Why do I compare?

firsttogo

All my friends who had a baby when Gwen was due, or even around when she was born are posting about all of the milestones they are hitting, that Gwen is not, and I KNOW it is because she was 7 weeks early, but she is not rolling over, ect. I feel like I have to hide it, even though there is nothing to be shamed about...

I hate that... FB is not a friend sometimes!

ShannonSky

Go easy on yourself, babe, she just needs time to catch up! Ellie was 6 weeks early and didn't roll for what seemed like forever, but she started walking just after her first birthday and now totally keeps up with her peers. I get compliments all the time on how great she's doing.

sasa625

I do the same thing!! Even though I know DD is right on track with all of her milestones, I always worry when other people talk/post about what their LOs are doing. My friend has a daughter who is 3 days older than DD. Her daughter is talking in 4+ word sentences, singing songs, reciting nursery rhymes, etc. DD is still using single words, sometimes 2 words... which is still normal for her age! She has over 100 words now and understands everything, but I still compare and then start to worry (and I should mention, I'm a speech therapist... I know that DD has more words than she "needs" right now!) All of my child development knowledge/training goes out the window when it comes to DD though.

Just remember, 7 weeks early or not, all babies do things on their schedule. DD didn't walk until 16 months old (her little friends were running by then) and she still doesn't have the greatest gross motor skills. Our pedi isn't concerned at all (and neither is the OT I work with, who I consulted of course ) Just remember that your little girl is perfect!!

krissyh21

I do that too with Dillon and have to remind myself constantly that he was born 5 weeks sooner. It helps me now that he is getting bigger and has reached most of the firsts, except for walking on his own, but that will come. They always did.

Mouseygail

its so hard not to...i wish there was an off button!!  (((HUGS!!)))  You KNOW that she was born so early and that you can't really compare, so just keep reminding yourself of that!

Christakim

I'm doing the same thing already.  They both still haven't smiled, but I think they are both close (Jules is closer than Tucker) but I digress.  It's just something you have to get used to being a mom of a preemie.  You just have to think, it could've been so much worse and concentrate on what she IS doing well:)

AlissaCell701

I am struggling with this too! It's soo hard to not compare..Jake is struggling with sitting and has some issues with his "core muscles". We are having pt 2x a week at our house and it really seems to help..but he is still NOT sitting.

Anyway, we have our little friday afternoon baby class..and this was the topic that we were discussing. Why do we compare as mothers..it was really interesting and I am REALLY trying not to do this. But it's hard when you see all the other kids who are 6mnths plus and sitting..I am just learning how to block it all out and not "over share" which is sometimes my problem..

I also have to remember that Jake was a small baby and he has made HUGE strides over these last 6 months. He is happy, healthy and growing everyday and that's all that matters!

MayDayGirl

Brighton didn't roll over until he was 8 months and he was only 10 days early

j11skate

I am doing the exact same thing.  I always have and dh is always reminding me that she'll get there.  Hugs because I know how it feels!  Our little ones will get there soon enough!