IVF here we come...

suntoto

I am honestly scared $hitless.  We just finished our last IUI cycle, which was covered by insurance and it was a devastating BFN.  Now we are moving on to IVF and I am terrified.  I am over 35, so we are looking at PGD b/c I am now of that "Advanced Maternal Age" category.  That means the cost is going to be about $26K for IVF/PGD for Shared Risk- not including meds.  eeek.  I am sad that we have gotten here, even though I knew that it was inevitable.  IF sucks.  My body sucks.  I am tired of this.  ugh.  /vent

butterfly843

Sending hugs, sorry about the bfn. I'm really hoping ivf brings you your take home baby. If you have any ivf questions let me know.

ColleenS629

Hugs! I hope that this IVF will do it for you! Have you checked around to see if there are any PGD studies? My RE is doing a PGD study that we're probably going to participate in for this IVF.

ColindaP

IF does suck. IVF sucks too. I'm sorry the last IUI was a BFN and you guys are having to take the IVF train :-( I hope it's the answer to your prayers.

suntoto

ColleenS629:

Hugs! I hope that this IVF will do it for you! Have you checked around to see if there are any PGD studies? My RE is doing a PGD study that we're probably going to participate in for this IVF.

 

I did, but there are none in the VA/MD/DC area right now.    DH is really worried about downs b/c of my age, so when I get the call of the BFN tonight I am going to try and talk with them about PGD IVF and have a more formal meeting with them about it.  There are a few things I am worried about, like quality of embryo after they remove a cell to do the testing. 

KristysRedBarn

IF does suck!  Since it's shared risk does that mean you get a few tries?  Good luck!

suntoto

KristysRedBarn:

IF does suck!  Since it's shared risk does that mean you get a few tries?  Good luck!

Yeah.  For the money we get 3 IVF and 3 FET cycles.  

ade2be

Big hugs on the last IUI fail.  I'm sorry that IVF is turning out to the be the answer.  I'm sure its scarey.  And wow, the cost is very scary.  I hope this is the answer for you though.  How many cycles is the shared risk for?

ETA: Sorry, responded before I read other responses.  Glad its for multiple cycles

KristysRedBarn

BTW: How come you get to keep your avatar and they took mine away?  You must be quite special

CarrieLeigh84

((hugs)) I'm so sorry you're having to go the IVF route, Suntoto. I'm keeping my finger, toes, eyes and everything else crossed for you. Will you be starting right away or taking a bit of a break first?

suntoto

KristysRedBarn:

BTW: How come you get to keep your avatar and they took mine away?  You must be quite special

No, not really.  I went and edited back in.  It was a PITA, b/c I had to re-find that picture... le sigh.  

babygirlpriest

Are you sure the PGD will detect Downs? Cause I'm guess we'll be using the same PGD place and last time I swore they said it couldn't detect some problems and downs was one of them. Maybe the difference between PGS and PGD? Crap! I hope I'm making you nervous over nothing but I would swear they said that was on the list of things they wouldn't pick up in this test...

 

suntoto

CarrieLeigh84:

((hugs)) I'm so sorry you're having to go the IVF route, Suntoto. I'm keeping my finger, toes, eyes and everything else crossed for you. Will you be starting right away or taking a bit of a break first?

We will take a break for a few months.  I just cannot do back to back stimming.  It is just too hard on my body.  

Mocha Girl

I am so, SO sorry about the BFN. I am thinking about you and I wish you all the luck in the world!  (((((hugs)))))

suntoto

babygirlpriest:

Are you sure the PGD will detect Downs? Cause I'm guess we'll be using the same PGD place and last time I swore they said it couldn't detect some problems and downs was one of them. Maybe the difference between PGS and PGD? Crap! I hope I'm making you nervous over nothing but I would swear they said that was on the list of things they wouldn't pick up in this test...

Yeah, I was looking it up yesterday and it is all over the SGFC website.  https://www.shadygrovefertility.com/genetics-101

They wouldn't advertise it, if they couldn't do it, right?  

babygirlpriest

suntoto:

babygirlpriest:

Are you sure the PGD will detect Downs? Cause I'm guess we'll be using the same PGD place and last time I swore they said it couldn't detect some problems and downs was one of them. Maybe the difference between PGS and PGD? Crap! I hope I'm making you nervous over nothing but I would swear they said that was on the list of things they wouldn't pick up in this test...

Yeah, I was looking it up yesterday and it is all over the SGFC website.  https://www.shadygrovefertility.com/genetics-101

They wouldn't advertise it, if they couldn't do it, right?  

In this situation, I am quite glad to be wrong!!

I guess once we had the chrom. abnormalities discussion it didn't really matter how everything else tested so we didn't seek confirmation.

Glad they can test that. That weighed on my mind, too.

Rawr08

I am sorry about the BFN.  I hope the IVF will work for you and you will get your take home baby.  *hugs*

EntropicEpona

Ugh. I'm sorry, toto. It sucks. I understand how scared you are, and I wish I could say that it gets better as you get further into it, but it really doesn't. But you're getting into a shared risk program. That's GREAT!

You guys can do this. I KNOW you can. And there's an awful lot of folks that've got your back. BRING IT! 

mdm2137

((hugs)) I'm so sorry you are at this point. I hope that IVF is the answer for you.

DoingItRight

{{{{{{Hugs}}}}}}  I am hoping that this will be your answer.

Court1

I'm sorry about the BFN & that you have to deal with all of this.  It really isn't fair.  IVF IS going to work & you're going to be an amazing mother. 

suntoto

babygirlpriest:

suntoto:

babygirlpriest:

Are you sure the PGD will detect Downs? Cause I'm guess we'll be using the same PGD place and last time I swore they said it couldn't detect some problems and downs was one of them. Maybe the difference between PGS and PGD? Crap! I hope I'm making you nervous over nothing but I would swear they said that was on the list of things they wouldn't pick up in this test...

Yeah, I was looking it up yesterday and it is all over the SGFC website.  https://www.shadygrovefertility.com/genetics-101

They wouldn't advertise it, if they couldn't do it, right?  

In this situation, I am quite glad to be wrong!!

I guess once we had the chrom. abnormalities discussion it didn't really matter how everything else tested so we didn't seek confirmation.

Glad they can test that. That weighed on my mind, too.

Doesn't getting "old" suck!  As I was actually looking into it, I found out that Downs is actually a chrom abnormality.  It was actually very interesting. 

Amanda78

I'm so sorry about the BFFN suntoto and that you're having to go to IVF.  I hope this brings you your forever baby on the first chance-but I'm so glad you have the shared risk.  Does your RE do donated meds at all to help with the cost?

3ltlones

I'm so sorry about the bfn. I'm sure you are scared, I hope that the ivf gets your take home baby very quickly. Thinking if you and sending hugs.

jennsadye1979

((huge Hugs))

I am super sorry about the BFN Laura. Sening you much love.

I wil lbe here rooting for you every step of the way. Oh, and this:

Cute puppy face always cheers me up

suntoto

Amanda78:

I'm so sorry about the BFFN suntoto and that you're having to go to IVF.  I hope this brings you your forever baby on the first chance-but I'm so glad you have the shared risk.  Does your RE do donated meds at all to help with the cost?

  I might have been stock-piling meds from my past failed IUI cycles for the OOP cost of IVF... and there have been some awsome people on here who have donated some IVF meds to me that will help.  I truly can't believe the support that I have gotten from the people on here.  It truly means the world to me. 

suntoto

jennsadye1979:

((huge Hugs))

I am super sorry about the BFN Laura. Sening you much love.

I wil lbe here rooting for you every step of the way. Oh, and this:

Cute puppy face always cheers me up

Squeee!!! A Havanese!!!!

jennsadye1979

suntoto:

jennsadye1979:

((huge Hugs))

I am super sorry about the BFN Laura. Sening you much love.

I wil lbe here rooting for you every step of the way. Oh, and this:

Cute puppy face always cheers me up

Squeee!!! A Havanese!!!!

Seriously, you HAVE to get one, I want to eat this dog he is so adorable!!!

grr_aargh

Sorry about the bffn.  That sucks.  And I'm sorry about this fear on the first steps of this new journey.  I can't imagine how it feels, but know that there are gads of people pulling for you.

I'll keep you in my thoughts over this IVF journey.

Fififa21

I?m sorry about the BFN and all the expenses. Wishing you lots of luck with the IVF and fingers crossed that you get your BFP soon!

Amanda78

suntoto:

Amanda78:

I'm so sorry about the BFFN suntoto and that you're having to go to IVF.  I hope this brings you your forever baby on the first chance-but I'm so glad you have the shared risk.  Does your RE do donated meds at all to help with the cost?

  I might have been stock-piling meds from my past failed IUI cycles for the OOP cost of IVF... and there have been some awsome people on here who have donated some IVF meds to me that will help.  I truly can't believe the support that I have gotten from the people on here.  It truly means the world to me. 

Well both of those things are good! You will be in my thoughts!! And as to the cute puppy face above-are you getting another pooch?  I have seen your fb puppies...

GuppyAmy

I'm so sorry. This whole thing stinks! Good luck with the IVF.

suntoto

Amanda78:

suntoto:

Amanda78:

I'm so sorry about the BFFN suntoto and that you're having to go to IVF.  I hope this brings you your forever baby on the first chance-but I'm so glad you have the shared risk.  Does your RE do donated meds at all to help with the cost?

  I might have been stock-piling meds from my past failed IUI cycles for the OOP cost of IVF... and there have been some awsome people on here who have donated some IVF meds to me that will help.  I truly can't believe the support that I have gotten from the people on here.  It truly means the world to me. 

Well both of those things are good! You will be in my thoughts!! And as to the cute puppy face above-are you getting another pooch?  I have seen your fb puppies...

Yeah, we are thinking about it.  

dondraandluis

I'm sorry. I would be scared too. Praying it works out for you. GL! (((HUGS)))

LilMaggs

I'm so sorry about the BFN.  *hugs*  

hoping&waiting

I am sorry you've gotten there, but I am really hopeful that this will bring you your take-home baby.  I'll be rooting for you. 

AppleRidge

I'm so, so sorry about the IUI, and so sad that you have to take the next, more expensive step.  But *when* this works, it will all be very worthwhile.

I'll be thinking of you and anxiously awaiting updates.  I hope the meds go easy on you. 

KelinandKevin

Sorry about the IUI.  I really hope that IVF proves to be the ticket for you and your DH!  I am here for you if you ever want to talk.  Best of luck, Laura!

HugginAngel

Sun I'm keeping everything crossed for you that this all goes well for you! ::hugs::

JuJuBe3

I'm sorry for the BFN and that you have to move on to IVF.  I am sure it is scary, but you are a strong woman and I know you can do this.  At least for all that dough you get several rounds.  Wishing you tons of good luck with the IVF and a great few break months of rest beforehand! 

cutebride73

I'm sorry you got a BFN and that you have to move to IVF, but it sounds like you have a good plan with the shared risk and PGD.  Good luck!!!