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July 2011 Moms
It's Unpopular Opinion Day!
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Re: It's Unpopular Opinion Day!
I agree. What kills me most is those that go to "all-inclusive" resorts for their "babymoon" and you can't even drink!!! Maybe having a couple drinks here and there isn't important to some, but I wouldn't want to waste the money on a vacation that has free drinks (so DH enjoys all of it) and you just get the pool.
LOL yes! My DH does all this running around and stuff and is never home and then he's like are you still on that webiste?? uhh yeah you aren't here to hang out with so why not
I would have had the same reaction, and it's awesome that DH supports you!
Really it isn't any better to see the back of someone's head and not be able to even have a conversation with them. They may as well not be home.
I agree. If I find out I'm having a girl, it'll almost be like an "awe shucks" type of disappointment, not like a spiraling depression that keeps me from bonding with the baby. It's not like I'll resent the baby, but the visions I've had in my head of this child will be readjusted and the excitement will shift.
I have a dog and a cat. The cat came first and she sheds like crazy. We'll get black haired dustballs on our steps 5 minutes after we sweep/mop/vacuum. So because of her, we opted for a low-to-no-shed golden doodle. And flame what you want because I didn't go to a humane society to get my dog, but it's awesome not having to pick up dog hair everywhere (minus the 2-4weeks she does shed). Plus, dogs are more personable. My cat is a mean b!tch.
I must be lucky because my maiden name and married name are SO common.
However, the combo is NOT. I might have to take my maiden name off my Facebook.
I hate these signs. People around here try to outdo each other with them. I might do balloons. MIGHT. But it's no one's business what I named my kid and how big he or she is, AND where I live.
DH likes to play games (like PS3 type games) but I wouldn't have dated him long, or married him if he was married to his computer/Playstation because he had to play games. His brother plays a lot of games and I tend to think it's a 2nd relationship for him (the other would be a relationship with his wife). DH cracks out on a new game he buys and will be up late playing it (he'll play when I go to bed) or on weekends when I'm out shopping. I don't sit and watch him though, I hate watching someone else play games; i hate when people watch me play games.
ITA! Unfortunately, the majority of people against health care think owning a gun is a right. Fine, if so, then please explain how health care is not a right.
OH! I just thought of something..
I think its dumb to get your older children gifts when you have the baby, why do they need a present? Mommy had a baby so here's a toy to make you feel better? I'm sure most parents try make the transition easy on the older siblings without them needing a toy. Most older siblings think its cool just to be a big sister/brother, no toy needed.
Because one's in the bill of rights and one is not. That's an easy one.
Owning a gun IS a right. It's called "The Right to Bear Arms".
I think it's a matter of association, rather than unnecessarily showering your child with a present. They get a toy and a new sibling who will take away their parents undivided attention. DS doesn't seem to have to many jealousy issues and does really well at DC, so I'm unsure if we'll go this route, but I take no issue with it.
I think it's creepy that someone would rather keep their baby in their room instead of putting the baby in its own room (i'll give an understanding to those keeping baby in the room for a few weeks). A room can be painted/decorated any way you want it to be. It doesn't have to be painted pink/blue with rainbows, cars or whatever on the walls. Paint it white, put a crib and dresser in it and call it the baby's room. My bedroom is for my DH and I, not for our children (though we could fit the von trapp family in the room). The baby will be sleeping in the nursery from day 1. And the nursery will remain a nursery for the following child(ren) we decide to have (at least one more, maybe two).
OK, I have to step in here. Whether or not you agree with it, owning a gun IS a right. It's in the Constitution/Bill of Rights. Healthcare is NOT a right provided by the Constitution. I agree the current system is f*cked up. But having the gov't force me to buy something (like healthcare) or face penalties/fines is just as f*cked up. It's a very slippery slope. If they can force us to buy healthcare, they can force us to buy anything. Not cool.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/United_States_Bill_of_Rights
I think Universal Health Care is a good option - as long as it's done a good way. Doctor's, I do not believe, should have a salary cap. They went to school, got the education and they deserve to make the money they make. I also do not believe ordinary citizens should be required to pay for healthcare. If you're making a low salary where you can barely afford to pay the bills, having to pay for healthcare on top of that (if your work does not pay for it) can really hurt people, throwing more people into debt. When I was 21 and a temp employee, I had my own apartment/bills. I had no health insurance until I was hired full-time by the company I temp'd at. I would never have been able to afford health insurance during that time. And it's not like I was living outside of my means, but whatever i had leftover was very minimal.
So that way, little Susie doesn't learn the hard disappointment that the world does not revolve around her. Little Susie probably gets a toy each time she behaves out in public as well.
BFP #3 via cancelled IUI ~ C (2lb 3oz; HELLP) 5/16/11
BFP #4 via the natural (free!) way ~ E (8lb 11oz) 9/13/12
Sounds like my room... we can sleep an entire family in here.
I agree with you, although LO will sleep in here for the first few months, I think having their own space is important. If they spent the first two years in our room with us, not only would that put a damper on making baby #2 (and the things married people like to do), but I think it would be a jolt for them to suddenly have to go into a room that is unfamiliar to them at 2 or so. A nursery doesn't have to be cutesy. I am purposely decorating and buying furniture with the idea that it will need to transition with them
On another note, I doubt a kid will want their bedroom redecorated at 2? I can see that coming later on. My niece was 7 when she wanted to change up her space (and at this point they'd already converted the crib into a bed).
I have to laugh at this... my mom used to tell people all the time that she hadn't lost her 'baby weight'. One day my dad looked at her and said, "Honey, the "baby" is 9 now. I think you need a different excuse."
My official unpopular opinion today:
I pretty much only look forward to UO Thursdays and FFFC on the board at the moment. It's the only posts that get people in some sort of conversation (even in FF posts) vs the "We're having a..." or "Why are you having/against elective u/s??" and whatever other posts that we've seen a million times. I tend to come to the board a couple times a day now, instead of having it open all the time, and I just find a lot of repetitive posts so I just close my browser. Maybe it's just me, maybe my patience is wearing thin, but don't people read subject lines to see if there might be the same question three posts down instead of posting a the same question in a new thread?
I'm kinda ambivalent about this. . . I got a toy lawnmower when I was very young so I could "help" my dad mow. When my brother was born, my mom bought me a little baby so I could have one just like her. I was too young to understand what was going on, so the baby doll helped me to understand. I think it depends on the kid, but I disagree with gifts used as a reward.
I had this conversation with my mom the other day. I had only mentioned that the doctor was happy with my weight gain and that I don't need to gain more than 10-15lbs more. My mom goes into this "Do you know how hard it is to lose the baby weight? I put on 50lbs when I was pregnant with each of you, and it took me 2yrs, each time, to lose the weight. I tried diet pills, water pills..." I wanted to throw in their "bulimia." (she did that) but I didn't say it.
I have a plan as soon as I can start excercising after baby, it'll be exercise and WW. I've given myself 6-12months after baby to be back to the weight I want to be (pre-preg + 30lbs more).
But I agree with you - after a year, it's no longer baby weight you're carrying. Stop blaming your droopy stomach on your kids, like they know they caused that, and stop telling your friends "if I didn't have kids I wouldn't be pudgy."
The current Healthcare System here is terrible, but I'm not what is currently proposed is the best solution.
I think we need to begin with regulating the Insurance Companies, and examining how to prevent frivolous lawsuits and cap malpractice suits. Malpractice insurance premiums are so extremely high, it's sickening and honestly not worth it to be a doctor, especially not an OBGYN.
Yes - I realize that there are legitimate lawsuits out there, but this isn't about them.
I have a hard time with a public option for healthcare, mainly because I see healthcare as a business not a right. No one is walking into an emergency room and not being treated, all of our babies will be delivered by doctors (or whoever we choose). And all businesses have the right to grow and prosper. The gov't getting involved so intricately with businesses is a terrible idea and a slippery slope.
My other concern would be employers dropping their coverage so that the employees can pick up the public option instead. There could possible be provisions in the current legislation to prevent this.
I believe in a smaller, less involved gov't with lower taxes.I have no desire to pay 50% of my income to taxes. We should all have to manually pay our taxes to the gov't just so that we can actually see the amount of money coming out of our pockets weekly and going to Uncle Sam. And it's only going to get worse.
There has to be a better solution.
When I go to the store really wanting mint chocolate chip ice cream I am not at all disappointed coming home with cookie dough.
I want a girl because I want a purple nursery and to name her after my aunt. Not to mention I feel like it will be less of a challenge coming from an entirely female family (my dad moved out when I was a kid it was just me, mom, 2 sisters and a grandmother. Although I have a wonderful relationship with my dad). However if its a boy I was will be so excited for the challenge, the learning and all the cool boy toys.
This might be one
I hate the Steelers. There I said it.
Anyone see this Family Guy. Our founding fathers dicussing "the right to bear arms". They say "Surely no one will get confused by that!"
This!
True. I am a proponent of universal health care, and also do believe in the right to own guns (with proper registration). Religion scares me, and yet I am conservative on some social issues (see my why are you having baby but can't bother with being married post above). I'm pretty blue, but red on a few issues.
Here's the thing....I haven't seen any possibilities that make universal health care a viable option. Washington is concerned with getting everyone coverage. Problem is, that's expensive. And, the old rich white men who line the pockets of congress (and make up congress) aren't about to raise taxes to pay for it or bother to look at -why- it's so expensive.
So what to do? Well, the price of health care needs to be brought down, that much is true. A large amount of money that doctors make goes to pay for malpractice insurance. Why is this? Are there that many doctors out there who are practicing bad medicine? Enough to justify that high of a price on malpractice insurance?
I think we can cut down the cost of malpractice insurance, thereby reducing the fees doctors need to charge, thereby making healthcare more affordable, if we can reduce the sue-happiness that is rampant in this country.
Case in point: My MIL tripped on a sidewalk. She sued the county for $15k. Whenever someone is slightly wronged, there is the thought "how can I make money for this?"
Example of an efficent system: If someone wants to bring a complaint against a broker/dealer with the SEC, they must pay a few hundred dollars. Why is this? So that the SEC is overwhelmed by clueless investors wanting to complain for minor issues.
I wish the court system would adopt something like that. Where if you want to bring someone/something to court, and the court does not rule in your favor, you have to pay a fine for wasting the court's time. This would greatly reduce the number of frivolous lawsuits which suck up malpratice insurance money.
BFP #3 via cancelled IUI ~ C (2lb 3oz; HELLP) 5/16/11
BFP #4 via the natural (free!) way ~ E (8lb 11oz) 9/13/12
This really bugs me because there's a legit, biblical feminine version of this name...Mica. So all they would have to do is spell it without the H and voila! It sounds the same to Americans, but it would be an indication of it being attached to a girl. There's one poster with two (or three?) boys names in her siggy with a pink badge, and I want to show her that there's a great alternative, but sadly, I can't seem to do without looking like an asshat (thanks five_letter for renewing my interest in the word).
So here it is...Micah and Mica
https://www.behindthename.com/php/search.php?nmd=n&terms=Micah+Mica
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Unofficial Baby Names Sticky Note: New and Old| Local Bumpie Website
I know! I have a friend who has a four year old and still calls her weight baby weight. She was slim and healthy before the baby and would need to drop about 5-6 sizes to get back to her pre-pregnancy weight. The only thing that bothers me is that now that I'm pregnant, she makes comments like, "You'll never be that size again..welcome to being a mom." Arrgg!
Also, I have a WW right by my house and have heard good things about it. Originally I was just going to exercise, but I think doing WW might give me some extra motivation.
BTW, in all seriousness - the "right to bear arms" was originally meant as a means to stand up to our government so that no one party had ultimate control. I'm pretty sure the founding fathers were not envisioning a 31-round magazine clip in a semi-automatic weapon when they put that in the Bill of Rights. (Re: The Tucson murders)
If I tripped on a sidewalk (to use your example) and attempted to sue and the court threw out my case, I should be made to pay a certain amount. This method would eliminate a HUGE amount of frivolous lawsuits.
For the record an argument could be made that the right to bare arms is referring to the right to join a militia.
I however whole heartedly believe in the right to bear arms, and whole heartedly believe in gun laws and limitations. (Freedom of speech isn't unlimited, neither should be the right to bear arms). There is not much guaranteeing a right to health care.
That being said I fully support universal healthcare. It seems silly to deny something that can be so easily provided. Something that should be provided.
I agree with 99% of your post, but I've gotta say. THANK GOD they're not about to raise the taxes to pay for it. You make it sound like that's a bad thing.
This annoys the crap out of me! Someone said to me, "You can just throw out all of those size 2 jeans right now." Really? I gained 40 lbs my first two years of college and I lost that AND kept it off for 13 years. I've been running since 2003. While I don't expect to "snap back," I know what is a healthy weight for me and I will work to get there. Having a diabetic father, asthma, joint and back issues, I am especially conscious of the impact weight has on your health.
And my response? "Oh, boo hoo, maybe I'll be a size 4."
Ha! It seems like you're as red as they come, and I'm as blue as they come, but it sounds like we're thinking the same thoughts on this. I was typing up a similar rant as you were posting yours.
BFP #3 via cancelled IUI ~ C (2lb 3oz; HELLP) 5/16/11
BFP #4 via the natural (free!) way ~ E (8lb 11oz) 9/13/12