Shower Question

gidget724

Early on in my pregnancy, a co-worker mentioned throwing me a shower. It hasn't been brought up since then, but I'm not sure if she still wants to or not. I'm coming up with the guest list for another shower that one of my best friends is throwing for me, and I'm not sure if I should invite my co-workers, or if I should let them throw a shower and have a "friends" shower and a "co-worker" shower. The biggest problem that I am having is that I'm not sure if that co-worker still wants to, and I don't want to take it away from her if she does. How would you go about finding out if she wants to throw a shower? I'm afraid to ask, because I'm afraid I will sound rude or something...

ShandaB

Is there another coworker who could ask the one who mentioned throwing the shower?  You could find out that way and it won't seem rude.

cvl105

Hm...that is a toughie. I would maybe send her an email or text to confirm her address, that you're putting together a shower list for your best friend who is throwing you a shower and you want to make sure you have her address right! And then see if she comes back and says something about still wanting to throw you a shower.

erinlovesdavid

If she offered, I don't think it's rude at all to bring it up. If you don't say anything, she might think that you just don't want her to throw one. She may very well be waiting for YOU to bring it up, not wanting to pressure you. If the offer has been put on the table, I think it's just as much your place to mention it as it would be hers.

I would just be casual about it and say something like "Hey, are you still wanting to throw a shower for me? I know we haven't talked about it in a while, so I just wanted to confirm. If not, I'd like to invite you and some other co-workers to another shower that my girlfriend is throwing on XYZ date."

Shine2015

I am in a similar situation - a coworker kind of offered do something for my fellow coworkers because at the time, I had had someone else offer but had not heard of any planning yet.  Now that the planning has started I have not heard anything else about the coworkers only shower.  If coworker doesn't want to host one for me that's fine, I will just invite them to the other shower (my host is fine with that), but I don't want to invite them if coworker is hosting one too.  I think I am just going to say something to her like - My sister has asked me for a guest list and I don't want to forget anyone, would you mind helping me out?  Hopefully if she still plans on doing something, this will get her talking about it without me having to come right out and ask.