...and...flame free confessions?

schmoodle

Since the last post got a star in about 5 minutes...another game?

I distinguish these from unpopular opinions because, despite how some on other boards USE them to passive aggressively comment on others, I think unpopular opinions are directed outwards, confessions directed inwards...

Go!

schmoodle

My confession: the more people ask me about finding out the gender of this baby and fixate on it, the less I want to discuss it with them or tell them. Numerous people have asked me MANY times (by the same person) if we're finding out the sex, when we're finding out, if I have a feeling about it, etc. This would be fine, except NO ONE asked any of that with Toodle or the Doodles  (or certainly not to this extent) which makes me feel like everyone is just obsessed because they want it to be a girl. I almost want it to be a boy just to see if they're all disappointed. It's like with the first baby, everyone is excited about the baby, but with the second, everyone just wants to make sure you get your "full house".

JustaKidAtHeart

We are on our 4th full length film, we also watched 2 other movies.  So far the TV has been on a total of 7.5 hrs today.  The boys have been sitting in front of it for most of the day.  This is so not like us.  The shower is almost fixed.  Hopefully the boys will take a nap but I doubt it with how much we have sat around today. 

alchris

I was thrilled to confess my Bundle Me usage a couple days ago.  I think it's a swell invention, major warnings be darned.

I've scared Kira a couple times when I've yelled at her.  I SO don't want to be my mom.

I am so happy that Elena has gained weight so well thus far, but at 12 lbs. at 7 weeks I'm worried that it's genetic and she's going to take after every single one of her relatives other than her father.  Kira's been slow to gain her whole life, which was a PITA in her first 2 months but it's been nice not having to worry about the long-term effects of her eating like a crazy lady, just like DH can eat anything he wants.  At 7 weeks Kira was 8 pounds, and she didn't reach 12 lbs until 3.5 months, despite their being essentially the same weight at birth.  Again, Elena's progress has been most excellent for Mommy's sanity, but I hate for her to have the issues that I've always had along with all of my family, and even DH's family.  And I'm worried about this at just 7 weeks?  Arg.

My vehicle tag expired on 12/31 and I still haven't had the inspection.  Dude, my car was stolen and gone for 7 weeks, and I popped out a kid in the meantime.  Plus, I was *really* expecting to have a minivan by now, which would have rendered the inspection pointless.  Ugh.

GypsyEsq

I told work that I stayed home today b/c DH was sick.  Truth is he was tired, and hadn't slept in a few days and since he's a SAHD I really felt he needed a break.  But also, I have a crap case right now that I hate and yesterday I just got royally screwed over by the client and I just didn't want to deal with it.  Particularly in light of me finding out from my new dentist that I've ground my teeth so much in the last year that I've laid down new bone in both my upper and lower jaws.  So, while I did let DH sleep in late, and I've been playing with DD a lot, and I did work some...mainly I watched MTV.

smilee

I may or may not drink  a whole bottle of wine tonight.

kimarino13

I have eaten a bag and a half of Skittles today.

LVBlvd

Im EBFing and drink way more coke zero than I should.

I'm watching the new show on A&E right now called Huge.  I just called the hubs and asked him to get eggs and vanilla ice cream because I want brownies and ice cream.

People get annoyed with me because I eat like crap and stay skinny, despite 3 kids in 2 years. 

pandabearlover

I found out on 12.28 that I was having a boy.  And it's taken me until now to get excited.  I guess I really wanted another girl.  For a month, I mourned the loss of naming her after my grandmother, another sister for the girls and I would be sad when I saw the cute girl clothes next to the baby boy clothes.  When I told people we were sad about not having another girl (DH admitted the same thing), they looked at me like I was crazy.  I honestly really wanted another Carly-she has the best personality.

I hate hearing Finally! when I tell people it's a boy. I am excited now and looking forward to like with a little boy in the family.  And I am glad I found out early so I had time to process my feels and won't feel disappointed in the delivery room.

Schmoodle-I purposely did not find out the gender of #2 because I just couldn't take the comments either way.   I felt like the excitement over a boy with #2 would diminish how important Betsy was to us.  I still kind of feel that way and I am terrified that he will be the favorite of the grandfathers and my daughters will just get ignored.  My FIL has already said he can have all his Vietnam medals-when I said, maybe your granddaughters would like those, he gave me a blank stare.

vandelay

I can't get Ivy to nap on the weekends except in my lap, even though she does nap in a crib at daycare.  As a result, I can't get anything done around the house.  As DH and I were already messy people before, our house is now so cluttered that I'm expecting a surprise visit from the makers of A&E's "Hoarders."

Happycouple

smilee:

I may or may not drink  a whole bottle of wine tonight.

 

hehe

LVBlvd

kimarino13:

I have eaten a bag and a half of Skittles today.

that is nothing!!!!  I wish that was my only food confession. 

JessandJeremy

 I'm angry...and I take it out on my DH when it's not his fault.

I've always been adamant about being a SAHM when we had kids. I told DH this while we were dating and I know it's important to him too. I even majored in early childhood education so that I would be a better SAHM mom when the kids came. I know it's not DHs fault that economy tanked, and we shouldn't have bought a house when we did, and we just didn't make the right choices as a couple....but I'm angry. 

Angry = short tempered, easily annoyed, and not a nice wife at times. 

This is the way my dad was and I always resented him for it. I don't want to be this way but don't know how not to be. 

JillRock96

I seriously think I have slight OCD when it comes to clutter.  It makes me so anxious.  Now that we have baby stuff in every room of the house, I've found that I pretty much anxious all day long, until the girls are in bed and I can put all the toys/cups/bowls/bottles, etc.  away.  I've been working on it, but it is hard.

DH bought us brownies from the bakery across the street.  We hid them in the fridge until Ava goes to sleep.  We told each other that she didn't need any brownie, since she's getting over a stomach bug.  While this is true, I think we also didn't want to share.  Yikes. 

schmoodle

JillRock96:

I seriously think I have slight OCD when it comes to clutter.  It makes me so anxious.  Now that we have baby stuff in every room of the house, I've found that I pretty much anxious all day long, until the girls are in bed and I can put all the toys/cups/bowls/bottles, etc.  away.  I've been working on it, but it is hard.

I can so relate to this. When we are home with Toodle, I will literally sit and put away toys as soon as he moves on to something else, even if he takes the same thing out again 10 minutes later. I just can't handle clutter.

LVBlvd

JillRock96:

DH bought us brownies from the bakery across the street.  We hid them in the fridge until Ava goes to sleep.  We told each other that she didn't need any brownie, since she's getting over a stomach bug.  While this is true, I think we also didn't want to share.  Yikes. 

Jill!  DH and I get pissed when Paige wants a bite of our ice cream/brownie/cookie/cupcakes.  Not because she is a toddler and doesn't need sugar in the evenings before bed - but because we hate sharing.  Despise it.  We often lie to her and tell her it is all gone.  Thus confusing her because she clearly sees that it is not all gone.

 

Waiting4baby08

Gwen is 100% ready to potty train, as in she has told me she had to go, sat down and gone 3 times this week, but I am not ready.  Half of the reason I'm not ready is because she is my baby, the other half is because I'm lazy.  I am not ready to commit to taking her to the bathroom every 20 minutes and dealing with accidents and underwear and the works. 

alchris

LVBlvd:

kimarino13:

I have eaten a bag and a half of Skittles today.

that is nothing!!!!  I wish that was my only food confession. 

LOL!  I had 5 brownies yesterday, and I would have had more than 2 today if there had been more remaining.  Elena was definitely drinking chocolate milk yesterday!

GypsyEsq

schmoodle:

JillRock96:

I seriously think I have slight OCD when it comes to clutter.  It makes me so anxious.  Now that we have baby stuff in every room of the house, I've found that I pretty much anxious all day long, until the girls are in bed and I can put all the toys/cups/bowls/bottles, etc.  away.  I've been working on it, but it is hard.

I can so relate to this. When we are home with Toodle, I will literally sit and put away toys as soon as he moves on to something else, even if he takes the same thing out again 10 minutes later. I just can't handle clutter.

I do this - drives DH insane.  But I cannot function with blocks on the floor.

sixres

schmoodle:

My confession: the more people ask me about finding out the gender of this baby and fixate on it, the less I want to discuss it with them or tell them. Numerous people have asked me MANY times (by the same person) if we're finding out the sex, when we're finding out, if I have a feeling about it, etc. This would be fine, except NO ONE asked any of that with Toodle or the Doodles  (or certainly not to this extent) which makes me feel like everyone is just obsessed because they want it to be a girl. I almost want it to be a boy just to see if they're all disappointed. It's like with the first baby, everyone is excited about the baby, but with the second, everyone just wants to make sure you get your "full house".

I hadn't thought about it this way until you mentioned it.  And it's so true.  Everyone assumes cause you have a boy, you want a girl.  We don't care either way, but we're hoping boy so Aiden has a brother right away.  EVERYONE is asking about the gender....way more than any other question.

kimarino13

I didn't go all out for the girls' 1st birthday party.  While those little card tents are cute labeling things such as water, ice cream, whipped cream, cherries, etc. my family and friends would laugh at me if I had all of that.  Clearly they can identify what they are eating without the name tag telling them what it is.

Yet, somehow, I feel like a loser mom for just having some balloons as decorations, and plain ol' cheeseburgers and chips for the meal.  I am probably the only one in my circle of friends who isn't going all out with a "theme" and inviting 75 people to their 1st birthday party. 

Bottom line is, while those "fancy" parties are cute, they're more for the parents than the 1 year old kids.  And I can't be bothered. 

Cassian

I think I could be doing way more around the house as a SAHM than I do. I use the excuse that DD is young and she is still BFing and she needs me and I will never get this time back, I don't want to waste it cleaning, which is all true, but truth is, I may have become a tad lazy. I could easily do all these things, but I would just rather sit around hugging my baby all day. Then I feel super guilty that DH is out all day working while I get to stay home and love my baby all day. Then I find myself making excuses (that are completely true) about how she was clingy or feeding every hour, or napping on my lap, to try to justify it.

DH has NEVER said anything to elude to the fact that my feelings are valid. Never complains, nothing. It may be all self-imposed, or my own expectations of myself, but I am too selfish of this time with her to be bothered to do much of anything other than diaper laundry and cleaning the kitchen while I am home.

schmoodle

kimarino13:

Yet, somehow, I feel like a loser mom for just having some balloons as decorations, and plain ol' cheeseburgers and chips for the meal. 

This sounds like a pretty great party to me. We got some cute etsy decorations but otherwise ours wasn't that fancy or themed and our food were a couple of trays from the grocery store! Toodle still had a great time and so did everyone else. You're not a loser mom at all. And I SO know what you mean about your friends/family would laugh. If I did 1/5 of the things that I see on the nest or the way people go all out for various events/announcements/etc., I would never live it down.

kimarino13

schmoodle:

kimarino13:

Yet, somehow, I feel like a loser mom for just having some balloons as decorations, and plain ol' cheeseburgers and chips for the meal. 

This sounds like a pretty great party to me. We got some cute etsy decorations but otherwise ours wasn't that fancy or themed and our food were a couple of trays from the grocery store! Toodle still had a great time and so did everyone else. You're not a loser mom at all. And I SO know what you mean about your friends/family would laugh. If I did 1/5 of the things that I see on the nest or the way people go all out for various events/announcements/etc., I would never live it down.

Yeah, I have a couple etsy things too, and I actually made something!  Go me.  I haven't made something, like, ever.  Ha.  But still.  It doesn't hold a candle to the stuff you see around here (think Real Housewives of Orange County and Beverly Hills).  $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$

JillRock96

kimarino13:

Bottom line is, while those "fancy" parties are cute, they're more for the parents than the 1 year old kids.  And I can't be bothered. 

I absolutely get what you're saying.  While I am one of those people who gets all theme-y, I recognize that I'm doing it for me, because I enjoy it.  And no way is it fancy - I do it on the cheap with construction paper!

kimarino13

JillRock96:

kimarino13:

Bottom line is, while those "fancy" parties are cute, they're more for the parents than the 1 year old kids.  And I can't be bothered. 

I absolutely get what you're saying.  While I am one of those people who gets all theme-y, I recognize that I'm doing it for me, because I enjoy it.  And no way is it fancy - I do it on the cheap with construction paper!

Your parties are super cute and not at all what I am referring to. 

I have friends who have rented ponies, had a bunny petting zoo at their house, have cakes that are 5' tall like you would see on those Food Network Cake shows, etc.  

Glad the girls are young enough to not realize what's going on. 

JillRock96

kimarino13:

JillRock96:

kimarino13:

Bottom line is, while those "fancy" parties are cute, they're more for the parents than the 1 year old kids.  And I can't be bothered. 

I absolutely get what you're saying.  While I am one of those people who gets all theme-y, I recognize that I'm doing it for me, because I enjoy it.  And no way is it fancy - I do it on the cheap with construction paper!

Your parties are super cute and not at all what I am referring to. 

I have friends who have rented ponies, had a bunny petting zoo at their house, have cakes that are 5' tall like you would see on those Food Network Cake shows, etc.  

Glad the girls are young enough to not realize what's going on. 

Got it!  My jaw always drops when I see those parties on TV (like Tori & Dean).

yankee42

i have a few right now.....

1) i feel so freaking sorry for DH...i still have zippo, zero, absolutely NONE when it comes to the ol libido it's really bringing him down, and i feel bad for that...i love him with all my heart, but for some reason, i can't even fake interest..i would so much rather watch TV or go to sleep..im a terrible wife, i just WISH i had the interest, i really really do

2) I just realized in the past couple of days that ronnie doesn't know his #'s or letters..i mean he knows them, but can't identify them when seen...like maybe 2 or 3 for real. the reason i feel so terrible about it is that Joey knows every single one, knows his ABC's, can count to 20 and 10 to 1...and i honestly didn't realize how far behind ronnie was...i do realize that every child is different, i mean these kids are like polar opposites, and there are so many things that ronnie might excel at more than jojo, but i am just ashamed of how i didn't even realize it, and haven't been working on it with him...i am actually now starting to work with him and Audrey at the same level...ugh, poor guy is so behind  

 3) Audrey is walking around diaperless to air dry for her crappy diaper rash that  is back AGAIN, and i am on the damn computer, and she could have peed on the carpet 3 times by now, but i don't care too much, because we are moving in less than a month, haha

shipoopiisforme

i always thought big first birthday parties were ridiculous and now i am fully having one for the kids. there wont be ponies or a 5 ft cake but there will be a lot of people. i just can't bring myself to say no to my mom or my mil in terms of who they want to invite. their friends have been so generous with our kids and i just feel like it's a little mean to not include them. i am just hoping that after this year we can keep it to a more normal size.

i have a lot of friends with babies close in age to mine and i find myself liking many of them less and less because they complain so much about their children. it's like they are annoyed that they are so needy. it also pisses me off when those with one baby complain to me on a fairly consistent basis of how hard things are for them because when i go over their houses i am like, so this is what it's like to have one baby and it just seems so much simpler to me.

smilee

kimarino13:

JillRock96:

kimarino13:

Bottom line is, while those "fancy" parties are cute, they're more for the parents than the 1 year old kids.  And I can't be bothered. 

I absolutely get what you're saying.  While I am one of those people who gets all theme-y, I recognize that I'm doing it for me, because I enjoy it.  And no way is it fancy - I do it on the cheap with construction paper!

Your parties are super cute and not at all what I am referring to. 

I have friends who have rented ponies, had a bunny petting zoo at their house, have cakes that are 5' tall like you would see on those Food Network Cake shows, etc.  

Glad the girls are young enough to not realize what's going on. 

I had all of this for my 30th birtdhay- is that wrong?  

Temp848906437505510

OK, my confession is that I didn't really feed my daughter breakfast this morning.  I gave her a cup of milk and a bowl of dry cheerios on our family room coffee table because I'm not feeling well (for quite a while, unfortunately) and just needed to make it easy for myself.  Mom of the year....

nicolita14w

A lot of people post about feeling guilty that their kids watch too much TV. Well, James will not watch any shows, only video clips from YouTube-- 18 different versions of "Wheels on the Bus," certain ones about trucks or animals, etc. We watch a few each day but it's not that much time.

My FFC is that I actually *wish* he had enough interest to watch an actual show. Not that I'd have him in front of the TV all day or anything, but it would be really fantastic if he could just sit and watch something for 20 minutes while I try to get Ben down for a nap or something.  With the YouTube videos I constantly have to be opening new ones, clicking on favorites, etc., whereas if he would watch an episode of Yo Gabba Gabba or something I'd have my hands free for a few minutes.

So, yeah, my FFC is basically that I actually want my kid to watch more TV.

BoilerSuz

I'm tired, no exhausted, from making everything look easy.  The reality is when we have friends over for a "casual beer/ chili" dinner at home I've spent 3hrs getting the house ready and cooking.  Real dinner parties take me days.  Our friends think I'm Martha Stewart if only they realized they table looks perfect because I carefully hot toweled the spots off of the silverware. While I love doing it all it just takes sooooo long.  And now I'm off to cut jello into seasonal shapes for a lowkey Wii and pizza night

nicolita14w

smilee:

kimarino13:

JillRock96:

kimarino13:

Bottom line is, while those "fancy" parties are cute, they're more for the parents than the 1 year old kids.  And I can't be bothered. 

I absolutely get what you're saying.  While I am one of those people who gets all theme-y, I recognize that I'm doing it for me, because I enjoy it.  And no way is it fancy - I do it on the cheap with construction paper!

Your parties are super cute and not at all what I am referring to. 

I have friends who have rented ponies, had a bunny petting zoo at their house, have cakes that are 5' tall like you would see on those Food Network Cake shows, etc.  

Glad the girls are young enough to not realize what's going on. 

I had all of this for my 30th birtdhay- is that wrong?  

LMAO!

Mouseygail

I'm embarrassed to admit that I'm kind of disappointed that DS is actually really short...

preheatedoven

schmoodle:

JillRock96:

I seriously think I have slight OCD when it comes to clutter.  It makes me so anxious.  Now that we have baby stuff in every room of the house, I've found that I pretty much anxious all day long, until the girls are in bed and I can put all the toys/cups/bowls/bottles, etc.  away.  I've been working on it, but it is hard.

I can so relate to this. When we are home with Toodle, I will literally sit and put away toys as soon as he moves on to something else, even if he takes the same thing out again 10 minutes later. I just can't handle clutter.

Can I join you OCD ladies? I find myself snapping at DH about the smallest things when our house is full of clutter. Today it was b/c he put the wet bibs he had just washed on top of dry, clean dishes

AlissaCell701

I haven't been to the supermarket in like 2 weeks...We have basically eaten everything in the house..I think I have some yogurt, pickels, mayo, and cereal in the fridge...I need to go badly but I am so tired at night that I don't have the energy to go..

And because we have no food in the house..we have basically eaten take-out every night..Hangs head in shame...My new years resolution was to cook more at home..so far I am getting an F on that resolution..

Christakim

Ella is on night 3 of not having a bath.

I skipped a diaper change overnight (still fed them) cause I was so exhausted.

I let Ella eat almost everything she wanted to today to avoid temper tantrums.

JGirl2005

schmoodle:

My confession: the more people ask me about finding out the gender of this baby and fixate on it, the less I want to discuss it with them or tell them. Numerous people have asked me MANY times (by the same person) if we're finding out the sex, when we're finding out, if I have a feeling about it, etc. This would be fine, except NO ONE asked any of that with Toodle or the Doodles  (or certainly not to this extent) which makes me feel like everyone is just obsessed because they want it to be a girl. I almost want it to be a boy just to see if they're all disappointed. It's like with the first baby, everyone is excited about the baby, but with the second, everyone just wants to make sure you get your "full house".

Oops I hope I am not one of those people.    I may have to defriend you, just kidding.  I know I ask a lot. 

I know with me when I told people they were like 'oh you are done, how perfect' and even though we are, I hated people commenting on me being done.  Mainly non-american people that I work with or at daycare that said that.  I know some countries only have limtied children, so they think if you have two and they are different genders you should be done, etc.  I'm done, just hate people saying that.  I almost awnted a boy too because of people saying that. 

somethingchangd

I get progressively more jealous with each surprise BFP announcement here.  I hate that all/almost all of the babies are younger than mine - it makes me feel like I missed my chance for a surprise and it will never happen.  I'm happy for all you guys (and really - no offense AT ALL, Dana) but I can't help but sigh every time.  Seems like there's a new one every day.

And then I think about all the girls still slogging it out in IF and feel like double the douche for not being happy about the one I have.

sweetpea18

My mfm's office is at the county children's hospital. I judge a lot of the people that I see there, especially the super trashtastic ones that have 14 kids running wild. Today, I litterally stopped and gave some parents the side-eye because their child had a bottle. She looked like she was about 4.