Who to invite to shower

angiek1

My sister in laws want to throw me a shower in June and are already requesting the invite list. Do these work like a bridal shower where I invite all of my husband's aunts and cousins? Just curious b/c I'm totally in the dark on this one.

PurplePanda83

If the SIL is on your DH's side (and not your brothers wife) then I would talk to her about inviting her aunts and cousins and such. Typically I would think these people would be invited.

rhubarb123

If they are close to your DH then I would say they would be invited.  Just because you don't know someone doesn't exclude them (if they know and are close to your DH). 

LadyXaverian

Aunts and 1st cousins are invited to my shower, but not 2nd and 3rd cousins.

EastCoastBride

Well, on one hand, I don't see showers in general as "invite everyone you know" events.  W/ weddings, some people think it's "all women invited to the wedding".  I disagree.

I feel showers are meant to be smaller, more personal events. People who you know and see/ keep in touch w/ on a regular basis. 

however, there needs to be some balance w/ the expectations of hsi family.  Do they expect to be invited?  Is that how it's "done" on his side?  (However, that still doesn't mean you HAVE to do it- your hostesses pocketbook ultimately dictates how many people are invited). 

Just because you invited them to your wedding shower doesn't mean you have to invite them to your baby shower.  And you don't have to invite "all" aunts just because you invite one you see all the time but don't see the others ever. 

But again- feel out your DH about this.