Two showers...invitation question.

skidaisy

Hi ladies,

I would love your input, because my mom and I are stumped!!

My grandma-in-law wants to throw me a traditional shower.  My sister and mom want to throw a couples shower.

Do I invite people to both??  I am having trouble processing this through my tired tired brain.

TIA!

waterfall11

Invited different groups to each one. DH family to one, your family to the other and add friends to either one. i am having 3 showers, fortunately the guest lists work themselves out naturally because of location.

erinlovesdavid

I wouldn't invite people to more than one shower, personally.

abergale

By grandma in law I assume you mean DH's grandmother. If that is the case I would invite people from Dh's side of the family to shower.

The shower your sister and mom are throwing you can invite the people from your side of the family.

For your friends I would invite them to whatever shower you think they would enjoy, not both.  

CarlaAndJames

I agree, invite people to only one or the other. 

kmv68

NO!  Invite in-laws to your party from your grandma-in-law and your own family to the one from your mom and sister. (Friends to whichever one you want).

BUT, do NOT invite people to both, it is very rude!

BillysGrl27

The only person invited to both of my showers is my best friend because at the time my 1st shower invites went out, the shower is in NJ, she was not going to be able to attend my shower here in MD.  She expressed not wanting to miss my shower so my MIL graciously included her.

cvl105

I would do separate ones. Maybe leave family to the traditional one and friends to the co-ed one?

stinalee24

waterfall11:

Invited different groups to each one. DH family to one, your family to the other and add friends to either one. i am having 3 showers, fortunately the guest lists work themselves out naturally because of location.

This exactly. There are a few people you can invite to both - like my mom, his mom, and the baby's Godmother will be invited to both of mine, but otherwise the lists separate becuase of location/family so it worked out. If you think they'd be offended to not be invited to both, you can still invite them, but that way they're not feeling obligated to do 2 parties, 2 gifts, etc...