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Babies: 0 - 3 Months
tell me about your fear..
I am so afraid of something bad happening to my LO. I worry so much about him getting sick or someone falling while they are holding him or getting into a car accident while he is in the car. I even have bad dreams about being able to hear him crying somewhere and not being able to find him.
Anyone else worrying a lot??
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Re: tell me about your fear..
Yep. I fear that he likes my mom more than me, that i'm going to get t-boned at every intersection I cross, that hes just not going to wake up from a nap, that hes going to develop some sort of health problems, that im going to miss all his major milestones and his dad will see them all, that I wont be able to support him financially...
Prior to having a baby i NEVER worried about anything. Honestly.
I actually have scheduled an appointment to talk to a therapist about this. I think I've always had some kind of anxiety disorder, but having something that I care about THIS much has really made me crazy over it.
My fear, in the plainest way I can describe it, is that he will die. Yes, I do worry a little bit about the other "something bad" things that could happen, like illness or injury, but mostly, I imagine a thousand times a day a thousand different ways that he could be taken from me. I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop - like there must be some price to pay for me having everything I ever wanted.
I'm admitting this only so that you might feel a bit better about your feelings.
I have what I like to call an over creative imagination. Something triggers a thought and it just keeps building until I worry myself to death.
It has lead to me crying about the possibility of the out come... which is not healthy.... and I'll be seeing my OB about it next week. Even though I'm way tired I can't sleep because of it.
It's beyond worry and turned into anxiety.
Mostly I have fears of him being stolen or hurt by someone. Today I was waiting in the car with him for DH to come out of the pharmacy and i started imagining that someone was going to carjack me, throw me out of the car and take off with my baby. Our weird neighbour has been coming by alot to visit him. She is completely harmless (otherwise I wouldn't let her in our house) but she's a bit strange and she dotes on my son and was so excited for us to have this baby and I have these scary thoughts about her trying to steal him.
This is a lot of how my anxiety works. I didn't even realize it wasn't normal until I lost my sh!t while my mom (who used to be a mental health therapist) was visiting. She told me she needed me to call for help while she was still here so that she knew I did it.
I highly recommend that you reach out to your doc. You are not alone in those fears.
I have fears like what PP said about getting car-jacked while LO is inside, someone hurting LO, someone breaking into the house while LO is asleep and I am in the shower and them kidnapping LO..
..I also have fears about the future. I dont want DS to be a teenager, going through rebellious stages, hating his parents, skiping school, getting involved in the wrong crowd, etc., etc.
I just want him to be cuddly and sweet forever!!
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