If LO isnt going down for a nap, do you give up or keep trying?

Julias Table

LO wont nap.  I have been trying many methods.  I started trying to put him down when he seemed sleepy, rubbing his eyes, etc.

He wouldnt go. I tried for 30 minutes, picking him up, soothing him, putting him back down, going throguh all the motions.

Do you keep going until you get LO to sleep for naps or do you give up and wait and try later in the day?

 

vandm1107

To get LO down for a nap I swaddle her and then rock her in the glider till she's asleep. If it doesn't work I then try the swing. If that doesn't work I try the glider again and if all else fails I give up : /

lebennett

Deginitely try to swaddle if that doesn't work I get in the car and drive for awhile.  Or go to Target.  One way or another DD is getting a damn nap!  If she doesn't nap my night will be absolute hell!! 

Julias Table

lebennett:

Deginitely try to swaddle if that doesn't work I get in the car and drive for awhile.  Or go to Target.  One way or another DD is getting a damn nap!  If she doesn't nap my night will be absolute hell!! 

 

I love it!   If it wasnt for the sleet and snow I would be doing the same!

spunkyprincessmande

I'll try until it's time for his next feeding (sometimes it's 30 minutes, sometimes an hour and a half).  Then, we start the cycle all over again (eat, play for a little while, nap).

IncogNeato

Truthfully, I put her in the ring sling or mei tai and she always falls asleep. She only naps on me at this point. If I put her down she wakes up and cries. every.single.time.

xxbabycakesxx

akpisors:

To get LO down for a nap I swaddle her and then rock her in the glider till she's asleep. If it doesn't work I then try the swing.

this is exactly what dh does.  i just swaddle and rock him in my arms.  sometimes i just hold him in my arms and he falls asleep without the rocking.

kimberly_ann81

I put LO in his crib at nap time and then leave him alone.  If he cries I don't go in, I just peek in to make sure he isn't stuck on something.  He usually only cries for 5 minutes or less now.  The first couple times he cried for close to 30 minutes.  I went in once and then he cried for even longer, so I've never done that since.

dsobz

My LO would cry after each play time after being overstimulated.  For 2 weeks I had to put him in his swing because holding him seemed to make it worse.  I would comfort him while he was in his swing by gently massaging his temples and swaddling.   Even though that would work for a while he would wake several times crying before finally falling asleep, but I would have to leave the room and keep it quiet.  Now I swaddle him and use the "Happy Baby on the Block" technique of holding him in a football hold and swaying him or putting him on his side, swaddled on my thighs while bouncing.  It is freaking incredible!  He is so content ( I still massage his temple while doing this) and as soon as I put him down he is asleep.  We don't have to tiptoe around him anymore either, even if he wakes for a minute after doing this he has a little smile on his face and puts himself back to sleep.  I am ecstactic after finding out this simple technique!! You can look it up on you tube to see exactly how it's done.  Good luck!

JoannaJes

kimberly_ann81:

I put LO in his crib at nap time and then leave him alone.  If he cries I don't go in, I just peek in to make sure he isn't stuck on something.  He usually only cries for 5 minutes or less now.  The first couple times he cried for close to 30 minutes.  I went in once and then he cried for even longer, so I've never done that since.

I don't like to judge moms who have to let their LOs cry a bit at times because they need a break or are frustrated...but this is ridiculous. Your baby is too young to be left alone to cry in their crib. Letting a baby that is younger than 3 months cry for 30 minutes just to get them to nap? That's just wrong. It doesn't matter if it works.

dsobz

JoannaJes:

I don't like to judge moms who have to let their LOs cry a bit at times because they need a break or are frustrated...but this is ridiculous.

You don't like to judge, but you just did.  I am a first time mom and had a horrible time after my baby would become overstimulated, even when I decreased his activity the poor guy would cry until he fell asleep.  It broke my heart to leave the room, but just by accident ( gong to get his bottle, etc) I found that leaving him alone is what allowed him to sleep.  I have since found a better technique in which I can comfort him, but until then it just killed me to leave him alone while he cried but it was all I felt I could do.  You really should take your own advice and not judge.  We should all be more supportive, being a mom is unique to each of us and I'm sure you are not perfect.

MissSunny42

JoannaJes:

kimberly_ann81:

I put LO in his crib at nap time and then leave him alone.  If he cries I don't go in, I just peek in to make sure he isn't stuck on something.  He usually only cries for 5 minutes or less now.  The first couple times he cried for close to 30 minutes.  I went in once and then he cried for even longer, so I've never done that since.

I don't like to judge moms who have to let their LOs cry a bit at times because they need a break or are frustrated...but this is ridiculous. Your baby is too young to be left alone to cry in their crib. Letting a baby that is younger than 3 months cry for 30 minutes just to get them to nap? That's just wrong. It doesn't matter if it works.

 

i am so glad that you posted this. i felt sick for that poor baby after reading that post. I can't imagine letting my LO cry for 30 minutes!

Kellina

kimberly_ann81:

I put LO in his crib at nap time and then leave him alone.  If he cries I don't go in, I just peek in to make sure he isn't stuck on something.  He usually only cries for 5 minutes or less now.  The first couple times he cried for close to 30 minutes.  I went in once and then he cried for even longer, so I've never done that since.

I'll be judgy too- sorry... You let a ONE WEEK old cry it out for 30 min? That's so mean. He stopped crying b/c he realized no one is there to help him in this new scary world. You should at least go soothe him every few minutes! And trust me, I'm all for CIO when the time is appropriate. My LO now likes to cry himself to sleep, but I hold him while he does.

shaw

kimberly_ann81:

I put LO in his crib at nap time and then leave him alone.  If he cries I don't go in, I just peek in to make sure he isn't stuck on something.  He usually only cries for 5 minutes or less now.  The first couple times he cried for close to 30 minutes.  I went in once and then he cried for even longer, so I've never done that since.

 

We have a super cranky baby.  Our pedi told us to do this as well.  We did this last night at bedtime.  He cried for 10 and then had the best night of sleep ever!  Every baby is different...only mama knows what best for her baby!!

Jinsy80

Kellina:

kimberly_ann81:

I put LO in his crib at nap time and then leave him alone.  If he cries I don't go in, I just peek in to make sure he isn't stuck on something.  He usually only cries for 5 minutes or less now.  The first couple times he cried for close to 30 minutes.  I went in once and then he cried for even longer, so I've never done that since.

I'll be judgy too- sorry... You let a ONE WEEK old cry it out for 30 min? That's so mean. He stopped crying b/c he realized no one is there to help him in this new scary world. You should at least go soothe him every few minutes! And trust me, I'm all for CIO when the time is appropriate. My LO now likes to cry himself to sleep, but I hold him while he does.

I agree, I'm totally judging you too Kellina (and the others that let their babies cry that much). They are way, way too young to let them CIO. I don't care if the pedi tells you to let them CIO! Pediatricians do not know everything, especially if they aren't parents. WTF?!

JoannaJes

shaw:

kimberly_ann81:

I put LO in his crib at nap time and then leave him alone.  If he cries I don't go in, I just peek in to make sure he isn't stuck on something.  He usually only cries for 5 minutes or less now.  The first couple times he cried for close to 30 minutes.  I went in once and then he cried for even longer, so I've never done that since.

 

We have a super cranky baby.  Our pedi told us to do this as well.  We did this last night at bedtime.  He cried for 10 and then had the best night of sleep ever!  Every baby is different...only mama knows what best for her baby!!

Nope, I'm not buying that. Not everyone knows how to parent just because you had a baby. Just because it works doesn't make it right.

JoannaJes

dsobz:

JoannaJes:

I don't like to judge moms who have to let their LOs cry a bit at times because they need a break or are frustrated...but this is ridiculous.

You don't like to judge, but you just did.  I am a first time mom and had a horrible time after my baby would become overstimulated, even when I decreased his activity the poor guy would cry until he fell asleep.  It broke my heart to leave the room, but just by accident ( gong to get his bottle, etc) I found that leaving him alone is what allowed him to sleep.  I have since found a better technique in which I can comfort him, but until then it just killed me to leave him alone while he cried but it was all I felt I could do.  You really should take your own advice and not judge.  We should all be more supportive, being a mom is unique to each of us and I'm sure you are not perfect.

If you re-read my post, I said I don't like to judge mothers who have to let their babies cry for a short period of time because they need a break or are otherwise unable to comfort their babies immediately (i.e. in the shower, in the car, etc.) However, I'm totally judging you for this.

If you feel like you are uneducated about different soothing methods for infants, I suggest you pick up The Happiest Baby on The Block and read it. Also, please try reading about the attachment process in infants. It's extremely important that at this young age you are answering your baby's cries in a warm and timely manner.

In addition, I have never insinuated that I am a perfect mother. Is this really about perfection? I'm pretty sure lots of "imperfect" mothers still manage to not let their babies CIO before it's developmentally appropriate.

AverysMom1118

I could never imagine letting LO cry it out. Breaks my heart to imagine babies this young crying for mothers and being neglected of that comfort that all babies NEED. 

harleyjo

amy052006:

I actually do judge.  A lot.  I judge 1) the obsession with scheduling that leads one to even think a baby less than two weeks old needs specific naps in the first place and 2) CIO for a damn nap in the middle of the day.

 

Exactly.  I wasn't gonna read this post, but I did anyway because I read that people were agreeing with the lady who let her 1 week old CIO.  Why do people expect babies to act like adults and have a set schedule, sleep when they want them to, etc.  Anyone who can listen to a loved one (especially one that is still used to being in the WOMB) cry for an extended period of time and do nothing, yuck. 

AndreaB111

amy052006:

I actually do judge.  A lot.  I judge 1) the obsession with scheduling that leads one to even think a baby less than two weeks old needs specific naps in the first place and 2) CIO for a damn nap in the middle of the day.

 

kimberly_ann81

Sorry, I guess I miss typed or didn't explain my self enough.  So let me clarify.  I don't let my baby cry for 30 minutes every day all the time.  I did this once because I could get him to settle down and couldn't think of anything else to do.  Also, he didn't cry consistently for that 30 min.  He would cry for a minute then settle down for 5-10 and cry again for a minutes before settling down for another 5-10 min. and then cried for about a minute on last time before stopping.  Trust me, I sat and cried because I felt like a horrible mother for letting him cry but I knew if I went in he could continue to cry.

Ever since this one time CIO, he either doesn't cry at all when I put him down or it's only for a minute max.  It was just a suggestion to try once because it worked for me and I haven't had a problem since with getting him to sleep.

angelicalopez29

Wow, leaving a 1week old baby to cry on their own, is actually pretty dangerous... when babies cry too much they can choke with their own breathing, and sometimes they throw up when they have cried too hard. So its VERY dangerous to do that.

 

UrbanHippieMama

kimberly_ann81:

Sorry, I guess I miss typed or didn't explain my self enough.  So let me clarify.  I don't let my baby cry for 30 minutes every day all the time.  I did this once because I could get him to settle down and couldn't think of anything else to do.  Also, he didn't cry consistently for that 30 min.  He would cry for a minute then settle down for 5-10 and cry again for a minutes before settling down for another 5-10 min. and then cried for about a minute on last time before stopping.  Trust me, I sat and cried because I felt like a horrible mother for letting him cry but I knew if I went in he could continue to cry.

Ever since this one time CIO, he either doesn't cry at all when I put him down or it's only for a minute max.  It was just a suggestion to try once because it worked for me and I haven't had a problem since with getting him to sleep.

Because the poor baby knows no one is going to come to him.   I feel sick to my stomach now.

Jinsy80

Jinsy80:

Kellina:

kimberly_ann81:

I put LO in his crib at nap time and then leave him alone.  If he cries I don't go in, I just peek in to make sure he isn't stuck on something.  He usually only cries for 5 minutes or less now.  The first couple times he cried for close to 30 minutes.  I went in once and then he cried for even longer, so I've never done that since.

I'll be judgy too- sorry... You let a ONE WEEK old cry it out for 30 min? That's so mean. He stopped crying b/c he realized no one is there to help him in this new scary world. You should at least go soothe him every few minutes! And trust me, I'm all for CIO when the time is appropriate. My LO now likes to cry himself to sleep, but I hold him while he does.

I agree, I'm totally judging you too Kellina (and the others that let their babies cry that much). They are way, way too young to let them CIO. I don't care if the pedi tells you to let them CIO! Pediatricians do not know everything, especially if they aren't parents. WTF?!

Whoops! I meant Kimberly, not Kellina. I'm a little sleep deprived because I don't let my 8 week old CIO .

Gr8ful_m0m

Jinsy80:

Jinsy80:

Kellina:

kimberly_ann81:

I put LO in his crib at nap time and then leave him alone.  If he cries I don't go in, I just peek in to make sure he isn't stuck on something.  He usually only cries for 5 minutes or less now.  The first couple times he cried for close to 30 minutes.  I went in once and then he cried for even longer, so I've never done that since.

I'll be judgy too- sorry... You let a ONE WEEK old cry it out for 30 min? That's so mean. He stopped crying b/c he realized no one is there to help him in this new scary world. You should at least go soothe him every few minutes! And trust me, I'm all for CIO when the time is appropriate. My LO now likes to cry himself to sleep, but I hold him while he does.

I agree, I'm totally judging you too Kellina (and the others that let their babies cry that much). They are way, way too young to let them CIO. I don't care if the pedi tells you to let them CIO! Pediatricians do not know everything, especially if they aren't parents. WTF?!

Whoops! I meant Kimberly, not Kellina. I'm a little sleep deprived because I don't let my 8 week old CIO .

ChibiMommy

dsobz:

JoannaJes:

I don't like to judge moms who have to let their LOs cry a bit at times because they need a break or are frustrated...but this is ridiculous.

You don't like to judge, but you just did.  I am a first time mom and had a horrible time after my baby would become overstimulated, even when I decreased his activity the poor guy would cry until he fell asleep.  It broke my heart to leave the room, but just by accident ( gong to get his bottle, etc) I found that leaving him alone is what allowed him to sleep.  I have since found a better technique in which I can comfort him, but until then it just killed me to leave him alone while he cried but it was all I felt I could do.  You really should take your own advice and not judge.  We should all be more supportive, being a mom is unique to each of us and I'm sure you are not perfect.

You are right no one is perfect but we can at least read enough to know CIO is not ok under 4 months(Personally I'd say its never ok but we). I'm sorry Hun but this is TB.  As others are fond of saying, if you want rainbows, puppy dogs, and glitter up your butt go somewhere else.

You need to understand that what you did is not ok, it is cruel.  No nb should be neglected that long. You make me sick. You can take your kind of "unique" right back to the he11 you came from.

1ht

xoashleigh4ox

uhhh hello... they cry at 1 week old b/c they NEED something and have no other way of letting you KNOW!! its not like they can talk!! i feel so bad for your LO.  also you have to think about them.. they were in your belly all tight and wrapped up and then you put them in a big open crib and they are just supposed to go to sleep on their own??!~?! of course they are going to cry!!! get a clue lady!!!