Am I a Stage 5 Clinger??

MrsDrCook

My baby is now 11 days old and I know that during this time my hormones are raging and I'm a bit sleep deprived but I also feel intense anxiety when I have to go somewhere with her.  Also, when other people hold her I have this overwhelming feeling that I have to get her back let alone being in another room from her.  I totally thought I was going to be a laid back mom who was capable of taking it all in stride but lately I'm thinking about what a lunatic I'm turning into and I'm worried it won't get better. : ( Any reassurance would be helpful.

kpahl

I don't have the anxiety you have but I did always want her for myself.  I didn't like anyone else to hold her in the beginning nor be in a different room than her.  I even took the RnP into the shower so she was in the same room as me even if she was sleeping in it.  I never asked for help in the middle of the night with her diaper changes or getting me anything, I did it all and BF.  I didn't want any help.  My husband loved it, since he has to be up at 5am for work he could sleep through the night. 

I just left her for the first time last Friday for an hour with my mom then with my husband to go out and get dinner and drinks with a girlfriend.  It took me 7 weeks to get to the point of being ok without her.  I knew I had to get used to it, I go back to work this Thursday.

I think the older they get the easier you will feel with others and hopefully in public, it did for me.

Lucky_Dragonfly

I was the same way with DS. I hated it when ayoneother then me and MH held her for the first month or 2. I felt that no one could do it rght other then us. I didnt; really go anywhere for a while. It does get better and it also isn't so bad when you have your next baby, if youare going to have another one. We've taken DD out a bunch of times already. I'm not worried aobut germs because if she is going to get something she will most likely get it from DS who is in daycare.

mistyflame

I'm the exact same way.  Not only did I have anxiety if I had to take DS somewhere alone, but I also had extreme anxiety when DH went back to work after 3 weeks home with us.  It will pass.  I found the only way to get through it was to actually take DS out by myself.  Once I could see that I could do it, my anxiety lessened, and now seems to have gone away altogether. 

We went to our first big family function over the weekend and I thought I was going to go insane.  Everyone wanted to hold DS and spend time with him, and all I wanted was for him to be in my arms.  It was an extremely long evening, but it too passed and nothing bad happened to him.  So you are definitely not alone!

Oilers_Mama

This is my second baby so I thought this time would be so different but the other day we went on a day trip into Edmonton (about a 2 hour drive). DS slept the entire way but I felt really anxious that I hadnt held him in that long. Its a different feeling when we're at home and he's in his crib and I can check on him. DH laughed about it, but it was a really terrible feeling. Not to mention that I had never felt so nervous driving EVER in my life.

bethandjoe09

I didn't feel anxious, but I will say that the first time my MIL visited she held him for three hours.  By the end, I was sitting rightnexttoher on the couch.  I really wanted to take him back.  It gets easier, I think (for me, it really got easier when he hit a point when he didn't want to be put down - I think reverse psychology works on me).  If you're still feeling really anxious in a few weeks, and it's bothering you or making it hard to get things done, go ahead and talk to your doctor about it.