From Infertility to Adoption

ngokli

Hi Ladies,

IVF #2 is a bust and DH and I don't want to do anymore infertility treatments. So, we're onto adoption. All we want is a child and adoption is the next step in our journey to have a child. Any words of wisdom for a newbie in the adoption world?

Bosanquet

I am relatively new to the adoption process, but my advice would be to take your time and stay positive. Look into as many options as you can and make sure that you find what is most comfortable for you. DH and I started talking very seriously about adoption in August, but we didn't select an agency until about a month ago because we wanted to make sure that we were making the right decisions.

Ask lots of questions on this board, these women are a wealth of knowledge and they can help out a lot.

 Good luck to you on the journey! 

livinglosing

I am so sorry about your IVF.  Big hugs to you!

 

I am somewhat new and the best advice I have is to pick up a copy of Adoption for Dummies or a book on adoption and read the FAQs at the top of the page.  We also scheduled time with a well known attorney that is well-versed in adoption to get all the ins and outs of adoption/types of adoption/etc.  It really helped us to decide that we wanted domestic adoption and helped calm our feelings of being overwhelmed.  GL and the ladies here are so helpful with all questions along the way.

LittleYellowBirds

I was in the same boat this past summer.

My advice is to meet with and speak to as many people/agencies as you can.  IF never goes away, but the adoption process helped me because I could be very proactive and put all my energy and time into it. It is all worth it in the end!

firefightersgal

I just want to offer ((hugs)).  We're also adopting after dealing with infertility.

My blog has my whole story if you are interested.  There is a link in my sig.  Welcome! 

honeybee72

Sorry to hear.

There are many paths to adoption. The pros and cons are not universal, but are really dependent on your personal situation and preferences. There's an FAQ that's particularly helpful in listing some of the details to think about.

I would also recommend allowing yourself time to grieve your loss, if that's something you need. You need to be able to look at adoption as an alternative path to building your family, rather than as a way to ease the pain of your IF.

Good luck in your journey!

ngokli

Thank you ladies!