New with baby #2 shower question

KeriMichaelMarie

I'm pregnant with my second and my sister wants to throw me a baby shower. I said yes but I already have most of what I need for #2, my first baby is 22 months old.

Is it a good idea to have a baby shower but make it very non traditional? Like invite full family's to a local beach and only ask for diaper? That's what we're thinking about. What do you guys think? I'm unsure...

AZ123

Your options are to either do a "sprinkle" where it is a small gathering of just close friends and family, you don't register and don't expect any gifts (although people tend to bring them) OR you can do a "meet the baby" after the baby arrives to celebrate the baby.

tSquared1987

Where I am from, you don't have a shower for #2, especially since your kids are so close together. It seems gift-grabby. I would politely decline the shower and maybe have a "meet the baby" party (no gifts) after baby arrives.

hhgg1225

I think that if someone would like to throw you a shower for your 2nd baby that is fine. If all you would like is diapers then just have it be a diaper shower. My SIL did this for her sister and it was great. She worded the invite to let everyone know that her sister had everything she needed from the 1st baby but wanted to celebrate the new baby as well. they asked that everyone bring a pack of diapers and wipes. Anything else was opitional. It turned out great and really helped. Lets face it...diapers are one gift that always gets used!

rhubarb123

I'm in the camp that traditional baby showers are for first time mothers...which you obviously aren't.  If you sister wants to host a shower...make it a sprinkle (meaning a very small shower with only very close friends and close family).  If you want a big bash like you describe then have a "meet the baby party" after your child is born.  I did that and because we do an annual BBQ we made it a BBQ/Meet the Baby Party.  Shower = gifts, Sprinkle = gifts (usually smaller), and Meet the Baby Party = maybe a some gifts and usually diapers.  You or your sister can host the MTBP.

pregaftertubal

hhgg1225:

I think that if someone would like to throw you a shower for your 2nd baby that is fine. If all you would like is diapers then just have it be a diaper shower. My SIL did this for her sister and it was great. She worded the invite to let everyone know that her sister had everything she needed from the 1st baby but wanted to celebrate the new baby as well. they asked that everyone bring a pack of diapers and wipes. Anything else was opitional. It turned out great and really helped. Lets face it...diapers are one gift that always gets used!

good idea! 

CanyonMama

Chiming in on this board for the first time. I've always been anti shower for baby #2 and beyond. But, here I am on baby #2 (different sex than the first, but I really have almost everything we need), and two girlfriends really wanted to throw a shower. I declined, but they pushed back that every baby deserves to be celebrated--and it doesn't have to be a big, gift-focused event like the first shower was. So, I gave in! We're doing an evening thing--and it's just going to be a time for friends to hang out and probably eat lots of chocolate! The invite was worded that gifts aren't necessary, but if anybody wants to bring something, diapers are always handy. 

mannasmommy

Baby Showers are for celebrating a new life. All these rules are just made up by GREEDY people that are to cheap to offer a small gift to celebrate a new life. There is absolutley nothing wrong with a second shower, or third or fourth. If people don't like it, then don't come! It's not about gifts, it's about the excitement and tradition of celebrating a beautiful new baby! I am pregnant with my 2nd child and my children will only be 21 months apart. However I did donate almost all of my 1st child's stuff to charity and gave it to families in need. I could care less about gifts when it comes to my second baby shower, just about loving people getting together to celebrate my new baby as they did the 1st one.

Lilredmama

I agree 100% that if someone wants to throw you a shower, then by all means, let them!! Since when is it "greedy" to celebrate the impending birth of a child?? Whether its your first, or second or third, I think they all should be celebrated. I am 8 mos pregnant with my second, and my best friend and mom are planning a shower for me, as well. My kids will only be 18 mos apart, and since they are so close in age, my son is still using many things that the newborn will need. We have taken care of most of the big things, but friends and family love to help! I dont understand why people get so weird when it comes to this- times are a changing people! Celebrate your kids with a shower, that way someday you can look back at pictures with them and not have to say, "oops, mommy felt too uncomfortable to have a shower to celebrate you, but here are pictures from your big brother's shower! we really went all out!" Its not about the gifts! Make it about the child you already have and celebrate their becoming a big brother/sister if that makes you feel better. good luck, and whatever you do, do what makes YOU happy and comfortable. Who cares what other people think?? :-)

PiRSquared330

mannasmommy:

Baby Showers are for celebrating a new life. All these rules are just made up by GREEDY people that are to cheap to offer a small gift to celebrate a new life. There is absolutley nothing wrong with a second shower, or third or fourth. If people don't like it, then don't come! It's not about gifts, it's about the excitement and tradition of celebrating a beautiful new baby! I am pregnant with my 2nd child and my children will only be 21 months apart. However I did donate almost all of my 1st child's stuff to charity and gave it to families in need. I could care less about gifts when it comes to my second baby shower, just about loving people getting together to celebrate my new baby as they did the 1st one.

 

lol. I'm actually laughing out loud at this. Yes, people who think its impolite to have a second shower when you already have everything are the greedy ones.

 

I love this logic. It cracks me up.

 

If you don't care about gifts, then just have a gathering to celebrate your new LO instead of registering for gifts. Crazy, I know

PiRSquared330

Sorry OP, I should answer your question

 

I think I would just make it more of a get together and either say "no gifts" or just don't register (then most will bring clothes and diapers). GL!