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Success after IF
krissyh21
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Confession
krissyh21
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I have been bringing D into bed with me at night since 2 weeks ago when he was sick. I know it is a really bad habit and I never should have done it. Now he wakes up at about 1am and instead of trying to get him back down I just bring him in bed. The problem - i like it. I love him waking up and leaning over to hug me and spending those 15 minutes in the morning with him just babbling with me. I do not want to stop, even though I know the longer I do it, the harder it will be to break, but my baby is getting big so fast that I don't want to miss out on this time where he doesn't want to be a big guy and all he wants is mommy and daddy!
A lot of years and a million tears finally led me to you.
After 7 years trying to concieve, 3 failed IUIs and 2 failed IVFs, my third IVF was a success!
My Christmas baby turned into a turkey bird! Dillon Richard was born at 34 weeks, 5 days on November 28, 2009 after 10 weeks on bedrest for preeclampsia.
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After 7 years trying to concieve, 3 failed IUIs and 2 failed IVFs, my third IVF was a success!
My Christmas baby turned into a turkey bird! Dillon Richard was born at 34 weeks, 5 days on November 28, 2009 after 10 weeks on bedrest for preeclampsia.
<a href="http://smg.photobucket.com/albums/v705/arriinthere/PJ/?action=view
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Re: Confession
That's how our bedsharing habit was created. We'd bring DD into bed in the morning so I could nurse her back to sleep and get some more sleep myself.
We started doing it longer and longer, and DH started going straight to bed with her at night while I worked out so he could get uninterrupted sleep (she would wake up crying before I got to bed) and then he admitted to me that he LOVES going to bed with her and cuddling at the end of the day. I personally LOVE waking up next to her every day. It's my favorite part of the day.
So because we are being purely selfish, we are creating a situation that we know will be harder to break the longer we do it, but she is only this young once, and this time is precious
2 infertiles' journey to 2 pink lines (and a baby girl)
"our IF story"
https://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/48194560.aspx
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2 infertiles' journey to 2 pink lines (and a baby girl)
"our IF story"
I don't know who started this awful thinking, as it is the most precious time I have with DD and could never think of not ever having bed shared with her!
On a more serious note, just go with it...do what is best for your family now and deal with it later on..it will be fine.. I really like the responses on roaringrocks link!
ESTH, you are the one who changed my whole outlook on bedsharing. What you told me one time about what a beautiful time it is to nurse your daughter in bed and wake up together is a lot of the reason I do it every day with my DD
awww...that is so sweet...glad you are enjoying this very special and short time with your girl! Bella is already showing signs she is ready for her big bed, but I am the one who is not ready...sigh!!! Lately, when we are still snuggling/hugging in bed and I have to leave for work, I tell her "okay baby, mommy has to go to work" she will let go and say "okay mommy" and turns the other direction to continue sleeping on her own
This is definitely a matter of opinion, not fact. Some schools of parenting may think it's a bad habit but many doctors recommend it, particularly as once they are toddlers most of the safety concerns are eliminated. And MANY parents and children have very healthy, mutually agreeable bedsharing situations that the children grow out of on their own when ready. If you enjoy it, do it! The only reason we are set on stopping is because with a second coming I worry about caring for a newborn at night in bed without waking the toddler. If we were one and done, as I think you are, I wouldn't be worrying about transitioning him for a while.
Thank you everyone. You know what is funny - I used to sleep with my mother when I was younger. She had just gotten a divorce and we lived with my grandparents and there was not enough room for all of us to have our own space. Then later on when my sister came along (13 years between us) she slept with my mother. And we all turned out fine.
Hell, my sister even lives 5000 miles away, so it is not like it created separation issues!
I just hear it all the time to NEVER do it and got all worked up because the pedi said "OH NOOOOOO's" and basically told me that it was better to let him cry for 2 hours then take him to bed with me???
Thank you so much for the link and reassuring me that there is greater evils in this world.
After 7 years trying to concieve, 3 failed IUIs and 2 failed IVFs, my third IVF was a success!
My Christmas baby turned into a turkey bird! Dillon Richard was born at 34 weeks, 5 days on November 28, 2009 after 10 weeks on bedrest for preeclampsia.
<a href="http://smg.photobucket.com/albums/v705/arriinthere/PJ/?action=view
Schmoodle your posts lately have just been tremendously awesome. Love this one too. Right on -- bedsharing rules, when it's what everyone wants. This momma loves it!
I'm really curious about how it works. Do you think you are all able to sleep with your babies because you have always done it and that's what they know (essentially, they "grew up" sleeping in a bed with other people) or do you think it really depends on the baby?
I ask because a) Alana literally covers every square inch of her crib when she sleeps and I can't imagine how she would do in bed and b) if we bring her in, say, in the morning, she is like a wild monkey, jumping all over and trying to escape. In fact, she fell off the bed this weekend because I didn't grab her leg fast enough (we practically have to hold her by the ankle if she's in bed with us).
Just in trying to fall asleep, she rolls all over, flipping and flopping around!