Told boy at 16 weeks....

nycitymomma

So I was told we are having a boy at 16 weeks...I saw the picture, which is convincing. 

However, I feel like I'm having a girl...all the cravings are girl, this pregnancy is totally different than my previous one when I had a boy...

 I don't know if it is just me being in denial or what...but has anyone been told they are having a boy at 16 weeks at finding out at 20 weeks it is a girl?

 I am desperate for a little girl!!!!

MrsNiner

Early ultrasounds aren't accurate.  It could change.  And I'd hope you would be happy no matter what sex your child is, regardless how desperate you are for a girl.

KtGirl88

It happens yes but I wouldnt get your hopes up. Could you see a "sack" in the picture? If so... you can really turn back at that point. Be glad your baby is healthy.... boy or girl, you can always have another one.

BoogieMonster629

sorry hun, if you saw a penis.. its a boy.. lol

pettycrocker

So you actually saw a little penis, you were convinced you saw a little penis.. But you're not sure you want to believe he has a penis?

Sorry no advice on this one..  

KtGirl88

BTW... if you are that desperate just take the circumcision a little too far and call him a her and dress him in pink. Thats what a desperate woman would do, right?

MrsNiner

KtGirl88:

BTW... if you are that desperate just take the circumcision a little too far and call him a her and dress him in pink. Thats what a desperate woman would do, right?

This. Please.

monicarosega

I am having my second boy and everything is different this time.  Every pregnancy is different, regardless of gender. You want a girl so bad that you are trying to talk yourself out of the fact that you know is true- You are having another boy.

I also found out at 16 weeks that it was a boy and it was very convincing... No maybes about.

Congrats on your boy.

Shelleybell

Don't feed the troll.

Julygirl80

I was told boy at 17 weeks and girl at 20 weeks.  So...as much as I dont want to tell you this, just dont get your hopes up. It happened to me and I am equally as happy but it was a shock and I still dont trust it!  Good luck!

kimbo1216

Well.  I knew someone who was told boy the entire pregnancy and oop, it's a girl!  Sometimes it's the umbilical cord.  Unless you've seen a definitive "turtle" (sack/testicles and penis, I believe) then it could change, but I wouldn't get your hopes up.  Most techs/docs won't guess if they aren't pretty sure.  BTW...they are looking for a "hamburger" for girls (3 lines that make up the labia).

In case you're interested: Turtle example

GL!  Either way, you are having what God meant for you to have.   So get excited!

Jessynlove

I just read that penis and clitorus is the same size before 18 weeks.

I am no expert though :-)

But, just be happy the baby is growing healthy :-) which Im sure you are... but your wording doesnt read that way.

nycitymomma

Oy, I'm sorry if my tone didn't come out that way.  My mind is everywhere these days!

 I love my little boy to death and feel so lucky and blessed to be able to give him a brother but for some reason my mind keeps thinking I'm having a girl...mother's intuition is wrong I guess.

 The "turtle" looked different than my son's but then again we found out at 16 weeks this time and with my son at 20 weeks. 

 I am blessed and thrilled for whatever comes out and yes, there is always time for a third!

Saltina11

Shelleybell:

Don't feed the troll.

This. I agree. I assume you are referring to the snarky comments!!!

Also, to the OP, there was a recent thread (I think on the July 2011 Board) about lots and lots of INCORRECT early ultrasounds. I know you will be happy either way, but I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you. You are allowed to have a preference! Sheesh. I really wish people would be nicer and more supportive of their fellow Bumpies. I'm tired of the holier than thou comments. Luckily, they seem to be relatively rare.

kjbarber86

Well, an ultrasound at 16 weeks isn't always accurate.  But you saw you saw the picture and it was pretty convincing.  So you saw a penis and you're still not convinced?

I'm also not one for believing in feelings.  I felt like I was having a girl but it's definitely a boy.  And you're saying that your cravings are girl.  What does that even mean?  Sweets?  Those are just old wive's tales.  Also, every pregnancy is different.

I think you're just wishing it was a girl.  Just be happy that your baby is healthy no matter if it's a girl or a boy.

prettyfish13

I also had a boy with my first, and am having a boy this time too. This pregnancy is sooo different than the first, and I kinda wondered if I was having a girl. Nope. So I don't think different pregnancy experiences = different gender. I'd continue thinking Boy until you have pretty good proof otherwise .

LuvTrav

The testicles usually don't descend until at least 20 weeks, which is why they typically wait to determine sex until then. Also the labia are very swollen in utero and can sometimes "look" like a penis. I would definitely wait to pick out baby stuff until your 20 week ultrasound. Keep us posted on the result!

lizz00344

I was convinced I was having a girl this time around, right down to almost hitting 'pay' for pink bedding. We had sex 6 days before I even ovulated (I was temping), so I was pretty convinced it would be a girl. I had a 16 week elective done for gender, and we were shocked to find out we were having another boy.

I too questioned if there was a 'glimmer' of girl chance left right up until my anatomy scan today. Thought maybe it was the cord, maybe she didn't have enough experience, blah blah blah- even though the picture was clear at 16 weeks. It was obviously all in my head, because he had no problem at all laying out the goods again today.

Gender mix-ups can happen, but I think they're more rare than not (when it comes to boys being boys). Once a penis, always a penis.

Congrats on your boy!

tswinson

nycitymomma:

Oy, I'm sorry if my tone didn't come out that way.  My mind is everywhere these days!

 I love my little boy to death and feel so lucky and blessed to be able to give him a brother but for some reason my mind keeps thinking I'm having a girl...mother's intuition is wrong I guess.

 The "turtle" looked different than my son's but then again we found out at 16 weeks this time and with my son at 20 weeks. 

 I am blessed and thrilled for whatever comes out and yes, there is always time for a third!

 Honestly, you don't have to justify anything to anyone hun. You are allowed to have a preference and honestly you are even allowed to be slightly disappointed if you hoped for say a girl and got a boy. But as long as you don't go spiraling into a deep depression over it then I'd say you're good!

I had a 16w 3day ultrasound (though by my count I was 17w 1d but that's not where LO was measuring). Anyway I too hoped for a girl but found out I'm having a boy. Boy or girl is fine as long as baby is healthy but yea I do think there is room for error. My anatomy scan is next week so DH and I will again pose the question of boy or girl just to be sure. 

Good luck and keep us posted!

damabo80

KtGirl88:

BTW... if you are that desperate just take the circumcision a little too far and call him a her and dress him in pink. Thats what a desperate woman would do, right?

::snort::

Oh, and I agree.

ETA: While it is true that an u/s at 20w is more accurate than one at 16w, it's only slightly more accurate. Ie: 95% accuracy at 16 weeks and 99% accuracy at 20 weeks.

I wouldn't paint the room pink quite yet based on that 3-4% difference.

Stellar1

I had to have an u/s at 16 weeks to check on my sch and we were told we are having a boy. It definitely is a BOY!!!!!!!!!!! 

raysn16

I have two boys - with my 2nd one, we had an early ultrasound at 16 weeks and it was for sure a boy.  My boys are such good little friends - 17 months apart...  I wanted one of each at the time, so then I was a little disappointed, but it has been great having two boys.  I am having an ultrasound around 16 weeks with this one too - I want to know what it is and either way, I will be okay with it