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July 2011 Moms
DMBfan41
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BF in public = weird
DMBfan41
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OK, I know, I know - it's perfectly natural BUT do I really want my boob out in front of total strangers, even if it is to feed my child? NO. I get the nursing covers but I also look at it kind of like texting. I would not be sitting at dinner with friends and whip out my boob in the middle of a conversation without a disclaimer. I think people need to be a little sensitive to the fact that it isn't seen as completely acceptable...maybe not the right word...but I don't think all ppl are COMFORTABLE with your suckling newborn. I plan on BFing and I am still a little creeped out by someone who is completely ok with taking their breast out in public. I guess I've spent years trying NOT to have a nip slip that I find it almost unnatural or AWish for a woman to whip out her breast and then look at you like "What? You have a problem? It's natural."
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Re: BF in public = weird
I think you might change your mind when you have a screaming child and haven't eaten yourself.
But, if you want to go nurse elsewhere no one is stopping you.
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HAHAHAHAHAH You are comparing Breast feeding to texting at the dinner table?!? Your profile name says it all... DuMB!!
Its not like I am going to whip my tit out and show everyone but if my baby needs to eat then you better believe I am going to feed her where ever I am.
This. also thats why I got a cover.
I agree with this. And although I face a little anxiety over bf in public, I am sure it will be different once LO is here. A lot of mom's say that once LO is born, their boobs are no longer their own. They belong to baby.
I agree. Even without a cover, the boob isn't even visible. You can be discreet. Plus, babies have big heads...they cover the boob.
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This is how I feel.
If the baby is hungry feed him. I don't care if it's in public, eating at a restaurant or not, I think it's acceptable. With that said I personally would feel more comfortable covering up my exposed nipple especially at a table around other people. But if others don't want to that's their prerogative and I have no problem with it.
When you have a starving screaming baby and would like to at least eat yourself/have an adult conversation/get something done, you will change your mind.
That and feeding your kid is not rude. It's not like you have a choice in the matter. Kid is hungry and that's all there is too it. You need to do something about it. People make the choice to text at the table and it's nowhere near as comparable as feeding your child. One can wait the other can't.
And very few bf mothers I know are all AW about it. Usually, they just do it without any pomp and circumstance around it and throw a blanket/cover over the baby in the meantime. The only person I know who's all Martyr Mom/AW about it is my SIL and she's completely BSC which is another story all together.
I'm pretty sure I'll almost always find a corner, a bathroom or something at least semi-private. No way will I be sitting at McDonalds eating my value meal with my nipple out.
I was very uncomfortable nursing in public at first, but after 2 or 3 times, it becomes natural.. I always use a cover, but that is my personal preference.
hmm, I am going to have to agree with you on this. A strangers "comfort" level is the absolute LEAST of my concerns when my child is hungry! Deal with it, you can turn your head or walk away but my childs needs will absolutely and always come before anyone elses desires. It's not like im walking around randomly flashing people for s&g's.
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I second this.
I'm really not trying to be snarky but would you want to eat in a bathroom?
Have fun in disgusting public bathrooms! ::shudder::
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Wow, well if you read before being obnoxious then you would see that "whipping your tit out" is precisely what I'm talking about. Of course I'll feed my child whenever but I think it's ridiculous to assume that everyone else (1) wants to see your naked breast -- I don't care it if that's right or not, it's true (2) I just find it aggravating to see women make it point to make everyone else feel uncomfortable just because they feel they have a right to.
Where exactly would you go to sit in a public bathroom? In the stall on the toilet seat? Unless you're in a Nordstrom with a nice area to sit and breastfeed, I'm going to go with it's more comfortable for everyone at the table with a cover than in a public restroom. But to each his own.
Have you ever seen someone breast fed? You don't "whip out your tit". You wear a nursing bra or tank and clothing that is easy to move to the side. Hardly anything shows.
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This is why I don't discuss BF in this forum. *Some*of these ladies are getting a LITTLE offensive in here.
I wouldn't mind if someone BF at a dinner table with me, but that's just me. I'm sure other people get wigged out by it but, who cares? It is a right for you to do so and I'm sure that baby would like to just eat and not be shuffled around before finding a place you deem appropriate. Get a hooter hider and call it a day.
huh? I'm pretty sure she said she isn't going to whip her tit out..
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This. I breastfed in a bathroom exactly one time. It was humiliating and awful. Sure, you try to seek out the corners or a chair in a secluded area, but they aren't always available.
That's exactly what I plan to do, let my child starve. Seriously? No. I'm just saying I'd pick a booth or use a cover and try to be discreet about it. I don't think there's anything wrong with it.
Honestly, I'm just sick of reading mommy blogs and seeing women in public who have this "I'm feeding my child you can't have an opinion". I know your child has to eat, I want you to feed him! I don't want you to feel like a leper. I want you to be CONSIDERATE of those around you....the same reason you whisper in a library and say please and thank you. Consider that there are ppl and children who do not want to see your bare breast -- and I've seen plenty in public.
I, and I emphasize I, will be finding private places to BF because I'm a very modest person. I certainly will not be letting my child scream.
You are rediculous, as are your perceptions. What about your childs discomfort? Does that even matter to you? And no, it isn't the womans "right", it is the childs right to fed when hungry regaurdless of the method. There is noting wrong with putting a blanket over your shoulder and putting LO underneath to nurse in front of God and everyone...and even if a woman is comfortable without a blanket who are you to judge her for taking care of her child? As I said in my previous post, if it bothers you feel free to leave. If it were to bother my frends that much obviously we don't need to be "hanging out" anymore. End of story.
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Oh give me a break. I'm not setting my child on the floor.
The only AWish breastfeeding I've seen is the nurse ins, and those are usually in response to a nursing mother being kicked out of an establishment.
When your baby cries your boobs will respond. Have fun not feeding.
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I agree 100%. The last thing on my mind is gonna be someone's feelings when my child is hungry. I remember growing up and seeing women NIP and it was no big deal. I was raised being told that's a natural thing and women's breasts we're made for that. IMO, there is no problem and if someone has a problem, they can simply look away and continue with their lives.
Sweetheart, this is not easily discernable in your original post and unfortunately, I don't see any back peddling as being effective at this point.
Good God, I'll say it again. I'm ok with the covered breast!!! You're being discreet!!
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I just couldn't stand the smell. And, where will you sit? Clothed on a toilet? Yucky!
Couldn't you just get a cover so you don't feel like you have to go in the bathroom, especially with an infant who has a weak immune system? You are going to be holding the baby, touching the stall, doors, etc. Seems like a super way to transfer germs.
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I think you are back peddling just bit. In your original post, you were not just talking about yourself, but talking about how you are skeeved out by people doing something natural. Do what is comfortable for you, but understand the other women will do the same.
That may be true but think about the odors, germs, and just the atmosphere in a public bathroom. Pretty disgusting if you think about it. I'd never eat where people defecate so why should my child.
This. And the majority of these situations are instigated by a covered mother, not even a naked breast.
No one's back peddling, I stand by my opinion....honey.
I am in agreement with you DMB... And I say this from an experience where I was on the other side. A friend and I were out for the day shopping with her little one a few years back. We sat down to take a break for a minute and she all of a sudden lifted her shirt and put the babe to her breast. I was so caught off guard. I had nothing against BF in public, but because she said nothing beforehand, I just felt extremely awkward.
Now about to be on the other side, I don't have a problem feeding in public, but I would be very aware of my surroundings. I am not going to neglect my child, but why am I so much better than everyone else that I don't need to consider others? It doesn't take that much effort, really. But I understand some are entitled to do as they please.
I have never once "whipped" my boob out, nor did ANYTHING show. I've never seen anyone with their whole breast out and if they have a cover over...seriously? That's like texting? I don't get that at all. There is nothing. effing. showing. Period.
I've seen more boobage on tv or in public with some of the slutty crap people wear. No one ever side-eyes that.
Yes, I am sure as hell one of those people that will say you have a problem with me feeding my child? Get over yourself. I have never ever shown anything. It's possible to BF discreetly and it's every woman and child's right to do so. It makes me sick it's so stigmatized in this country still and that women are expected to feed their child in the germ-infested bathroom or lug a wailing infant out to their car. Who cares if it's a 100 degrees out or perhaps 12. As long as no one has to see such an uncomfortable thing, right?
Or maybe all breastfeeding women should be nailed to the couch in their homes. Until they've weaned their child. How dare they go out in public while nursing. They might offend somebody. Pump and use a bottle, you say? Guess what? Some babies REFUSE to take one. Or it's difficult for some women to get anything out with a pump.
I can see being totally put off if someone has their whole boob hanging out, in all its glory but that rarely happens. MOST people do it really discreetly. It's really sad one bad apple gives all the others a bad name.
Sorry, this subject REALLY gets me going. I am so appalled at the judgment of women who "dare" to feed their child in public.