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April 2011 Moms
"Push present"?
What exactly is this? A 'good job on pushing out a baby' type of a thing? How many of you are getting/expecting a push present?
June Siggy: Fave pic of Aubrey and me 
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Re: "Push present"?
I'm getting a baby. That's pretty much all I expect or need.
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i joke to DH about this...a new cell phone (contract is up end of April anyway!) or lululemon pants! haha i think it'll be timing of when these things are needed as opposed to here you go congrats on pushing out a baby!
i think the intention is a gift to mom like jewelery or something but i would never expect this! i'm getting a baby! that's plenty for me
A friend of mine got a very pretty diamond necklace for her first son and I don't remember what she got for her second son. Personally, I think it's absurd - like the pps said the baby is all I want.
That being said however, a giant really good sub from a real sub shop - not a Blimpie/Subway would be a present I would not refuse.
I completely agree that the idea of recieving a gift is silly and that the baby itself will be my gift.
My mom was watching that financial advisor lady on TV the other night and the woman wanted to buy herself a $15,000 diamond ring as a "push present". My mom called me and asked what a "push present" was and was joking that if all women get one, she deserves $45,000 in presents (she had three kids). She said she was going to ask my DH if he was going to get me one but I told her it was unnecessary.
Just curious on how many women out there believe they deserve a physical gift after they deliver their baby.
June Siggy: Fave pic of Aubrey and me
I think my primary issue w/ "push presents" is the idea of expecting a gift. We get fired up on here when people act greedy about their registries or showers, and to me, having an expectiation that your SO will go out and get you a piece of jewlery or whatever for HAVING A BABY just seems so petty and silly.
If your SO, on their own, decides they want to give you something to mark the birth of your child, great. That was a very sweet thing for them to think of, and it would be pretty rude to toss it back and say "no, I have a baby, I don't want that."
But to expect - and thus imply that you would be bent out of shape if you didn't get the diamond necklace or whatever - a gift is always tacky and small, in my mind.
The truth is, you ARE getting a baby. That should be enough. If the other parent or partner really wants to give you something, that's different. But I'm not in the habit of demanding gifts - regardless of the situation. Honestly, if you have to TELL someone to get you something, doesn't it lose meaning anyway?
(Sorry, that was long, it's just I see this question a lot and have had time to think on it.)
I have heard of these, but was certainly not expecting one, my baby will be more than a "present"! However, apparently DH heard of these also and had already decided he was getting me something...last week I was put on bedrest and he came home with a NookColor and told me that it was supposed to be my push present, but figured I would get more use out of it now
It was very sweet of him and of course I love my nook. (It now gives me something to do while I lay here and keep this baby inside) BUT I certainly would have never wanted or thought/assumed I was getting a "push present"
I had never heard of push presents until my friend told me about them (she is from the South-- is this a Southern thing?) My husband was part of the conversation and liked the idea of at least getting me something to commemorate the day...he mentioned a ring with the baby's birthstone....which I don't think will happen since April is the diamond.
HOWEVER...I am not expecting anything. And, when my brother and I were born, my dad went out and bought rings with our birthstones, and then later on when they had more money bought 2 more birthstone rings (their birthstones)...these 4 rings interlocked together to make it look like one ring, (i think he ordered it from the JCPenneys catalogue back in the day) and my mom gave that to me a few years ago and I wear it on occasion. I love how meaningful it is.
This is what I want, excpet wine substituted for champagne! Mmmmm..... real sushi!!
This. I have heard of some families that do the gift of the baby's birthstone and that seems meaningful to me, plus to have something lasting like that to pass on one day. That being said, I don't think I'll be getting a diamond! I got one when we got engaged and that's probably the extent of it for me. It this baby were coming in pearl or opal months I might have a better shot
As several previous posters have said I don't expect or need anything other than a healthy baby, but I would be touched and proud if hubs came up with it on his own. The husband of a good friend of mine gives her flowers every year on her son's birthday which he started and continues all on his own. I think that's so sweet.
I joke with my husband about getting me a push present, and although I will be getting presents, they are our anniversary, Christmas, Valentine's day presents bc we decided not to exchange gifts until he gets back. Also most of my the gifts I am getting are baby related anyways (or the camera we are getting for ourselves, to take pictures of the baby...lol)
I had him look up what a push present was though, and he was laughing that people actually expect a present for having a baby.
Mac and cheese lover!
I'm in the south and had never heard of them. I was told it's a "north eastern" thing and that it's big in the New York area, but to be honest, I doubt it's unique to any one area.
My Dad gave my mom a diamond and emerald ring when I was born, but it was an unexpected gift, and it certainly didn't have a name (push present) attached to it. My husband has recently caught wind of the whole push present thing, and he brought it up to me. We laughed about it. I think I want my "push present" to be a large Hawaiian pizza from my favorite pizza place.
The bottom line for me is that I think any SO who chooses to give their wife or girlfriend a gift to celebrate the birth of their child has the right to do so, and no one should criticize them for that, BUT when we get to the place where we're expecting a gift and getting bent out of shape if we don't get one, then we have a problem.
I'm secretly hoping that my husband will do something extra special for my first Mother's Day, but again, that ball is in his court.
I think it's kind of silly, a bit of a gift grab. I've asked for a bottle of champagne chilling for when we get home along with a nice dark beer, a block of brie cheese and sushi
I did drop the hint that something like a baby birthstone ring might be nice for Mother's Day though... I still need to give some thought about a great Father's Day gift.
I have to admit, my first thought when reading the title of this post was, "We're going to talk about pooping during delivery. LMBO!!!! Obviously, I was previously clueless.
To me, the best "push present" is the snuggling that DH, LO, & I will be enjoying with his 3 older siblings after his debut.
Someone's getting a little brother!
The term is obviously vulgar. But, look, there's clearly a lot of biological unfairness for women that comes with having a baby. What's wrong with a man saying thank you and showing his appreciation? A parallel: I don't expect my husband to baby me or wait on me hand and foot, but it sure is sweet when he washes the dishes or folds the laundry when I'm tired (chores that are usually mine.) And if someone can afford diamond tennis bracelets and the like, good for them!
I dunno.. I feel like the guys go through a lot too.. just not the physical stuff. They spend 9 months worrying about every little symptom we have, seeing us go through all this discomfort and being able to do very little about it, and dealing with us when we're being irrational basket cases. And they don't get the same kind of bonding time with LO in return to make it all worth while, like we do. Honestly even with the crappy ass symptoms I would rather be where I am, because at least I know some of what is going on. But then I'm a total control freak lol.
I dunno.. I think DF deserves a trophy or something just for having to deal with me lol!
Certainly! For me it's more about the expectation of a gift than the gesture. If a man wants to get his wife/girlfriend a gift, that's sweet. If a woman demands one and gets bent out of shape for not receiving a coach bag/diamond bracelet/new car, then I personally start raising an eye brow.
I definitely don't expect a push present. We have way more important things to save for/spend on. Also, I just want a healthy baby in my arms!
I agree with PP...the expectation of a gift (under any circumstances) is gross and totally takes away from it being at all special.
We when adopted DD1, my DH gave me a black pearl necklace that I had been eyeing. I was totally surprised. This necklace has become very meaningful to me. Around our house we always refer to them as my "adoption pearls". Every time I wear them, I think about that special day. I can't wait to pass them on to DD1 someday.
With that said, I think the concept of expecting a "push present" is vulgar. However, if DH does gift me a present after the birth, I am sure it will be special to us. Part of what made my adoption pearls so special is that they were bought out of love, not expectation. IMO, the best presents usually are.
I agree. My poor DH - I have been on partial bed rest, lifting restrictions and pelvic rest this entire pregnancy. I'm essentially of no use around the house except for small tasks.
He jumped right in and took over chores, grocery shopping and our dog (that last one is a huge task, believe me), and he did it really happily and with a great attitude. He's going to be an amazing daddy.
He probably deserves a present more, to be honest, but since he's ALSO getting a baby, I figure we'll call it even.