The anticlimactic part of having a scheduled C-section

TheCricket

I know that unless the boys want out sooner, my DH and and I will become parents exactly three weeks from today. At 7:30 am, to be exact.

It feels so weird to know this - like we're checking in to a hotel or something. It also sort of feels like playing God (or the Flying Spaghetti Monster, or whatever). But... I also know that if it we not for this method of delivery, the three of us would most likely not be able to make it through a vaginal delivery when fate would have us go into labor. So... I can't be upset - but it still feels so odd.

Anyone else with a planned C-section feel kind of strange about knowing exactly when things are going to happen?

expecting-n-tx

It actually is making me stress more. Although they called today and moved my time. Just 2 hours, and I am happier about the time 9am instead of 7:30am which means the person watching DD doesnt have to be at my house until 6:30 instead of 4:30ish

Luvsox09

Whoa. i would swear you were reading my mind!  Mine just recently got scheduled, because of a likely shoulder dystocia, so I havent known about my CS for long, but YES, it is weird.  It's like, hey! let's throw it on the calendar like dinner reservations or an eye appointment.  Plus, this is my first, so my brain is in overdrive thinking and stressing.  I just wish LO would come early, so I wouldnt have to "plan" his arrival, as it were.  I was kinda looking forward to the suprprise.

RubineLime

Mine was semi-planned with DD. I knew 3 days ahead of time that I was going to have the CS, but literally didn't find out until 2 hours beforehand that I was having her THAT afternoon.

The L&D nurse called me and said, "So, you wanna have a baby today?"

No lie. We packed up and left the house at 3:30. DD was born at 5:27. 

andre07

Today must be schedule a c-section day.  I finally did it.  I didn't have to, but I think I needed to so that it became more of a reality.  Its always been an option but I never really looked at it that way.  But definitely weird putting it in my phone calendar.  I might even decide to postpone it since I still have some time (will be 39 weeks on Wed) or maybe he will turn on his own and I will go into labor.  

alli&pat

I definitely think it's weird to know, as well.  We were actually keeping DD's name a secret for a long time so at least there was SOME excitement and anticipation for others' when we had her...but my poor DH sucks at keeping secrets and kept accidentally letting it slip and then getting bright red and feeling really bad...so now everyone knows everything.

We even have our calendar marked as "Lauren's birthday." 

MrsB*7*21

I am very Type A, so I love having a "plan" for when they will come.  None of my family and friends can believe that I am still Team Green since I am such a planner.  Anyway, knowing the date and time is comforting to me...even though I have had an uneventful pregnancy, it's the light at the end of the tunnel.

UGAbride

Feels much the same with a scheduled induction...both times I walked into the hospital not in labor at all, and just went about the process of giving birth like it was an appointment.  Kind of anticlimactic, for sure, although I guess there is a little more room for excitement with a vaginal delivery (but really, I don't WANT a crazy story to tell at that point, just a baby in my arms!). 

christyp80

Haha!  My sister had a CS with her daughter, and she told me that the L&D nurse called her the week before and asked what her schedule looked like the following week.  Asked when she was free.  My sister was like, "Um, when am I free to have my first child born?  I'm pretty sure I can make it whenever you need me to."  I wonder if they actually talk to people who are like, "well, Tuesday's not good, Wednesday I've got plans in the afternoon, but we could maybe squeeze it in Wed morning..."

desibee610

I'm actually pretty relieved to know when my son will get here...I like it better than not knowing.  I am, however, a little scared of going into labor early.  I never went into labor with my daughter and had a CS at 41 weeks, so I don't know what to expect if I do.  So far this pregnancy has been completely different from my first, so I wouldn't be surprised if my son decides he doesn't want to wait!

andre07

christyp80:

Haha!  My sister had a CS with her daughter, and she told me that the L&D nurse called her the week before and asked what her schedule looked like the following week.  Asked when she was free.  My sister was like, "Um, when am I free to have my first child born?  I'm pretty sure I can make it whenever you need me to."  I wonder if they actually talk to people who are like, "well, Tuesday's not good, Wednesday I've got plans in the afternoon, but we could maybe squeeze it in Wed morning..."

 Haha, this actually kind of sounded like me this morning.  I was like "well I've got the chiro on Wednesday and my in-laws don't get here until Friday so..."  I was caught off guard when the nurse called me back and said "Would Wednesday, Friday or Monday work?"  I was expecting to talk to my doctor and she would tell me to wait longer to see if the baby turns, but then just went ahead and said "okay Friday works" knowing that I can always decide to wait.  Doesn't even seem real that he could actually be in my arms on Friday morning if I stick with it.

andre07

christyp80:

Haha!  My sister had a CS with her daughter, and she told me that the L&D nurse called her the week before and asked what her schedule looked like the following week.  Asked when she was free.  My sister was like, "Um, when am I free to have my first child born?  I'm pretty sure I can make it whenever you need me to."  I wonder if they actually talk to people who are like, "well, Tuesday's not good, Wednesday I've got plans in the afternoon, but we could maybe squeeze it in Wed morning..."

 Haha, this actually kind of sounded like me this morning.  I was like "well I've got the chiro on Wednesday and my in-laws don't get here until Friday so..."  I was caught off guard when the nurse called me back and said "Would Wednesday, Friday or Monday work?"  I was expecting to talk to my doctor and she would tell me to wait longer to see if the baby turns, but then just went ahead and said "okay Friday works" knowing that I can always decide to wait.  Doesn't even seem real that he could actually be in my arms on Friday morning if I stick with it.

Lisa Frank

Yeah, it's strange to think that there is a D-day already planned (at my 20 week appt!) but it's still in the back of my mind that it's not set in stone This baby could definitely come sooner!

shanatait2be

I feel kind of funny about it, too. With DS#1 I was induced and it ended in a c-section. I held out as long as I could before my Dr wouldn't let me anymore. I so badly wanted to have that funny story and memories of "waking DH up in the middle of the night and say it's time" or my water breaking in the middle of dinner or something crazy like that. Hahaha. That was just how I had always envisioned it. But, no, it did not happen that way. And this time around, it's not even an option. So, I am a little saddened by the fact that there is no "mystery" or guessing or anything. It's more of an appointment. But, like you said, as long as we are all safe in the end, I will just be happy to meet my little boy.

But, I have always felt a little "robbed" of that experience, in all honesty.

shanatait2be

expecting-n-tx:

It actually is making me stress more. Although they called today and moved my time. Just 2 hours, and I am happier about the time 9am instead of 7:30am which means the person watching DD doesnt have to be at my house until 6:30 instead of 4:30ish

Mine is at 5 AM and we live 90 miles from the hospital. My Mother and Father will be staying with my son and we will all be staying at a hotel the night before so we will be up there already. Not super convenient, so I hear ya about being glad the time got moved.

alswitch

I loved knowing when but it did take a little surprise away.  I would do it the same way again though, I'm a planner.  DD arrived 3 days before Christmas too so it was extra helpful to know she was arriving before and not during/after.  It was also so exciting to look forward to, like a 5 year old knowing they're going to Disney in the morning   Congrats and good luck!

RayRay007

lol flying spaghetti monster

I would feel really weird about it too. I've had plenty of friends be induced or have c-sections and always wanted to ask, doesn't it seem weird in some way? To know when exactly you're going to have your baby? To me, that's what childbirth is all about - the anticipation and excitement of the unexpected time of arrival and the announcement that it is a boy or a girl! Obviously, if someone needs a csection or induction, that's a different story. But it would still be hard for me to wrap my mind around the thought that I know that I'm going to go in at a certain time and come out with a baby.