casual comments

jenreally

Does anyone else have to deal with this? We've been pretty open about how I can't seem to keep my babies inside of me past 37 weeks but not about any other issues and complications in pregnancy.

So my H's aunt made a flippant comment about how pretty soon I'd be 39 weeks and dying for my LO to come.

Um, if I made it to 39 weeks, I would do a dance of joy. And then my OB would induce me due to diabetes. lol and grr

temerityjane

So far, the most flippant comment I've gotten (and I'm sure others have, too) is, "oh, bed rest! That sounds like HEAVEN!"

I can understand where they're coming from, but 1, it's really not heaven at all and 2, it's not like I'm here on vacation, you know?

And being a chronically polite person, I'm usually stuck for a reply. What am I supposed to say? "You're right. It's fantastic. You should be jealous!" 

Helix07

Better than my MIL asking me on Friday when she came to pick up DD from the hospital if I was doing this all for the attention.

 

(hugs) 

temerityjane

Helix, that is just vicious! Terrible. I wouldn't even know how to respond.

lemen99

Helix07:

Better than my MIL asking me on Friday when she came to pick up DD from the hospital if I was doing this all for the attention.

 

(hugs) 

That's terrible.

Unfortunately, a lot of people are not good at showing tact or empathy in situations that they haven't been in themselves or those in which they don't understand. 

I got a lot of "but at least you can sleep!" when my baby was in the NICU.  

 

jesss1022

People can be so insensitve sometimes.  When I was on bedrest with DS #1, my SIL would always say " at least you don't have to go to work." I would have rather been at work than sitting at home bored! Bed rest is not a vacation, I don't understand why people think/say it is.  I also heard when my baby was in the NICU "at least you can sleep." I didn't sleep very much at all when DS was in the NICU!  I have also heard " having trouble losing the weight?" I got pg very quickly after DS was born and of course I still had some weight on me, but someone said that to me a week ago, and my belly is clearly a bump now!!

Heather & Nayt

I have gotten the "Oh, but don't you know that a planned c/s is selfish and your baby when come when she is ready?" Ummm...