We've really had no issues being a 2 mom family at our kids' school. We are the first same-sex family that they've had and we've been pleased with everyone's response.
When I got to school and one of the teacher's aids (who we don't like very much - but has nothing to do with us being gay) came running up and said, "I just wanted you to know that we were talking about families and I was saying that everyone has a mommy and a daddy. Some people don't live with their mommy or daddy, but everyone has one. I told them some people live with 2 moms or 2 days or 1 mom or 1 dad or grandparents, etc - but everyone has 1 mom and 1 dad. I just wanted you to know in case they say something."...then she babbled on about her own kids and how they don't live with their father, etc.
Me: Sigh. "Well, they don't have a dad, a daddy, or a father. To us those terms denote someone who is a parent - either in the home or not.They do not have a male parent in that sense. We don't know who their donor is and he isn't a parent to them. They know that they have 2 moms and because the kids don't understand or haven't asked about biology, we haven't talked about their donor yet - his gift to us and how his gift allowed us to have them."
I get that she was saying that that it takes a man/sperm to have a child, but she wasn't giving a biology lesson - she was talking about family composition. The kids didn't ask about having a father - and we read the Family Book that night at bed. I brought the Family Book (and the Mommy Book ) in to their school for her to read. L was pretty upset and you can be sure we'll be discussing this with the lead teacher at our parent-teacher conference next week.
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If she felt it was a problem that she needed to come running to you with , you would think maybe she should have discussed how to adress this ahead of time rather than trying to backtrack.
Sorry she is such a dimwit. Hopefully she will have learned something from this.
Agreed. She obviously understood she didn't explain things appropriately so I think it's great you are taking in books and going to talk to the lead teacher.
And I think we need to use the word 'dimwit' more often around here ;-)
Agreed. She obviously understood she didn't explain things appropriately so I think it's great you are taking in books and going to talk to the lead teacher.
And I think we need to use the word 'dimwit' more often around here ;-)
aww man .. well she is just an aid and when i work for a elementary school we were not allowed to do things like that and our school was BIG ON DIVERSITY.
You did handle it amazingly I would of lost my Sh***.
What books are you talking about would love to know so we can get them
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This is the book
https://www.amazon.com/Family-Book-Todd-Parr/dp/0316738964
When L went to pick them up, the aid that she hadn't read the books because she felt that the lead teacher should read it (she is out of town this week.) I think she knew she was over her head. :P
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Sounds like you handled it very well! I would have been very disappointed to. Classic case of someone putting adult thoughts (I know it takes a man and a woman to create a child) on kids who don't yet need that information.
I'll be interested to hear if anything else comes of this!
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