why :(

heysupnatalie

why why why am i watching "the business of being born" this far along in my pregnancy

it's made me think that everything i thought i  knew so far was wrong.

next baby i am pretty sure I will be going for a MW. i wanted to really to begin with but my insurance was being ridiculous and i couldn't really go that route. i know that by the time the next baby comes i will NOT have this stupid insurance anymore because after i have my LO i am definitely leaving my job. i can't do it anymore. i shouldn't even be there now but i'm still here because i need the insurance while i have the baby.

 

has anyone else seen this movie? it's streaming on netflix and some people told me to watch it and i put it off until now. if you have seen this movie what were your thoughts on it?

LeahRW

My husband and I watched it a few weeks ago, and I thought it was pretty interesting.  It brought up some good points to consider, but I wouldn't automatically believe everything it says - the makers have their own prejudices and views to push, just like the makers of any documentary.  It's thought-provoking, but not unbiased (and I'm saying this as someone who is leaning toward a natural birth anyway).  I wouldn't let it make you worry about what you'd been planning on before - just do your research and make your own decisions.

LiluBee

I think the best thing about it watching it now as at least you will have that much more information to go on...not sure what you thought before you saw it but you have more control over your birth than a lot of providers lead you to believe.  Figure out what's important to you and have some discussions...but make sure you know why they are important to you, not just because the movie said so, kwim?

heysupnatalie

LiluBee:

I think the best thing about it watching it now as at least you will have that much more information to go on...not sure what you thought before you saw it but you have more control over your birth than a lot of providers lead you to believe.  Figure out what's important to you and have some discussions...but make sure you know why they are important to you, not just because the movie said so, kwim?

 

all i know for sure is if they try and poke me with pitocin  i will f*cking choke a b*tch. i have NO interest in being induced, and never have but after really seeing what the drug does, i do NOT want that. i'll trust my doctor but if they try and pull a fast one on me, i will raise hell.

EJChapman123

LeahRW:

My husband and I watched it a few weeks ago, and I thought it was pretty interesting.  It brought up some good points to consider, but I wouldn't automatically believe everything it says - the makers have their own prejudices and views to push, just like the makers of any documentary.  It's thought-provoking, but not unbiased (and I'm saying this as someone who is leaning toward a natural birth anyway).  I wouldn't let it make you worry about what you'd been planning on before - just do your research and make your own decisions.

This.  Exactly.  Documentaries are as politically biased as cable news.  Not that there isn't truth to them, but you can't just accept it at face value.

JNBrickey

I really thought it wasn't as biased as people say it was.  Obviously it has an agenda they're pushing - but I think they're pushing it from a place where they really want to help women.  I like their book too, though.  It very clearly states the same things don't work for every woman.

 And no one acted like Abby Epstein was a failure of a woman for going into early labor and ending up in the hospital with a c-section.  Her midwife encouraged her to go to the hospital, and it was obviously the best decision for her.  I think it's great that someone wanted to shed a light on how truly educated and professional midwives are. 

Ten years ago who would've thought Ricki Lake would have a following?

I guess I'm biased though because I agree with a lot of what they have to say, so I see it in a better light than those who don't.  The c-section rate in the US truly is alarmingly high.

smilingjb

We watched this too early in my pregnancy.  We are still going to a hospital, but the birthing plan will be in play.  My DH will be my biggest advocate during that time and he knows why.

HTH

LiluBee

heysupnatalie:

LiluBee:

I think the best thing about it watching it now as at least you will have that much more information to go on...not sure what you thought before you saw it but you have more control over your birth than a lot of providers lead you to believe.  Figure out what's important to you and have some discussions...but make sure you know why they are important to you, not just because the movie said so, kwim?

 

all i know for sure is if they try and poke me with pitocin  i will f*cking choke a b*tch. i have NO interest in being induced, and never have but after really seeing what the drug does, i do NOT want that. i'll trust my doctor but if they try and pull a fast one on me, i will raise hell.

 

Well that's a discussion to have with the OB. Ask what you can do to avoid pitocin.  A pitocin induced labor certainly isn't favorable but sometimes labor stalls and they might find it necessary to do a low dose to try and start things again.  If you'd rather try other techniques in that case, it's good to get that out in the open.

beckynick04

DH and I just watched this last night and it solidified so many things I've been wanting and really opened his eyes about a number of interventions.  He went from thinking I should get an epidural at admission because he doesn't want to see me in pain to being open to discussing homebirth, even though it's not an option for us.

Every documentary and movie is biased toward what they want to show.  It's why they made the movie the way they did.  How you see it, however, is also based on your worldview and experiences.  I tended to agree with most of the things in the movie and thought it was empowering to watch.

I also had a c/s with ds and I was not happy with how things turned out.  I do think that one intervention led to another which led, ultimately, to the inability to breastfeed.  It was not the experience I wanted and I am adamant that I want to avoid another c/s at all costs (unless, of course, my life or the baby's life is in danger).

So, my past experience colors the lens through which I see it.  kwim?

ETA:  And OP, I think you can still have the birth that you want.  Just educate yourself and your DH so that you are confident and secure in the process, the policies of your hospital and OB and are in agreement about what you want before you get there.  Not that you can't change your mind, but it's good to give it alot of thought beforehand.  I wish I would have the first time and feel much more strongly about so many things the second time around.  Good luck!

MiraclePending

The documentary had some useful information; however, a lot of the information is horribly misleading. I've found the following information written by a retired obstetrician extremely helpful in seeing the "other side" of things. Both parties are very extreme, and I agree as well as disagree with bits and pieces from both. I'm all for evidence based medicine, but I don't agree with unnecessary intervention.

Here's the link:

https://skepticalob.blogspot.com/2010/11/ten-things-you-shouldnt-say-to-dr-amy.html

 

mrsgoodweather

heysupnatalie:

LiluBee:

I think the best thing about it watching it now as at least you will have that much more information to go on...not sure what you thought before you saw it but you have more control over your birth than a lot of providers lead you to believe.  Figure out what's important to you and have some discussions...but make sure you know why they are important to you, not just because the movie said so, kwim?

 

all i know for sure is if they try and poke me with pitocin  i will f*cking choke a b*tch. i have NO interest in being induced, and never have but after really seeing what the drug does, i do NOT want that. i'll trust my doctor but if they try and pull a fast one on me, i will raise hell.

  LMAO, try to have a birth plan talk with your dr to make sure you are all on the right page about what you want to happen.