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July 2011 Moms
kellyt327
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What are you afraid of?
kellyt327
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I know we all have fears...rational or otherwise....that nag us in the back of our minds. It took me 2 years to get pregnant after an ectopic pregnancy, and I thought my biggest fear was never getting pregnant. Now that I'm in the full swing of pregnancy, I have about 100 NEW fears. These are a few, in no particular order:
Birth Defects (any kind. No matter what, I will love the heck out of my LO)
Late Miscarriage (now that I'm past the common MC stage)
Pre-Term Labor
Being on Bed Rest (How will I afford it!?!?!)
A Stillborn Baby
Labor Pain
Episiotomy
Epidural
Post-Partum Depression
Going back to work
Losing friends because life has changed
My husband will suck (lol)
I will be a bad mother or not know what to do (that last part is bound to happen at some point in the first day or two at least)
Going through this without my mom (I lost her 2 1/2 years ago 
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What are some of your fears??????
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Re: What are you afraid of?
This exact advice came from my aunt...a woman who went through 10 rounds of IVF and has 3 amazing children. This advice is probably the best I have received so far and has helped me so much!
If I had to name a fear, it would be having a c/s. I understand that it is within the realm of possibilities and that there is only so much I can do to help prevent it. But obviously having my baby in my arms is more important then having the perfect L&D.
I'm with you on the first 5. I'm not afraid of the labor pain, but I am not looking forward to it. Here are a few of mine
How we will afford 2 children and pay for DH's school on just my paycheck.
Worried our house won't sell before July.
And hoping I won't be evil when I have to go back to work due to sleep deprivation. I am not looking forward to the exhaustion at all.
I think these fears are normal, and Im sorry you have to do it with out your mom!
for me, I had a lot of complications with my last pregnancy, starting at 33 weeks, I went into pre-term labor, which they got stopped with medications, but my baby didnt respond well to the medicine so, they stopped it, but kept me on bed rest, and I was in and out of the hospital with pre-term labor until 35 weeks, and then I developed pre-eclampsia at 36 weeks, and was induced because of it just before 37 weeks, which lead to an emergency C section, that didnt heal correctly,so they had to pack the incision twice a day for 3 months. With all of that obviously, Im worried it will happen again, but I was amazed how much of it really doesnt matter as long as you and the baby are healthy when it is all over.
As far as the bad mom fear, the fact that you care means you will probalby be a good mom. I think with the first one, everyone comes across something where they dont know what to do. It is ok to ask people what to do, and when in doubt, they are just little people, and you will find that you have more of the answers than you think you do.
If loose your friends, they werent real friends anyway, and you will make new friends with other mommies. there are so manythings to worry about, and i think worry comes along with being a mom, but there are so many things to be excited about too...more than you can even know, being a mom is the best and most rewarding thing in life (in my opinion), its a lot of work, but it is really worth it.
These are all pretty common but since I went into PTL at 29 weeks last time and was put on bedrest for 6 weeks my big fear is that happening again but sooner.
My job is where the Health Insurance comes from so I dont know what I will do if I get put on bedrest before 28 weeks. Or even bigger, not making it far enough for the baby to survive. I am really hoping to make it to at least 35 weeks again.
- The anatomy scan showing anything but a healthy baby.
- Bedrest. I have two weddings prior to the LO and I finally get to take a full maternity leave. I would hate to have to find backups to photograph for me or for my bedrest to cut into my maternity leave.
- A c/s. I really want to have a birth experience similar to the natural, unmedicated birth of DS. A c/s could also prove an issue with weddings scheduled after LO arrives.
- Difficulties BFing LO. It was by no means easy with DS, but I have a few friends who after successfully BFing their firstborn had a ton of issues with LO#2.
- SIDS.
I have no idea how I forgot to list that. It's kind of been keeping me up at night lately!
My biggest concerns right now are pre term labor and/or an incompetent cervix...both of which are more common with multiples.
But honestly I'm less worried about those things then I was about a 1st tri. miscarriage.
After 2 years, Injects, PCOS diagnosis and 2 IUI's, we were blessed with our beautiful twin girls!
Baby Girl #3!
This. My first pregnancy was a horiffic nightmare, so this time I'm pretty calm and grounded about it all. Unless there's a repeat of my first, nothing will be that bad.
That said I'm freaked about my next U/S. 20 weeks was when we found out Hope had complications. Once I get through that I'll be fine.
I do worry sometimes about random stuff. I think we all do, but I just remind myself I lived through it once, I'll be okay this time if need be too.