Yet another MIL issue...what a sneak

Randy'sgirl52409

So MIL let "slip" that she has been sick and went to the doctor to get an antibiotic. My issue is that the day she went to the doctor to get meds she had accepted a dinner invite from me and DH for the same night and chose to still come, not even telling us she was sick. She withheld this info from us so we couldn't tell her not to come and keep her from seeing LO.

I find this very selfish and irresponsible on her part. She also crossed a boundary by not letting DH and I decide what was best for our LO disregarding the fact that we are her parents. I'm not upset so much that she could have exposed LO to what she had because LO is exposed to germs and colds all of the time, but the fact that she disrespected us as LO's parents and decided to be sneaky is where the issue lies.

Makes me feel like she'd be sneaky about other things for the chance to see LO. She sees LO all of the time mind  you, we hardly ever tell her she can't come on a day she asks to come and we invite her over all of the time. It's not like she is an excluded grandparent. So frustrating.

 

blujeanbaby29

I hear you!  That is really frustrating!

Chevy412

We had to find a new sitter last minute today because my FIL was sick. He said he'd still be up to babysit if we couldn't find someone but DH and I didn't want our LO around someone with a cold. If he hadn't told ner I never would trust him as a sitter again.

MrsFv20

my mom tries to tell me all the time that she's "just got a little congestion but I'm not contagious!"

Um...how do you know you're not contagious? lol...go to the damn doctor and get some meds. 

She does always tell me though, she knows if she showed up on the doorstep coughing and hacking I'd send her right back home again. This is the first time in her life that she's actually gone to the doctor and gotten antibiotics vs. just waiting for it to go away because she wants to keep her regular Sunday visits!! 

mlc92404

We had a similar situation.  MIL has been having issues with her arm and seeing a chiropractor.  DH thought this was something just recently.  Well she let it slip (i'm guessing it wasnt a slip, I imagine she thought it was no big deal) that her arm has been bothering her for a year now.  And we aren't talking a little pain, we are talking chronic pain, unable to lift her arm very far.  DH went OFF at her.  Telling her how selfish she is, she's held DS numerous time since birth and although she may not do it intentionally she could hurt DS if she is holding him and he moves in a way that is painful to her arm. 

Lindsay7733

My MIL does the same stuff!! Everytime we're supposed to have a family get together, she neglects to tell us when someone is sick. In fact, we're supposed to go visit today (there will be aunts, uncles, cousins, etc) but I will not even begin to get LO ready to leave the house until DH confirms with her that no one is sick. Especially since both LO and I just got over a very bad cold. It is unbelievably selfish and makes it impossible for me to trust her. Not to mention she's the type to constantly judge my decisions as a parent. Irony much?