Vent/Update on current situation

KatieGraceB

For those of you that know about all my SO issues, how he moved out of the house, possibly had another girl at the ready, etc..

Last night, DS started projectile vomiting at the lovely hour of 1am. Called the pedi and they said get some fluids in him til he can keep them down, because he was just throwing things right back up. Didn't want to nurse, not interested in any water, nothing. I called SO to tell him what was up, because it's his kid too, and wth if I'm going to be up all night taking care of a sick kid, he'd better be up all night worrying at least. (This was the vent part, because being thrown up all over several times in the span of an hour really sucked, and was totally scary.)

He came right over to help, which was surprising. We ended up having a very long talk while taking turns rocking DS and cleaning up puke. He said he feels like C deserves us to try our best to fix our issues. He feels like we have failed DS in that we sort of just let things go all to he!l instead of stepping up and fixing things. Which we did. He then said, on his own, that he is going to remove said girl from his life until we get things figured out, because even if we end up not being together, what he's doing is hurting our parenting relationship, and affecting whether or not we can even be civil to each other.

Today I called and made us an appointment with a counselor. Got the approval on our insurance, and we will be going next week. I think we also have tentatively agreed that he may come back to stay with us while we work through things. We both feel like that might help eliminate distractions (in the form of meddling, homewrecking idiots), and help us stay focused on our goal. He will be staying on the couch for the duration though. As far as I'm concerned anyways. He's got a lot to prove, and I'm not just letting him slide back here without proving that.

I really, really hope that this is a step in the right direction for us. T&P needed that we can figure things out for the best. And that this counselor will help us through this patch of awfulness.

flippy1234

First of all sorry DS is feeling crappy, I know how scary it is when they have high fevers and are puking in the middle of the night. I hope he is feeling better today.

I'm glad your SO came over to help, it sounds like he wants to fix things. I bet being away from you guys made him really miss what he had. I hope the counseling helps  

erinkate23

((hugs))

 

I hope everything works out.  Also good well wishes for your little one - how is he today?

BelhurstBride

I'm glad you've decided to do counseling and hope things continue to improve.

Quazel

flippy1234:

First of all sorry DS is feeling crappy, I know how scary it is when they have high fevers and are puking in the middle of the night. I hope he is feeling better today.

I'm glad your SO came over to help, it sounds like he wants to fix things. I bet being away from you guys made him really miss what he had. I hope the counseling helps  

I want to add that I hope counseling helps you guys figure out what is truly best for each of you.  If it turns out that you two are right for each other, awesome.  If not, then I hope it helps you guys get on a good path to be the best parents you can be.

someflower6

i'm so sorry your wee one is sick, that's no fun. but i'm glad that you and SO are trying to figure things out. i'm sure it wont be easy, but i hope you can both put the past behind you and move forward from here. good luck!

webMistress0609

Thanks for the update - I've been thinking about you. Hope your LO is feeling better soon.

MellsHells

How is C this morning?

I think it is a step in the right direction for you guys, and I'm so happy that you feel encouraged. T&P that the counseling takes you a few more steps forward and continues to help SO decide to man up.

DandelionMom

You're a better person than I am.  I don't know how I'd forgive something like that. 

Hope DS is feeling better soon!

BFab11

I hope everything works out for you, and I'm really glad he stepped up to the plate when DS was sick.  Good luck with everything!

pandi02a

Does your LO feel better this morning?

I'm glad he came to help and you guys had that talk. Hopefully you will figure out what is best for you and your family.

CinnamonBun

I didn't remember the part about another girl? Who/what was the other girl situation?

KatieGraceB

CinnamonBun:

I didn't remember the part about another girl? Who/what was the other girl situation?

Long story short, there was a coworker of ours that was actively trying to lure him away from me, and the stresses of our lives were such that he fell for it. IMO she is a despicable human being for trying to break up a family, and I think he is finally seeing her for what she is, and that she isn't worth losing his family over.

Even though he did f*ck up pretty badly, I am still very glad he is realizing his mistake before it's too late, and taking big steps to change our lives around. He stayed with us last night and we spent a lot of time talking and loving and getting back to where we were before all this happened. Not that we're all the way there yet, but it's a start. We are talking about doing a trial run with him moving back here for a week or so to see how that goes, and decide from there what the situation will be after that point.

So, I guess my Valentine's day didn't end up so bad after all. Unexpected, but definitely welcome.

BurnNurse

I'm just not getting caught up as I haven't frequented this board as much lately (I fell into the drama trap elsewhere, lol) but I have to say I'm so sorry you've had to go through this, and I'm glad things are starting to look up for you and your LO.  I'll keep you in my prayers that things work out for you and your family.  

teamsweet

I'm a little late to your story, but I wanted to send you some virtual hugs.  Counseling is a good step - it will help you figure out what you want too.