Adoption
Gotcha day?
Have any of you considered celebrating this?
Growing up we always just celebrated birthdays since we were adopted as infants (I was 10 days old my brother 3 days old) but a friend of mine since elementary and his bio sister were IA and were ages 3 and 1. They celebrated their birthdays but also their "Gotcha Day". Apparently after they flew home they went out to eat at an local italian restaurant and they each got a stuffed teddy bear, so each year their parents took them to the restaurant on that day and gave them a stuffed teddy bear. They are now 22 and 20 and come home from college on that day to continue tradition. I just always think it's a really cool story and figured some of you could relate!
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Re: Gotcha day?
This is something we plan on doing one day actually!
Funny enough, i just got chatting with a woman a couple of weeks ago. Come to find out, she was adopted. If i had to guess, she was probably in her 50's. She said to me.. "if i can give you any advice, it would be to celebrate not only your LO's birthday, but the day everything was finalized."
She told me that was the best part of growing up for her was that day.
incidently, I remember a while back I saw "gotcha day" was not the best term to use, but I don't know why. I've always thought it was cute. anyone got the dish on this?
I think it's a neat thing to celebrate. Hopefully someday we'll get one of those parties ;-)
We celebrate "gotcha day" as the day it was finalized in court. I know IA is different but thats what we do with our DA!
ETA: I like the term "gotcha day" so even if its not politically correct (didn't know it wasn't anwyays haha) I'm totally using it. I think its sweet!
"I have four children. Two are adopted. I forget which two. -Bob Constantine
"All for Love,' a Saviour prayed 'Abba Father have Your way. Though they know not what they do...Let the Cross draw men to You...."
Me too!
I didn't know it was incorrect :-S sorry if it offended anybody! That's just what they always called it :-)
I think it's just personal preference. For some families who've adopted older kids, I think "gotcha day" may just sound a little intense. I believe some people think it sounds like they are whisking the child away to safety or grabbing them and claiming them as their own, which is not an association they want to foster.
We hold M all the time and say "gotcha," but he's always worried about someone kidnapping him or the people he loves (he was told if he doesn't behave, the scary/bad people would come and steal him away), so we don't want him to associate his adoption with that on any level. I honestly don't think "gotcha day" is hurtful or offensive in any way, I think that for us, "adoption day" is just preferable.