I hate...

identicaltwins2be

...that I can't post what I want because of the custody stuff I'm dealing with.  I had to delete my response in an earlier post just because I'm afraid it will be found by "the enemy", totally taken out of context, and used against me in court.  I think that has a lot to do with why I don't post as much and that makes me sad.

KarmaKP

It makes me sad that you can't vent about that because I think it would be so helpful to at least see the comments from everyone saying you have support and help.  So...I'll just say that we support you and are here for you, even if you can't post exactly what's happening.

Sending virtual hugs your way...

identicaltwins2be

Thanks, KP!  Its not so much wanting to vent about what's going on (although I could go on about that for days) it's more about feeling like I have to filter what I say in regards to any topic!  If I am having an "off" day or understand when someone says they don't always enjoy being a parent I feel like I can't contribute for fear of having what I say used against me.  I don't say anything I wouldn't say IRL and I don't think I say anything bad but you can't always get tone or emotion in a post.

sprads

I know exactly what you mean. I often fear that this board will be found by the "enemy" and I will lose all you wonderful ladies because I won't feel safe enough or free to post anymore.

sistrkate

That stinks.  Maybe you should get a new user name and you can go stealth.

identicaltwins2be

sistrkate:

That stinks.  Maybe you should get a new user name and you can go stealth.

That's actually a great idea!  :::Off to come up with an awesome name:::

KarmaKP

"the enemy"

(In my case, the enemy = my husband's ex-wife)

This is something I've been really struggling with the past few months. There are times when I am acutely aware of what I do or say because I'm afraid that "the enemy" will get ahold of that information.  It really started to affect our marriage and my relationship with my stepson last year ... so much so that Chris and I went to see a therapist to figure out how to deal with her and how to make sure we are not letting her get in the middle of everything.

I sometimes wish for a life where there wasn't that external factor and I think it would be so much more peaceful in my house.  I knew when I met my husband that he had a previous life but I guess I wasn't prepared for how acrimonious it would be at times.

I'm so thankful for this board where there are others that have the same experiences with "the enemy".

sprads

KarmaKP:

"the enemy"

(In my case, the enemy = my husband's ex-wife)

This is something I've been really struggling with the past few months. There are times when I am acutely aware of what I do or say because I'm afraid that "the enemy" will get ahold of that information.  It really started to affect our marriage and my relationship with my stepson last year ... so much so that Chris and I went to see a therapist to figure out how to deal with her and how to make sure we are not letting her get in the middle of everything.

I sometimes wish for a life where there wasn't that external factor and I think it would be so much more peaceful in my house.  I knew when I met my husband that he had a previous life but I guess I wasn't prepared for how acrimonious it would be at times.

I'm so thankful for this board where there are others that have the same experiences with "the enemy".

I couldn't have said it better myself. (makes mental note to get everyone together)