Rant about your "helpers"

missfire

Here's mine -- my MIL is here to "help" until Wednesday. Apparently, that means she will hold the babies (until her "arm goes to sleep", that is) and do their laundry if needed. But DH asked her if she would cook dinner tonight and she said she doesn't cook anymore, but we could order take-out. And then when we were leaving to take the twins to a doctor appointment this afternoon, she asked if there was anything she could do while we were gone. DH said we would love some help cleaning up, if she would be willing to vaccuum or clean the downstairs bathroom -- she laughed and said "Don't worry, I have a book to read - I don't need to clean your house to entertain myself." Then when we got home, she asked DH to microwave her something for lunch!

honkytonk_kid

Why does she even ask? People are so weird.

My rant- DH will "help" by cuddling/playing with LO while I eat/shower/etc IF everything he could possibly need is perfectly lined up and within his reach- snack, drink, remote, blanket, boppy, paci, another paci for when he drops the first one, towel for spit up, and on and on and on... just GET UP and get it yourself! I do it all day!

lilmommalcw

haha that is awful! I bet she is just super excited to be around the baby & really can't resist him over cleaning

My worst thing was when my mom asked my close friends & sons gma to make us dinner different nights of the week. My sons gma got annoyed & said "I am doing all their laundry & bringing them groceries, if they need dinner I will bring them a pizza!". This made my mother and her start WW2 & it hasn't stopped yet.

Another one of my girlfriends brought me homemade meatloaf and I asked if it was supposed to be red she said "yes, it's the sauce". So we started to eat it but then realized it wasn't the sauce, the hamburger was super raw! GAG!. 

Hyfagal

Ass.

This morning I called H's grandparents to let them know I was there with Ellie and instead of answering the phone his grandfather just came out on the porch and started waving his arms over his head screaming "Honey! Honey! I'm out here!" the said "It's with it's grandpa now so mom don't worry." I don't know why he insists on being so akward. She has a name and he knows it and you can't tell me walking out on the porch and flapping like a chicken was easier than answering the phone.

taggiecb

My helpers will take one of the kids for about the time I am stuck in a chair feeding the baby, and bring him back about the time I am starting supper, or housecleaning.  Being that my kids are older, I really don't need them to be gone when I am feeding a baby.  A few hours to clean the house would be great.

starsmaycollide

Ugh, I am sorry you are dealing with that. Why even ask if she doesn't actually want to help?!

My mom made me NUTS when she was here.  She hovered constantly, made unhelpful suggestions, followed me around, and drove me nuts trying to do things I didn't want or ask her to. It was like she was OCD.

 I thought she would never leave. She then announced she was leaving a day later than planned, and I thought I might tear my hair out. Then on that day, she still didn't leave when she said she would because she wanted to wait around all afternoon for DS to wake up from a long nap.

 

MrsHollywood1023

My MIL came to "help" when DD was 2 weeks old.  All she did was sit in the same exact spot on the couch all week, wake E up while she was sleeping so they could "talk", and read a book.  Even after DH and I asked to stop waking E up from her naps, she continued to do so.  We explained to her that she was to young to keep awake all day so she would STTN and all she was doing was making E extremely grumpy...guess who got to stay up all night, every night that week, ME!  She said she was coming down to help clean, and I ended up cleaning up her messes all week, making myself very very sore.  When I got to sore and had to stop and sit or lay down, she would ask me to turn off the tv because she wanted to read and I "shouldn't waste time watching tv so much".  Excuse me but my vagina is being completely held together by a crap ton of stitches right now!  Rant over

taggiecb

laceyjean1:

My helpers will take one of the kids for about the time I am stuck in a chair feeding the baby, and bring him back about the time I am starting supper, or housecleaning.  Being that my kids are older, I really don't need them to be gone when I am feeding a baby.  A few hours to clean the house would be great.

I really don't care if I get any outside "help".  What annoys me is that they want me to be so greatful to them because they were such a big help, and then can't understand why I can't/ didn't get anything done in that special time that they made my child disappear for 20 minutes.

starsmaycollide

Hyfagal:

Ass.

This morning I called H's grandparents to let them know I was there with Ellie and instead of answering the phone his grandfather just came out on the porch and started waving his arms over his head screaming "Honey! Honey! I'm out here!" the said "It's with it's grandpa now so mom don't worry." I don't know why he insists on being so akward. She has a name and he knows it and you can't tell me walking out on the porch and flapping like a chicken was easier than answering the phone.

He called her "it", really?!  It makes me crazy that my mom constantly refers to DS as "the boy" instead of his name.  She even did it on FB. I almost deleted her comment...lol.  Is it so hard to use names?!

momranda

I was video taping my sons reaction to this singing dog he has, and while recording my mom feels to need to say as loud as possible "He's shivering Miranda, put some clothes on him, what the hell is wrong with you?" seriously mom? Hes in a diaper and a onsie, the house is 72 degrees, and hes not even shivering, but thanks for ruining that moment. 

She was also so "helpful" with putting him to sleep at 6 pm, so he would be up until 1 am!

Hyfagal

momranda:

I was video taping my sons reaction to this singing dog he has, and while recording my mom feels to need to say as loud as possible "He's shivering Miranda, put some clothes on him, what the hell is wrong with you?" seriously mom? Hes in a diaper and a onsie, the house is 72 degrees, and hes not even shivering, but thanks for ruining that moment. 

She was also so "helpful" with putting him to sleep at 6 pm, so he would be up until 1 am!

OMG I'm totally LOLing at this. Beautiful baby face watching a dog then this crazy gma yelling in the background.

WannaBeCrunchyMama

honkytonk_kid:

Why does she even ask? People are so weird.

My rant- DH will "help" by cuddling/playing with LO while I eat/shower/etc IF everything he could possibly need is perfectly lined up and within his reach- snack, drink, remote, blanket, boppy, paci, another paci for when he drops the first one, towel for spit up, and on and on and on... just GET UP and get it yourself! I do it all day!

I feel ya.

Except it also has to be a convenient time for HIM. Oh my dearest love. Babies are NOT convenient!

Mama_SAS

My mom always pretends that she can't figure out all this "new-fangled" baby stuff. DS is 4 and we've been through this once before and now it's starting all over again. I'm seriously having flashbacks. 

Anyway, she came over to babysit last night and I was showing her the cloth diapers, which are the exact same ones that we used for DS, and she said "I don't know how to use those things!!" I said, "Mom, it's not rocket science; it's a diaper. I think you know how to work snaps by now." She acted like it was a huge ordeal. The crazy thing is that when I was a baby in the 70's she used old school CDs with pins and covers and she acts like pocket diapers are confusing!

hollerjeepgirl

I don't understand why my parents think I'm being b*tchy because of "hormones" or being tired...No, it's because you're being annoying! They can't take any blame for me griping at them