WWYD? Regarding some twit! (Long)

mamaregan

DH and I have been together for 9 years now and when we first got together he and I were both still very much into partying (well we were until we found out i was KU). In the first few months of us getting together, we went out, got smaaashed, he went to his friends, and I went to mine. The next morning I heard from a friend that this girl  (we will call her "He-Man, since she is totally jacked) was trying to hook up with DH all night (she stayed at his friends house as well), but DH was a good boy and didn't do anything with her.

Fastforward 9 years later. I run DH's social networks because he only really uses it for business contacts and he doesn't have the time/know-how. Well He-Man requested him on FB so I accepted (no biggie right, it was 9 years ago). Well now, EVERYTIME I sign onto his account she is trying to private chat with him (not knowing it is me). I usually just ignore it, but she just keeps on trying to talk.

Finally, last time I was on I responded and told her that it was me and she acted like she knew me and was saying how great of friends she was with DH. She is constantly commenting on our pics and saying what a "beautiful family" we have; but I just feel she is not sincere about it.

DH says she's a nice girl and just to ignore it, but I am a jealous person at heart and I just don't understand why HeMan won't just go away, we're married, we have a child, you're never going to get him!

Well I decided to delete her and she just keeps trying to friend request, I was always confrontational but have tried to be more mellow since DD. But this chick just irks me and I really want to tell her where to go!

WWYD? TIA!

LILBIT1221

I for one, would chokabitch.

OctoberBabyH

I would let it go. You know you have the option when someone requests you to say you do not know the person. That way they will not be able to friend request you. Or you can block her.

I think this is petty. I wouldn't go on my husband's FB acct. (He barely does.) If he says it is nothing, then trust him. Sorry, I don't mean to be rude or anything, but there are bigger things to worry about. This situation seems harmless.

uluvfranke

Being more mellow does not mean being stepped on.You do NOT have to be ok with it.If she means nothing and they were never really close,he will be just fine without her.

SuperThat1006

Honestly? I would probably just laugh it off, though I don't think there's anything wrong with her not being on his Facebook account.

CourtneyR2N

I think your DH should step up and send her a message basically saying that her constant attempts to contact him privately are inapropriate, that is why he deleted her and to please stop trying to contact him.

Rach7170

I would just keep ignoring her and tell your DH to do the same. She will hopefully get the picture eventually.

uluvfranke

My only question would be,why are you always on his account? I mean H has one and I really have been on it about twice because he can't figure out how to add new pics.

mamaregan

OctoberBabyH:

I would let it go. You know you have the option when someone requests you to say you do not know the person. That way they will not be able to friend request you. Or you can block her.

I think this is petty. I wouldn't go on my husband's FB acct. (He barely does.) If he says it is nothing, then trust him. Sorry, I don't mean to be rude or anything, but there are bigger things to worry about. This situation seems harmless.

 

I run all of his social networks because he keeps them mainly for business contacts. I am not a snoopy type of wife. I believe my husband and that is not the issue, I just don't get why she won't go away!

TexasLadyBug

You de-friended her, end it at that. If she does not get the msg then feel sorry for her but dont get yourself worked up. You might even be able to block her user name, but I have no idea how to do that. 

If running your husbands social network is causing you to get upset then he needs to run it himself or delete it. 

chach916

As long as your DH doesnt take issue with it, I'd block her and let it go. 

mamaregan

uluvfranke:

My only question would be,why are you always on his account? I mean H has one and I really have been on it about twice because he can't figure out how to add new pics.

 

DH has no idea how to use it so I "manage" it for him since he mainly keeps it for business relationships.

OctoberBabyH

mamaregan:

OctoberBabyH:

I would let it go. You know you have the option when someone requests you to say you do not know the person. That way they will not be able to friend request you. Or you can block her.

I think this is petty. I wouldn't go on my husband's FB acct. (He barely does.) If he says it is nothing, then trust him. Sorry, I don't mean to be rude or anything, but there are bigger things to worry about. This situation seems harmless.

 

I run all of his social networks because he keeps them mainly for business contacts. I am not a snoopy type of wife. I believe my husband and that is not the issue, I just don't get why she won't go away!

Then just don't go on chat. You can just do private messages and do not necessarily need to "Chat online" to keep business contacts. If you create a page for his business and not a personal one, you will not receive private messages period. 

fotobird

It sounds like you cannot trust your H, in my opinion. If it were an ex, it would bother me slightly (just for the fact that he was almost married to his ex). The woman was barely an old friend. I say let it go. There is no reason to hold animosity 9 years into your marriage.

SDarling324

LILBIT1221:

I for one, would chokabitch.

Damn straight. 

I went through a similar situation with my DH and his ex-gf.  His ex constantly found ways to stay in contact with him, (let me just state for the record - I am best friends with one of DH's ex's so I am not the jealous type) but this biitch has obvious intentions to get back with DH so she irked me.  For example, she would ask him to go to her birthday-night-outs with her and her gf's and no other guys going, strange if you ask me, but then would never hear from her unless she needed some work done on her car (he manages a well known transmission shop). 

I finally asked him if he would stop taking her calls because I felt like she was disrepecting our relationship and it wasn't like they were close anymore anyway.  He told me he was still really close to her and I laughed because by definition, she is no where near being a "close" friend.  One day, DH had recently transferred shops, she sent him a text message and I was using his phone (which he was well aware of) and asked when she could bring her car in.  I acted as if I was DH and told her that "I no longer work at that location and its probably best that you find someone else to be your personal mechanic."  And she stopped, finally. 

I don't like disrespectful slvts.  Move along whoreface.

monkiem

Meh.  Non-issue.  Next time she friend requests, click on the "I don't know this person" button, and leave it at that.

 

esthergreenwood14

kirky05:

If he doesn't care, just block her.

This, Kirky is wise.

mamaregan

kmeek19:

It sounds like you cannot trust your H, in my opinion. If it were an ex, it would bother me slightly (just for the fact that he was almost married to his ex). The woman was barely an old friend. I say let it go. There is no reason to hold animosity 9 years into your marriage.

I trust my DH 100% otherwise I wouldn't be married to him. Like I said, that is not the issue at all. I just don't like stupid girls who clearly crush on my DH to continously try and say snarky things about our pics and"rekindle" a friendship.

I think I will follow LB's advice and chokabitch then I'll block her.

mamaregan

SDarling324:

LILBIT1221:

I for one, would chokabitch.

Damn straight. 

I went through a similar situation with my DH and his ex-gf.  His ex constantly found ways to stay in contact with him, (let me just state for the record - I am best friends with one of DH's ex's so I am not the jealous type) but this biitch has obvious intentions to get back with DH so she irked me.  For example, she would ask him to go to her birthday-night-outs with her and her gf's and no other guys going, strange if you ask me, but then would never hear from her unless she needed some work done on her car (he manages a well known transmission shop). 

I finally asked him if he would stop taking her calls because I felt like she was disrepecting our relationship and it wasn't like they were close anymore anyway.  He told me he was still really close to her and I laughed because by definition, she is no where near being a "close" friend.  One day, DH had recently transferred shops, she sent him a text message and I was using his phone (which he was well aware of) and asked when she could bring her car in.  I acted as if I was DH and told her that "I no longer work at that location and its probably best that you find someone else to be your personal mechanic."  And she stopped, finally. 

I don't like disrespectful slvts.  Move along whoreface.

 

This is EXACTLY how I feel. It has nothing to do with being suspicious of DH. She will probably get the "BLOCK" and hopefully she will leave it at that!

LoveBeingAWife33008

LILBIT1221:

I for one, would chokabitch.