Somewhat embarassing question [:$]

adrenalinejnke27

I think I have a low sex drive. This has actually been an issue in my relationship for a whille, because DH's sex drive is way higher than mine. If willing, he'd want to have sex every other day, all month long. Me, if not for TTC and not wanting to let my poor DH down, would probably be happy with once a month.

 I love my DH, am attracted to him, and he does work really hard to please me. I do enjoy sex once we get going, most of the time.  

I wonder if I had a higher sex drive, we'd be more likely to have conceived by now because we'd be having more sex?

Is anyone else in the same boat? Any ideas to help this issue?

TIA

jb2rn

were you on birth control pills long term? I brought this up once with my MD years ago, she actually tested my testosterone levels and they were normal.

long term pill use (even after you stop) can effect sex drive.

I was on the pill 14 years prior to stopping in Aug. My sex drive is up a little since then, but I would be perfectly happy with about once a week or so if we weren't TTC.

Danica3160

I don't have a huge sex drive either - I am happy with once a week but my DH would rather do it every or every other day.  My sex drive has been better since we have been TTC as I am more excited to do it for the hopes of a wonderful outcome. 

Try different ways to get yourself aroused easier and get your husband on board to try some new things (back rub, foot rub, bath, adult movie ?, snuggling).  GL!!

adrenalinejnke27

I did think it had to do with BC. I was on it for 6 years and when I went off, by sex drive went through the roof for 2 months, then it went back to being low again. Maybe I'll bring it up the next time I have my annual in May (if I'm not pregnant by then!) and see what my Dr. says.

 

hopefulinCO

I have a very low sex drive as well.  It's very hard to get me interested.  Don't feel embarrassed. 

I'm on anti-depressents and I think that's part of my issue.  It has gotten a bit better since getting of BCP.  Lots of foreplay helps me!  GL!

huskymomma94

Danica3160:

I don't have a huge sex drive either - I am happy with once a week but my DH would rather do it every or every other day.  My sex drive has been better since we have been TTC as I am more excited to do it for the hopes of a wonderful outcome. 

Try different ways to get yourself aroused easier and get your husband on board to try some new things (back rub, foot rub, bath, adult movie ?, snuggling).  GL!!

 

hee hee this with the shame face made me giggle

JoAnna914

hopefulinCO:

I have a very low sex drive as well.  It's very hard to get me interested.  Don't feel embarrassed. 

I'm on anti-depressents and I think that's part of my issue.  It has gotten a bit better since getting of BCP.  Lots of foreplay helps me!  GL!

Same here, and definitely don't feel embarrassed.  I was on the pill for 15 years, and I'm sure that has something to do with it.  The way I deal with it is just willing myself to initiate, because, like others here, once we get going, I'm into it.  But if we're being 100% honest, I can think of dozens of things that make me more excited than the prospect of sex, lol.

erockmomma

If you're a late night tv watcher, my suggestion is to turn the tv off an hour earlier than usual.  If we stay up too late watching tv neither one of us has any interest because we're just too tired.  If you're bored and in bed early, what else are you going to do? 

abnormal06

Do most woman have a sex drive that is equal or comparable to their husbands? I have to think not. haha.