Update on biting daycare kid

littlemommy1

I was so nervous for him to come yesterday. He was here for 6 hours yesterday, and was pretty good! He likes to give hugs and kisses to the other kids, and played pretty well with them. 

He had a couple times where he didn't want to share, but we worked on it and he was soon handing out toys to everyone. He hit a couple times, but there was no biting. I was impressed.

When his mom came to pick him up, he started to act out. He hit a girl a couple times, and afterwards looked right at his mom, as if seeing what she would do. She didn't react, so I did. He did it one more time and waited for her response again. I think it's pretty obvious he's doing this to test his mother.

Just wanted to give an update on how things were going. Hopefully he will continue to be good! Thanks everyone for your input the other night. 

Quazel

I am glad to hear things got off to a good start.  Nothing he did while mom was away is at all abnormal.

Obviously it is really hard to tell in just one day but it sounds like you might see a trend in the parenting and the attention seeking behavior he exhibits.  If that is in the case, you are in a touchy situation with what you can and can't say.  I guess you could tell mom how you handle things that seems to be effective.  In the perfect world, your setting is what he really needed and it will show through even when mom is there.

Please keep us updated.  We will all be in situations where our children are not acting as we would like and it is helpful to us to see both sides of the story as it unfolds.  Good luck!

superned

I work with child care providers and recommend this book all the time: https://www.amazon.com/No-Biting-Practice-Toddler-Programs/dp/1933653566/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1297266319&sr=8-2

It's a good book to have on hand for any program that cares for toddlers.

It sounds like things are going in the right direction!

Kristinmo

GREAT update!  All sounds like normal toodler stuff.  Glad things went well.

littlemommy1

His mom asked me how I reacted and what I did for discipline. She said I am more patient than she is, and that she is working on that. There was one time where he picked up a toy dinosaur and put his finger in it's mouth saying "bite." I did a little role playing, asking him if he wanted the dinosaur to bite him. When he shook his head, I explained that it wouldn't be nice for the dinosaur to bite him and that we don't bite our friends. It seemed to help. I'm hoping that if I tell her what works here she will try these techniques at home. I'm by no means a professional, but am glad it has worked. I hope it stays this way.

I looked in his mouth, and he had big bumps like he is getting bottom molars in. Perhaps that could be part of it? She is going to get his teething rings out for him to bite if that will help. Maybe having something he knows he is allowed to bite will refrain him from biting people.