HELP!!

thecrafts

I just found out that I am pregnant once again. My husband and I have a nine month old boy and I am worried about having a second child. I don't believe in abortion but I am scared to death about having them so close together. Any advice? 

mayowife

Breathe. Many women have children that close together, planned or unplanned. Having 2u2 will certainly come with challenges, but there are sure to be many benefits as well.

I noticed that you're a newbie. This board is great, but women with 2u2 are very busy and therefore the board is very slow. You should check out the 6-9 or 9-12 board to bond and communicate with women who have children your son's age.

Good luck!

Amber68W

Everything is going to be okay. I found out we were pregnant again when DS was 10 months old and we were terrified at first. But after a few weeks we got really excited! He will always have someone to play with, and a best friend in life. It will be hard the first few months but after that it will be worth it. There are a lot of "How do you do it?" posts on this board that might help you too. Good luck!

Mr.&MrsS

The good thing about pregnancy is that it takes 9 months (OK, maybe that is the bad thing about it too, lol). You have 9 months to get used to the idea, to get excited. In 9 months your son will be older and more independant and doing more things. 9 months is a loooooooooong time in the life of a baby.

My DS was 8.5 months old when we found out we were pregnant again. My boys are 16.5 months apart. Those first few months were hard, but it is wonderful now. I LOVE having my kids so close together.

Good luck!

ivyreb

We were actively trying to get pregnant again, but I was still shocked that it happened! My daughter is 9 months and I'm 7 weeks pregnant. I'm psyched - and reading this board makes me even more excited. I wanted to go through diapers and sleepless nights all at once, instead of taking a few years off then having to do it all over again. And the kids will be so close in age they'll be buddies (I hope!) and be able to play together. It's great. Look at the upsides of it. It'll be tough sometimes, but it probably would be anyway. I know my daughter is great and easy, but she still goes through crazy tough phases (it's teething right now). Also, at least you always have the excuse of having two under two if you're feeling the stress. Good luck and hope to see you on here some more!

Gidgetwho

ivyreb:

We were actively trying to get pregnant again, but I was still shocked that it happened! My daughter is 9 months and I'm 7 weeks pregnant. I'm psyched - and reading this board makes me even more excited. I wanted to go through diapers and sleepless nights all at once, instead of taking a few years off then having to do it all over again. And the kids will be so close in age they'll be buddies (I hope!) and be able to play together. It's great. Look at the upsides of it. It'll be tough sometimes, but it probably would be anyway. I know my daughter is great and easy, but she still goes through crazy tough phases (it's teething right now). Also, at least you always have the excuse of having two under two if you're feeling the stress. Good luck and hope to see you on here some more!

This.  It's not as hard as you fear.  Plus I feel like DD had an easier transition than if she'd been older.

mrsh1545

I found out I was pregnant before DS was even four months old, they will be 12.5 months apart.  He had reflux, colic and I had PPD.  It could always be worse.  What helped me was to look at all of the good things about having babies so close together.  I actually am getting excited about it now.  You will come around, feeling a little guilty and sad right now is normal I think.  I cried for weeks!  You will all adjust just fine with a new baby.

TheirMomma

My boys are 10.5 months apart and currently 15 months and 4.5 months.  Its crazy sometimes, but I wouldnt change it for anything.  Now, ask me again when I have two 2 year old, or worse, two 3 year olds and I might change my tune, lol!

Seriously, I wouldnt have planned it this way, and people look at me like Im crazy, which I probably am, but all in all, I am happy to have my boys so close in age.  Tough now, but very doable and down the road they will be each others best friend!