today.

Ella was supposed to come home last Friday and again on Monday. I called on Monday morning before I headed out the door to go get her and was told she had a spell and would not be able to leave. Tomorrow is our new going home day. We are t-24 hrs and I am all the sudden scared of her monitors and her oxygen and just dont feel ready. I was ready for Sophia but I dont feel like I am for Ella. To make matters worse I just dont physically see how I am going to ever be able to bring her back in a month for her open heart surgery.

And finally my in-laws are coming into town. FIL loves the girls but just has a loose mouth and says exactly what he is thinking all the time and I am nervous about him coming into town the 1st weekend we are all together. Also it will be the first time besides my immediate family holding and really interacting with the girls. Last time they were here the girls were still in isolettes. DH has been the mother hen and I have been laid back and I am interested to see if that will change when it is no longer my biological family!  Wish us luck and just keep us in your prayers!

luvdv8

First, you need a new pedi office. If you're not comfortable with them then they're the wrong office for you. Maybe ask some of the other moms at the hospital who their pedi is and how they feel about them.

Second- you will be fine with Ella coming home. Even moms with no preemie issues and one baby freak out about bringing their baby home, so it's normal. The hospital isn't going to let you leave until you're 100% comfortable with her oxygen and monitors and just because you've left the NICU doesn't mean they abandon you- you can call them any time. And you will be able to take her back for her surgery because while you can be scared and worried you know it's what's best for her.

Finally, before your ILs come discuss your concerns with your DH and let him know when you would like him to intervene (what you don't want said/done, etc). Let him deal with them- it will make it much, MUCH easier on you.

GL- how exciting for both your LOs to be home!