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Attachment Parenting
FFS just when I think I know what's going on
Ex-SO called to tell me he's going to a counseling session tomorrow to try to figure out what is going on with him. He's also cutting contact with the homewrecker for at least a week to do some re-thinking about the situation as it stands from the ground up, and re-evaluate if this is really the way he wants to go.
I am so staying out of it til he gets his shiit figured out.
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Re: FFS just when I think I know what's going on
He's only cutting contact with her for a week? No go.
I think that this is similar to loving an alcoholic. Sure, they can quit for a while, but after six months to a year, they're probably heading back to that bottle unless they've had some major breakthroughs. He ought to have to prove himself to you -- not a few months of faithfulness, but a full year of celibacy (YES), calling/talking every night/helping with DS on a schedule you agree on/etc.
Good advice from you both. Yeah, I am not getting involved back in that situation just yet AT ALL. He's got some serious proving of himself to do before I'm even ok with him being around C that much. If he continues to go to counseling, that's at least a start. And hopefully, the no contact thing stretches into much longer than a week.
The only reason I even bothered taking the call is because he was sending money for C and I needed to work that out. Otherwise, after this, it's gonna be mum's the word from me for a while. Maybe even longer than a month. I don't know. Til I feel right talking to him again.
The good news is that the counselor, who is male, is very nice, and seemed very willing to help us work through these things. I think that hearing things from an older man's educated perspective may make him think more than hearing all the advice in the world from others.
At any rate, like I said, I am staying OUT of it til he gets his crap together. No thank you, I think DS and I will stay right where we are for now.
Honestly, I don't see how a counseling session changes a thing. He left you for another girl & to top it off made it out like he didn't care about your LO, that this other girl was more important. He's said several times he's going to go to counseling, cut off contact, think it over again, blah blah. Even if he does all that, it doesn't change the fact that he's an irresponsible, immature a$$hole. He left you & your baby, & he's been a total douchnozzle this whole time.
Sorry to be so blunt, but I spent WAY too much time on a bad relationship in my 20s with this same sort of broken promises/complete irresponsibility BS. I wasted 4 1/2 years of my life with this guy & ruined myself financially over it. I know being a single mom isn't exactly a cake walk, but don't settle for this guy mama.
Best nickname EVER! Your X-SO is now PLD.
From this day forth, he shall now be referred to as PLD in all future rants/vents/general posts.
LOL!
Pepe Le Douche, indeed.
So sorry you're going through this, mama. You can come and vent here anytime.