What's one thing you would change about your L&D experience (can you tell I'm bored)

callthewind

I would have listened to my midwife when she said "tiny pushes and small pushes" in hopes that I wouldn't have had a tear. Otherwise, my labor and delivery went as I'd hoped (med-free, water birth).

chancellors mommy

I wouldnt of waited so long to get my epidural!

mamaregan

Im  late to this one but if I could change one thing it would be to have been able to have DD via vaginal delivery. I was in labor for 24 hours and pushed for almost 3 hours but ended up needing a c/s because she had her cord wrapped around her neck twice and around her leg. I know that there would have been no possible way for DD to make it out safely and that the c/s was the only option, but I feel that I was SO close to having my ideal delivery and ending up with a c/s was heartbreaking for me.

joesbride07

EVERYTHING!

i would have loved to not have gone 9 days late, so that i wasnt only 11 postpartum at my sisters wedding.  i would love to have not been induced (pitocin sucks)  i would have loved to not have puked or horrible back labor.  or not have any water come out when my water was broken by my dr.  i would have loved to have no melaconin inside, so that my hubby could have cut the cord (they wisked away the baby quickly to make sure he didnt swallow any). i would have loved to not have my son be sunny side up and my dr have to turn him while he is in the birth canal.  i would have loved to not have an episotomy.  hmmm there is probably more. 

BUT i have the most wonderful son so i would do it again if i had to

Under.the.Rose

I wish I didn't end up with a c-section and that I could've delivered Connor naturally. 

I also wish that DH could've stayed at the hospital with me and Connor the first night... I wasn't prepared for a hospital stay at all (I was wanting to go home right away because I have midwives and I hate hospitals) and since I had a c-section, I couldn't even pick up Connor when he was crying in his bassinet beside my bed. Traumatizing. That was sooo tough being alone that night relying on the nurses (who were super busy and would take forever to come help).  

kellijo1013

Heather813:

I would have had more time before he came. I got to the hospital at 3:57 and he was born at 4:07. I didn't have time to process what happened. Oh, and I didn't get any pictures because of it.

This exacty. I got to the hospital at 7:47 and my DD was born at 7:53.

sillypit

I didn't get a picture of me right before DD was delivered.  I had a scheduled c-section because she was breech and it was an awesome experience.  I will have a repeat c-section with any future babies.

HairStylinWifey

I wish I hadnt torn. Otherwise my L&D went exactly how I'd planned and hoped it would, and I plan to do everything the same way next time too.

ValentineBB

I would have not needlessly been in Pitocin/Foley Bulb hell for 18 hours trying to push out a 10 lb. baby through a cervix that was locked down like Ft. Knox.  Would've gone straight for the c/s.

Libby1978

Absolutely nothing!  I didn't want to be induced and I wasn't; I didn't want a repeat c-section and I didn't have one.  I was trying to go without an epi, but when a 9lb 2 oz baby boy was born I was glad I decided to get one at the last minute. 

My water broke at about 4 pm and Oliver was born at 7:47 pm.  So less than 4 hours of labor.  I literally ask for the epi (the nurse didn't bother to check my progress before I got it), they gave me the epi, the nurse checked me and it was time to push!  Awesome!  I pushed through 2 contractions and there he was.  The nurse, mid-wife and doctor said it was such a textbook labor and delivery! 

MamaLBF

Wow. Somthing that I think about weekly even though I've tried to move past.

I wish my BP didnt go up. I wish I didn't have pre-E. I wish I made it past 34 weeks. I wish I didn't have a c-section. I would have at least like to try to deliver him vaginally. I wish my placenta didn't stop giving him nutrients. I feel like his NICU stay was all due to my body being stupid. He have thrived since he was born. I wish I would have known to pack a bag sooner. I was in the hospital for 13 days and DH tried hard to bring me stuff I wanted but my clothes were never comfy. I would have loved to pick them out a head of time. Oddly, I wish I had a cell phone then. I was so lonely when little man was sleeping and DH left after day 7. I was there each night so sad. I wish i took him home after a short L&D stay. I wish that I went home with him. Yeah...I didn't mean to vent and just let it all out. At least its at the end of the thread so I don't bore you all. I just fight with my thoughts all the time about all this and feel so guilty I had him early.

AverysMom1118

Honestly, I wouldn't have changed a thing. 

McKenna04

I also would have had the lady who did the boys' newborn photos there for delivery!

AND I would have asked for an episiotomy  because I tore SO bad!! AHHH!!

ZoeyMarie

Had DS on a weekday so that our hospital room wasn't full of people all the time...

rdhmama79

DS wouldn't have been breech, and I would have had the chance to experience labour and delivery instead of needing a c-section.  Three months later, and I'm still disappointed that I missed out on the experience.

Kristi221

I would have asked for them to let me try a vaginal birth. We had scheduled a c/s on Wednesday, but when I woke up Sunday morning, my water broke. I had to wait for the c/s and while I was waiting, I was in full blown labor with serious contractions and back labor. I wasn't even checked for dilation because we were going straight to the c/s. DD was 9lbs 3oz, but we thought she'd be bigger because of my GD (thus, the scheduled c/s). I can't help but thing to myself "I could have done that!"

pepomntpat

MamaLBF:

Wow. Somthing that I think about weekly even though I've tried to move past.

I wish my BP didnt go up. I wish I didn't have pre-E. I wish I made it past 34 weeks. I wish I didn't have a c-section. I would have at least like to try to deliver him vaginally. I wish my placenta didn't stop giving him nutrients. I feel like his NICU stay was all due to my body being stupid. He have thrived since he was born. I wish I would have known to pack a bag sooner. I was in the hospital for 13 days and DH tried hard to bring me stuff I wanted but my clothes were never comfy. I would have loved to pick them out a head of time. Oddly, I wish I had a cell phone then. I was so lonely when little man was sleeping and DH left after day 7. I was there each night so sad. I wish i took him home after a short L&D stay. I wish that I went home with him. Yeah...I didn't mean to vent and just let it all out. At least its at the end of the thread so I don't bore you all. I just fight with my thoughts all the time about all this and feel so guilty I had him early.

{hugs}  Have you tried talking to someone to help you work through all of this?  I hope you can find someone who understands.  Don't try to move past it all alone.

Libby1978

MamaLBF:

Wow. Somthing that I think about weekly even though I've tried to move past.

I wish my BP didnt go up. I wish I didn't have pre-E. I wish I made it past 34 weeks. I wish I didn't have a c-section. I would have at least like to try to deliver him vaginally. I wish my placenta didn't stop giving him nutrients. I feel like his NICU stay was all due to my body being stupid. He have thrived since he was born. I wish I would have known to pack a bag sooner. I was in the hospital for 13 days and DH tried hard to bring me stuff I wanted but my clothes were never comfy. I would have loved to pick them out a head of time. Oddly, I wish I had a cell phone then. I was so lonely when little man was sleeping and DH left after day 7. I was there each night so sad. I wish i took him home after a short L&D stay. I wish that I went home with him. Yeah...I didn't mean to vent and just let it all out. At least its at the end of the thread so I don't bore you all. I just fight with my thoughts all the time about all this and feel so guilty I had him early.

 

You have nothing to feel guilty about!  You had no control over the events of LO's birth.  It sounds like you had a pretty rough time.  I hope all is well now!

katlor9

I wish I would have pushed harder and faster to get him out so a blood vessel wouldn't have ruptured in his brain.  Sorry, I just feel like it was my fault it happened.

I also wish I would have brought his baby book so they could have put his footprints in it.  I still haven't done it yet!

I wish I would have gotten a picture of baby and daddy that night.  I only have one of me and E and a family shot.

gemrae1225

I wish it was a smoother L & D.  Dominic was in the NICU for 10 days, on day 7 he was transfered by ambulance to a better children's hospital 90 miles away.  It was a horrible scary time and I'm so glad that we are through most of it.  He swallowed macconium (sp), had low blood sugar, then had bad reactions to both reg formula and soy, has laryngomalacia, and his valve didn't close off at birth.