Missing so much!!

stacey86

Im having a really hard time being back to work. I had to come back to work when LO was 5 weeks old due to DH health problems (and now he is unable to work) so Im working my butt off!! Im really missing DD sooo much!!! Anyone else feel like they are on a roller coaster ride when leaving LO to go to work?

MissSunny42

I can't relate, but I am so sorry! 5 weeks maternity leave is nothing! You are still feeling the effects of the hormones and you LO is still so young. I would struggle to get through the day, I can't imagine how you can focus on work! Good luck, I am sure it will get easier. Sorry about your DH

mishu917

I had to go back at 6 weeks and was beyond depressed about it. My doc extended my short term disability and now I still get my full pay. DH is still working on his doctorate so he is at school a lot and I carry most of the finances...so it was very important for us to still have some money coming in. I totally understand how you feel, my doctor told me no woman should have to go back before 3 months. But every situation differs and here you are working after 5 weeks. Could you work longer days but less days (flex time)? Or do you go home to visit LO during lunch breaks? It sounds like your DH is taking care of LO, so that's one thing you don't have to worry about! Good luck and try to take it easy, it's tough for working moms to re-adjust after such short time!

 

TheDreamingTree

awe sorry about your DH.

I went back to work at 6 weeks when my son was a baby, and I cried everyday! So I know how you feel! 

Just try to focus on quality versus quantity when it comes to spending time with your LO. I am sure you are already doing this, but try to focus on making the most out of every moment you are with LO. 

flhokie

I'm not there yet, but I feel for you! I'm not looking forward to that roller coaster. My DH can't work due to health issues so I'll be going back full time soon too. Luckily, he can care for DD so I don't have to worry about daycare, but it will still be difficult to leave her. My company originally wanted me to come back at 4 weeks (working from home for 2 weeks), but I used my STD and am out 8 weeks (c-section--otherwise it would have been 6). With my job I'll have to travel regularly--most likely a 3 night trip every week after I'm back 1 week (I used to do 2 trips every week, but I've gotten them to agree to cap me at 1). That's the part I'm especially dreading.

 One thing we're looking into is ways for me to see DD when I'm away... a way to view her in her crib from a webcam, skype (really only for when I'm traveling) and/or a smartphone for DH so that he can send pics and video and use skype where ever they are. I used to know someone who had a way to view their child's nursery via a website and it seemed to help when they went back to work. 

 Good luck!! You are doing what you need to for DD.  

Briterfly426

Right there with you! This is my second week back at work and I still cry every morning on the drive.  DH is out on disability for shoulder surgery and is staying home with DD, and I am so jealous.  My mama has been at the house this and last week to help DH (he can't drive or lift more than DD weight), and DD has been smiling more at her than me.  It breaks my heart that I might miss something she does.  When I step away to pump is when I get sad during the day, but I call home and even just hearing her grunting makes me feel a little closer to her.  It's not easy, I come home daily wishing I could be a SAHM, but remind myself that working is what's best for our family and that she is in great hands!

Good Luck to all you working mama's getting ready to leave your LO!