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Not sure what to do next.

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I have been thinking about our "snowbaby" for the last couple of days and trying to decide what to do.   Our RE said that he wouldn't do an FET until 1 year after quitting breast feeding.  Next month, we are there.  In May the clinic will ask us for more money to keep our embryo frozen.

I am terrified of my one embie not surviving the thaw.  I would feel better if we had 2 or 3, but we don't.  I started looking at embryo adoption sites tonight, and the costs are huge!  I don't know where we would turn next if our embie didn't stick.  I would give anything to be fertile...well anything except Miller 'cause he rocks!!!!

Sorry for the whine.  I know there are no answers, but I just had to get it out. 

Image by TinyPic Me 43, DH 49 Married November 3, 2007 TTC #1 since November 2007 First RE appointment May 13, HSG 5/17- tubes are clear, SA - very good, FSH 6.8, rubella immunity, saline sonogram 7/2 - uterine polyps, hysteroscopy date FINALLY 9/4! Blood pressure and thyroid are under control! Come on BFP!!!! My Blog IUI#1 1/14 , AF=BFN 1/28, IUI #2 3/9, AF=BFN 3/20 Cycle 20 IVF #1 = BFP!!! Beta #1- 196 Beta #2- 784 Egg retrieval 5/1 - 11 eggs! Update 5/2 - 9 mature, 7 fertilized! Embryo transfer 5/6 - transferred 2 beautiful blasts and have one snowbaby Induction scheduled for 01/11/10 - 38 weeks, 1 day April 3, 2012 FET with snowbaby (identical twins) BFN and a big broken heart Moving on to DE Image and video hosting by TinyPic Image and video hosting by TinyPic Image and video hosting by TinyPic Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker8/2012-Donor chosen! 9/2012-12/2012-Donor passed all testing, off BC pills, waiting to complete 2 full cycles. 12/16/2012-cannot move forward with donor, cycles not regulating. 12/17-New proven donor 1/11- started Lupron on our baby boy's 3rd birthday 
Egg retrieval 2/27 - 27 eggs, 24 mature, 19 fertilized
Embryo transfer 3/4 - 2 beautiful, hatching blasts and nothing left to freeze.  Beta #1 461 9dp5dt. Beta #2 1230 11dp5dt.
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    Hugs to you, girl!

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  • oceanangelbeautyoceanangelbeauty
    Wow good to see you we were pregnant together. Good luck with the snow baby.
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  • NewMrs07NewMrs07 member
    I guess if I were you I would try the IVF with your one embie. Sure, it could be a huge waste of money if it doesn't stick, but at least you know you tried. Think about how you will feel 10 yrs from now. If you think you'll regret not having tried one more time, then do it! And you never know, maybe it will work. If not, you have your sweet boy Miller now and you will also have peace of mind that you gave it one last shot.Left Hug
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  • indianasunshineindianasunshine member

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    I guess if I were you I would try the IVF with your one embie. Sure, it could be a huge waste of money if it doesn't stick, but at least you know you tried. Think about how you will feel 10 yrs from now. If you think you'll regret not having tried one more time, then do it! And you never know, maybe it will work. If not, you have your sweet boy Miller now and you will also have peace of mind that you gave it one last shot.Left Hug

    I totally agree.  We will definitely try because I could never just let my embie go.  I figure that they told me I had a very slim chance of having any left to freeze, and I beat the odds once already.   

    Image by TinyPic Me 43, DH 49 Married November 3, 2007 TTC #1 since November 2007 First RE appointment May 13, HSG 5/17- tubes are clear, SA - very good, FSH 6.8, rubella immunity, saline sonogram 7/2 - uterine polyps, hysteroscopy date FINALLY 9/4! Blood pressure and thyroid are under control! Come on BFP!!!! My Blog IUI#1 1/14 , AF=BFN 1/28, IUI #2 3/9, AF=BFN 3/20 Cycle 20 IVF #1 = BFP!!! Beta #1- 196 Beta #2- 784 Egg retrieval 5/1 - 11 eggs! Update 5/2 - 9 mature, 7 fertilized! Embryo transfer 5/6 - transferred 2 beautiful blasts and have one snowbaby Induction scheduled for 01/11/10 - 38 weeks, 1 day April 3, 2012 FET with snowbaby (identical twins) BFN and a big broken heart Moving on to DE Image and video hosting by TinyPic Image and video hosting by TinyPic Image and video hosting by TinyPic Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker8/2012-Donor chosen! 9/2012-12/2012-Donor passed all testing, off BC pills, waiting to complete 2 full cycles. 12/16/2012-cannot move forward with donor, cycles not regulating. 12/17-New proven donor 1/11- started Lupron on our baby boy's 3rd birthday 
    Egg retrieval 2/27 - 27 eggs, 24 mature, 19 fertilized
    Embryo transfer 3/4 - 2 beautiful, hatching blasts and nothing left to freeze.  Beta #1 461 9dp5dt. Beta #2 1230 11dp5dt.
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  • dkaysdkays
    Hugs! Keep the faith!
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  • ateytelbateytelb
    Sending you good vibes and wishing lots of luck.
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  • BrideBuddiesBrideBuddies member

    One shot at it is better than no shot at all.  Plus, there are always other options to investigate as well, like you mentioned.  You're certainly not one-foot-in-the-grave!

    When I got pregnant, we'd just thrown the word "adoption" out there and BAM!  That's always an option, unless you're dead-set on carrying your own child, etc.

    GL

     

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  • SFAug07SFAug07 member
    Thinking of you and wishing you the best of luck with the snow baby!!!
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