Really MIL?

old_time_girl

MIL wants to get her own pack n play and her own crib. Really? Like, how often are we going to be leaving the child there? And even if we do decided to go out for a date or something, I can tell you that we'll be hiring a babysitter to stay at our house and put little one to bed. Not stay at grandma's until we come back, wake baby up, put it in a carseat, drive 10 miles and try to put it back to bed? HA! (Oh, and MIL babysitting at our house is out of the question.) She's too over weight to walk up stairs....yeah. I'm not even going to think about her trying to walk up the stairs with a LO in her arms.    scary.

jmurphy1864

Ha! That is a little overbearing but hey she isn't asking you to spend the money on the stuff so let her do it...is this her first grandchild? Maybe she is just really excited

old_time_girl

It's her first grandchild, but she still have 2 sons living at home. They are not thrilled with the idea of SHARING their room with a squaling baby. (They're in HS and Collage, they really don't know how to be quiet) We already get phone calls and texts from the boys complaining that the living room is full of baby stuff and could we please get it out of here? Um, sorry boys, but that's not our stuff. MIL wanted to have baby stuff on hand at her place. (In case we just drop the child off and move to another planet?)

katie4253

You sound kind of bitchy imo.

Why do you care what she buys?

She is excited about having a grand child.  How terrible of her....

cburitz

My parents have bought a car seat, pack n play, bouncer, & they have an old (not recalled) crib they plan to use.

DH and I live 15 minutes away... I have no idea why my mom thinks the baby needs his/her own nursery at their house.   I just smile and nod a lot.

ETA: It's my parents first grandchild and they are SUPER excited so I don't really mind.

mainemommy

katie4253:

You sound kind of bitchy imo.

Why do you care what she buys?

She is excited about having a grand child.  How terrible of her....

All of this. Maybe she's hoping you'll be a good person & let her grandchild have overnights with her. It may seem creepy but grandchildren are the most amazing special thing in the entire world to most grandparents. As far as my parents are concerned my kids basically walk on water.

Relax & be excited she wants something to do with the baby, some people on here dont have that.

dairygirl19

katie4253:

You sound kind of bitchy imo.

Why do you care what she buys?

She is excited about having a grand child.  How terrible of her....

This! My MIL has a house full of baby gear and it's the most handy thing ever. Esp. for my SILS/BILS and kids that live aways away..they don't have to pack all that crap just to come for the weekend. Even the ones that live nearby don't have to grab more than a diaper and a bottle to come over for dinner or whatever. It's nice to put the babe to sleep in a pack n play and have fun with a boardgame/family activities etc. Even when grandma babysits on quick trips to the store it's handy, drop the kid off and be gone.

I know you say she won't babysit a lot, but you may need her and it may come in handy so it let be. She's happy and excited.

I never did understand why girls get so worked about moms/mils buying stuff..I think it's gracious and handy.

aesf

my parents got a crib, used but not recalled and not dropsided and are getting a pack n play.  I couldnt be more delighted with some free child care help.

aesf

old_time_girl:

MIL wants to get her own pack n play and her own crib. Really? Like, how often are we going to be leaving the child there? And even if we do decided to go out for a date or something, I can tell you that we'll be hiring a babysitter to stay at our house and put little one to bed. Not stay at grandma's until we come back, wake baby up, put it in a carseat, drive 10 miles and try to put it back to bed? HA! (Oh, and MIL babysitting at our house is out of the question.) She's too over weight to walk up stairs....yeah. I'm not even going to think about her trying to walk up the stairs with a LO in her arms.    scary.

Isnt it possible you could be visting and LO need a nap? 

old_time_girl

I am being bitchy. There is a long back story that I didn't feel like getting into on here, but I'll be more than happy to share if you want me too! :-) 

cburitz:

My parents have bought a car seat, pack n play, bouncer, & they have an old (not recalled) crib they plan to use.

DH and I live 15 minutes away... I have no idea why my mom thinks the baby needs his/her own nursery at their house.   I just smile and nod a lot.

Yeah, I can see a carseat, bouncer....I'll even stretch and say a pack n play. But a crib? Yeah, like you, I just kinda smile and laugh it off. But at home I secretly wonder if she wants my child for her own....? Haha. J/K

 

 

dairygirl19

I'd also add you'd be amazed at how many people and my family esp. leave the kids overnight at grandma's when they need a sitter for the night. Sometimes it's hard esp. when it's cold to stop by bundle up a little one and put them back in the car when it's late. Also sometimes my inlaws do it so they can sleep in in the morning once in awhile as well. It's the whole never wake a sleeping baby.

mainemommy

old_time_girl:

I am being bitchy. There is a long back story that I didn't feel like getting into on here, but I'll be more than happy to share if you want me too! :-) 

Well you didnt say that before silly, back storys can change everything.

katie4253

old_time_girl:

I am being bitchy. There is a long back story that I didn't feel like getting into on here, but I'll be more than happy to share if you want me too! :-)

No, no need to explain to me.  I really don't care.  Just don't expect to go on a message board.  Complain about something lame like, "OMG my MIL wants to have a Pack-N-Play at her house".  Then, make rude comments about her weight, and expect people to be all, "you are right, what a terrible MIL!"

 

ETA: back stories do change the meaning of things.  But the PNP and her weight still seem irrelevant.  

cburitz

old_time_girl:

I am being bitchy. There is a long back story that I didn't feel like getting into on here, but I'll be more than happy to share if you want me too! :-) 

cburitz:

My parents have bought a car seat, pack n play, bouncer, & they have an old (not recalled) crib they plan to use.

DH and I live 15 minutes away... I have no idea why my mom thinks the baby needs his/her own nursery at their house.   I just smile and nod a lot.

Yeah, I can see a carseat, bouncer....I'll even stretch and say a pack n play. But a crib? Yeah, like you, I just kinda smile and laugh it off. But at home I secretly wonder if she wants my child for her own....? Haha. J/K

My parents already had the crib so they didn't have to spend any money on it. I think it will come in handy if DH and I want an "alone" night. My mom has already offered to watch the baby Saturdays & Sundays. I'm sure after a few months, I will be taking her up on the offer.

It will be convenient to not have to bring a ton of baby stuff over every time I go to their house.

Just go with the flow for now. You can always put your foot down later if she steps out of line.

FyshWyfe

I don't know what your relationship is with your MIL, but I looooove leaving DD overnight with my mom or with her sitter.  DH and I get to go out, drink some martinis, see a movie, come home after hours, and sleep in as late as we want b/c DD is safe and sound in the crib my mom bought.  We also don't have to pack a diaper bag when we go over there b/c she has a changing table set up.  It's perfect. 

I think your MIL is being very sweet to even offer to keep your LO overnight.  Also, cribs are nice to have for naps during visits.  Even if you live just 10 miles away, you don't want to interrupt a nice visit or birthday party to take your baby home for a nap.   

I say unless your MIL has a drug problem or there's a safety concern, you should lighten up and be grateful that you have someone willing to take LO when you need a break.  

mbritto4

We had a pack & play at my Dad's house 3 miles away.  My Mom's friends were going to give her a grandparents shower and never got to host it before Mom passed.  So I exchanged a bunch of stuff and got a bare bones one for there.  It WAS helpful.  DD could nap while we had dinner at Dad's, and the changing table on it was nice to keep her off the floor where Dad's dog was. 

Sounds like your MIL is excited.  All mine says is "I hope its a boy." (Since we have a DD)

nbbride06

Mil has a crib, changing table, high chair, infant car seat base in her car, etc. My mom intends to get the same. I'm thrilled that they are willing to watch lo and be involved. My sil's kids spend the night at mil's house whenever they want a mini vacation. It's a wonderful thing.

Weezergrl

Your MIL sounds excited.  I think it's nice of her to want to have things at her house for the baby to be more comfortable when it's there.  As far as her wanting to babysit, I would be grateful that she is wanting to do it.  I think it's kind of sad that you are not trusting her to watch your baby because she is overweight.  I'm sure she wouldn't put the baby in danger.  She obviously has raised children before and I'm assuming if she has physical limitations she would find a way to accomodate for them and not put your child in danger.  Just because someone is overweight it doesn't mean that they are incompetant.  She is the baby's grandmother.  You can't blame her for wanting to be a part of the baby's life.  There are plenty of people who don't have this.  Be grateful for what you have.

kmoses10

mainemommy:

katie4253:

You sound kind of bitchy imo.

Why do you care what she buys?

She is excited about having a grand child.  How terrible of her....

All of this. Maybe she's hoping you'll be a good person & let her grandchild have overnights with her. It may seem creepy but grandchildren are the most amazing special thing in the entire world to most grandparents. As far as my parents are concerned my kids basically walk on water.

Relax & be excited she wants something to do with the baby, some people on here dont have that.

I don't really believe that this makes you a good or bad person. I do not plan on DD or the new baby having overnights until they are old enough to request them. I really don't see why someone needs to have my infant or newborn overnight. But I am also in the camp of using babysitters when it is only necessary, and usually hiring one so there is no score keeping between the grandparents.

kmoses10

mainemommy:

katie4253:

You sound kind of bitchy imo.

Why do you care what she buys?

She is excited about having a grand child.  How terrible of her....

All of this. Maybe she's hoping you'll be a good person & let her grandchild have overnights with her. It may seem creepy but grandchildren are the most amazing special thing in the entire world to most grandparents. As far as my parents are concerned my kids basically walk on water.

Relax & be excited she wants something to do with the baby, some people on here dont have that.

I don't really believe that this makes you a good or bad person. I do not plan on DD or the new baby having overnights until they are old enough to request them. I really don't see why someone needs to have my infant or newborn overnight. But I am also in the camp of using babysitters when it is only necessary, and usually hiring one so there is no score keeping between the grandparents.

mainemommy

kmoses10:

mainemommy:

katie4253:

You sound kind of bitchy imo.

Why do you care what she buys?

She is excited about having a grand child.  How terrible of her....

All of this. Maybe she's hoping you'll be a good person & let her grandchild have overnights with her. It may seem creepy but grandchildren are the most amazing special thing in the entire world to most grandparents. As far as my parents are concerned my kids basically walk on water.

Relax & be excited she wants something to do with the baby, some people on here dont have that.

I don't really believe that this makes you a good or bad person. I do not plan on DD or the new baby having overnights until they are old enough to request them. I really don't see why someone needs to have my infant or newborn overnight. But I am also in the camp of using babysitters when it is only necessary, and usually hiring one so there is no score keeping between the grandparents.

I love my kids, but I do not need them crammed up my a$$ 24/7 I am not the super clingy attachment parent type. Its good for the kids to bond with the grandparents, and to realize they are safe without us there. I also very much enjoy it for my sanity and for keeping a good strong realtionship with J.