Losing it

bicicletti

DH and I have been fighting every single day for the past 2 weeks.  I don't know why, but I resent him for sleeping when I get up through the night and I resent him for going out and working even though I can step back and rationalize and say he needs sleep and he needs to work...

I love being with our little man and he makes me pretty happy --- it's so strange because DH and I are so effing pissy but our baby is always happy and cheerful.  It is so fuckked up because we will argue while he's right there and it breaks my heart --- yet we do it despite saying "we'll never argue infront of him again."

I just feel like I am losing it.  I am sorry for the pity post.  I don't really want pity.  It's just ---- I don't even have my close friends here.  My mom is crazy.  My best friend can't fly out to see me because her DH is an alcoholic.  I've met women at church, but they get competitive and I can't take it.  I'm at home with our DS during the week, and I feel like DH resents me for being able to stay home, when I can't even get sh!t done around the house and do my job right.

 To compound things, I need someone to talk to for emotional release....DH doesn't talk and in fact hates talking and finds me annoying when I recount my day, even if I'm cheerful.  His release is going off somewhere and being alone.  WTF?  We knew this about each other before we got married, but WTF. 

I just can't have this going on as DS grows up.  I don't know what to do.  We try to work through things, but to no avail and end up screaming. 

Ok, gotta make lunch.  Thanks for making it this far if you did!
 

GRKaters

That sucks. Can you and DS go to a story time a the library, or other mom-and-me activities? Meeting new people and just getting out of the house may help. Good luck.

 

adri77

Totally NORMAL.  And it will get better, might take awhile, but it will.  This is my 2nd baby, we went through it with our first, and are going through it again with this baby.  Would like to elaborate, but I have a crying baby.  Just know that it's normal and you will get through it.

inateapot

My DH & I have been struggling wtih the same issues - lots of fighting and arguing.  I'm a SAHM and I think he resents it and I resent being one (some days, not all!!).  

I don't have any answers, but hopefully it will get better!  I think sleep deprivation is the root of most of our fighting.  The other night I finally told DH that if he kept implying (he never came out & said it) that I was a bad mom, I was packing up the kid & the dog and leaving.  And I meant every word.  He's been awfully nice ever since.

 Also!!  Look on meetup.org for a local moms group - I know it'd be great to meet some other moms in the area.  Hang in there and good luck!

ketamarie

I am sorry that you are going through this. I feel like my husband and I are headed down the same path. Nothing has been said out loud but little innuendos here and there are adding up. I am curious to see what others recomend on this.