AP with two kids

ashgus

 I have questions regarding AP practices with more that one child.  Forgive me for lacking in eloquence and for asking what is probably such a silly question to most...But I only thought I ever wanted one baby.  I feel so blessed by my family that I have now, and my husband originally wanted to wait a few years to have another baby, and by then I wanted to be finished with the baby phase...So we were pretty content with our decision to be one and done.  Well, tonight we had a serious heart to heart about having another.  My husband is super stoked on the idea and here I have been trying to put those feelings away (and I was doing a good job too!)...Well now I am nervous about parenting more than one.  With all of the attachment practices we will with our future baby, how am I going to keep my first born from feeling detached??  I know I have a lot of research to do, but I thought I would start here with some advice from hopefully other parents who have more than one and have been successful with this.  I don't want to make my babe grow up faster than he's ready for if he's going to suddenly have to share our bed with another, as well as having another one nursing all.day.long.....?  I hope this makes sense and I hope to receive some advice...Thanks in advance...

frklsbride

i have a 4yo and an 8mo and i feel like i'm starting to see the results of our AP practices with my older son.  he is still very attached, but is very confident exploring the world on his own a little more.  he doesn't want me to do everything with him anymore.  he likes to walk and run on his own.  he likes to play or look at books by himself sometimes and he LOVES being around other kids.  we are still using plenty of AP techniques with him, but APing a toddler/preschooler is way less intensive than a baby because of their budding independence as well as the confidence and security we've instilled in hiim as a baby