How do I let them know...

Athena0809

In my ethnicity, baby showers are a co-ed thing and I have some friends who recently have had baby showers and both DH and I have been invited/attended. Mine will be a traditional girls only. How do I make it clear their husbands are not invited? I felt bad when my friend's hubby said "let us know when your baby shower is we can't wait!" eek! how do we handle this one? p.s. knowing "my people" even if the invite says "Jane Doe" they interpret that as "Jane Doe, husband, mom, and heck, everyone else you want to bring!"

Angel0423

you could always call it a "ladies luncheon" or a "ladies tea" depnding on the style of the shower.  That should send a pretty big hint!

snshine23

Angel0423:

you could always call it a "ladies luncheon" or a "ladies tea" depnding on the style of the shower.  That should send a pretty big hint!

I was going to suggest the same thing.  Just use the word "ladies" in how you describe it.  Good luck!

Athena0809

snshine23:

Angel0423:

you could always call it a "ladies luncheon" or a "ladies tea" depnding on the style of the shower.  That should send a pretty big hint!

I was going to suggest the same thing.  Just use the word "ladies" in how you describe it.  Good luck!

 I like that! great idea! Thanks!

rhubarb123

I would suggest the same about using the words "ladies".  If the hubs of  your friends are too disappointed you could tell them you'll host a "meet the baby party" once your LO is born.

EastCoastBride

Great suggestions, but another thing too- as people verbally say stuff to you, SPEAK UP!  Tell them then "Oh, I should let you know that we're doing a ladies only shower.  I know it's not the norm, but thats what we've decided to do. I hope you understand!".

Just start to get it out there so they aren't surprised.

cozylittlecave

I agree with all of the above! I just wanted to add- if anyone does seem to be a little hurt or upset (although they shouldn't be), then maybe you could have your DH offer to get the guys together during the shower & just go out for drinks or dinner or something. I know when we have showers @ our church, all the husbands tend to go out for lunch together. Hopefully it isn't an issue, but if anyone tries to make it one, you could always have that as a possible solution.