Is anyone still worried about something happening to LO?

NettySeo

I know that many of you are like WTH... The reason I ask this is because my sister told me the other day that I'm still not out of the woods and that anything can still happen. Ever since she told me that I've been worried. I thought I was over my danger zone. Anyone else feeling like me?

BoogieMonster629

I don't want to sound rude or mean but you are never out of the danger zone.. anything can happen at any point in your pregnancy

GracieLou Freebush

Sure, something can always happen.  Imagine the worrying once LO is actually here in the world!

Don't let it ruin your joy.

anakalia10

I'm still worried about things happening to #1.  It doesn't end.

COMomma81

Your chances of miscarriage are greatly reduced at this point. You'll be considered 2nd trimester at 14 weeks, and most docs do consider past 12 weeks out of the miscarriage window. After that, it's rare, but not impossible. It's best to think positive. Anything can happen until you give birth. Seriously. On another site, I've seen stories of people losing their LO's due to a variety of things at 38-39 weeks. You just can't think the worst because it'll consume you. Worry is a part of motherhood...once your baby is here, you have a whole new set of worries to think about. Just try to think positive

boogerbearoriginal

FWIW you are never out of the 'danger' zone. There is always a chance of something bad happening and there are no guarantees in life. There's stillbirth, SIDS, car wrecks, cancer, random acts of violence, accidents on the playground, school shootings, rape, murder, war, etc, etc, etc.

Don't spend you life worrying about the 'whatifs' - you'll just drive yourself crazy.

Take joy in the beauty of today - you are happy, healthy and have a baby you love.

Epiphany27

GracieLouFreebush*:

Sure, something can always happen.? Imagine the worrying once LO is actually here in the world!

Don't let it ruin your joy.

This. Stressing over the fact that yes, something can still happen isn't good for you.

Then LO will be here and you'll be worried about SIDS, then getting kidnapped, then doing drugs, etc etc etc.

NettySeo

Thank you. I do have plenty of faith that my pregnancy is going very well. I was curious to know what other mothers who are pregnant thought about this. I've never been so positive about being pregnant and for this one it is so much different. Thanks again :-)

MFAinNYC

I worry constantly about the pregnancy, but I am sure I will be worrying about LO for the rest of my life!

Shelleybell

always worried.

mbritto4

I still worry about my 3 year old. Welcome to being a Mom.

Mrs.Leah.Maria

Kerri816:

I don't want to sound rude or mean but you are never out of the danger zone.. anything can happen at any point in your pregnancy

This. In addition to the fact that worry during pregnancy is just prep work for when they are born. I just found myself looking at DS's picture and praying for his safety today. 

Lindsay&Eric

I was in your boat at 13 weeks...I was totally Pessimistic. But saturday, I felt LO move for the first time and I think for the first time since the BFP, I've actually felt very good about this pregnancy and it's outcome...I still worry about things, but not nearly as much as when I felt that first Little Flutter! I could have cried! (instead I giggled and DH looked at me like I was nuts LOL)

CactusGirl

I am always worried that something will happen only because I spot (and sometimes bleed) -every-single-day-! It is super frustrating and stressful knowing that I really shouldn't be (although I know it is sometimes normal, bleh), but I am. And, they have no idea why so I am always suprised everytime that I go to the doctor that our baby is OK... I know it sounds horrible, but I always expect the worst.

HappyKlamb10

I still worry, though not *quite* as much as I did in first tri.  I hear terrible pregnancy stories every day that make me remember what could happen.  But now that I'm feeling movement and stuff, I'm trying to really just focus on the good stuff in each day of the pregnancy.

reesie4

Kerri816:

I don't want to sound rude or mean but you are never out of the danger zone.. anything can happen at any point in your pregnancy

This.

Nervous everyday but I don't let it ruin my life or anything. And your sister should stfu. 

I still worry about ds every single day. Welcome to mommy hood! 

amygoable

Take it from me: I have a nasty OB history with a 22 week loss and another 25 week delivery and long NICU stay. My pregnancy went terribly wrong around 17 weeks. And after that, there are plenty of things for me to worry about more than your average pregnant woman. And while I'm distressed by my inability to guarantee my child's safety, like every other mother, I feel confident that things will be okay!

Your baby is safer in your womb than ever right now. All of those other things that go wrong are REALLY rare. Worrying now will ruin this awesome opportunity to bond with baby. If something happens, there will be plenty of time to be sad about it - enjoy the things you have to be happy about, undiminished by the slight chance of something going wrong. There's no such thing as out of the woods until you're dead, so enjoy being alive!

You ARE past the danger zone. Now you're in the same danger everyone faces every day of their lives! 

12bailey18

You're never out of the danger zone. Then, once the baby comes you'll worry even more. Welcome to Motherhood!

Mrs.Leah.Maria

CactusGirl:

I am always worried that something will happen only because I spot (and sometimes bleed) -every-single-day-! It is super frustrating and stressful knowing that I really shouldn't be (although I know it is sometimes normal, bleh), but I am. And, they have no idea why so I am always suprised everytime that I go to the doctor that our baby is OK... I know it sounds horrible, but I always expect the worst.

I had no idea that this was still continuing.

braveangel2

The worry really never goes away; it just changes. I was worried during my second pregnancy because I miscarried with my first. And then my guy's nana told me she lost one at 6 months. After that I stayed away from scary/sad stories because really, anything can happen.

Once E was born, I worried to death about SIDS, colds etc. I started to breath easier when she turned 18 months.

braveangel2

GracieLouFreebush*:

Don't let it ruin your joy.

This! There are so many wonderful moments to enjoy!

rose1883

Always worried- every cramp, every pang, every feeling- "Is this normal?" goes through my head... I can thank my mother for being a perpetual worry wart and passing that on to me  A blessing and a curse I suppose.

damabo80

There's no such thing as out of the danger zone. If that was the case, OBGYNs would discharge you at 13 weeks and not want to see you again until you deliver.

MelAnn51

I'm pretty sure it's normal.  I've already resigned myself to believing that my days of being worry free and nights of sleeping well are over for good.  This is based off my knowledge of my worry wart mother, and the realization that I am totally already becoming her. Haha!

LyndseyLC

im still worried but just not as much as when I was 12 weeks and under.  especially when I have been super stressed lately makes me worry what effect it may have on baby. Also my mom told me her hair stylist lost a baby at 5 months

KtGirl88

You are never in a "safe zone" during pregnancy. Even once the baby is born soooo many things could happen. Even a perfectly healthy baby can get into the wrong thing or have SIDS. I have heard so many horrible stories from amazing, protective parents. Its sad but you have to do your best and pray for the health of your baby everyday.

Gummybear

If anyone thinks that they are 100% safe at any time they are ignoring reality. I lost  a perfectly healthy pregnancy at almost 17w for no reason at all. A swift look over at mc/pl, ttcal or pgal will show you dozens of women who lost babies at all times during pregnancy often for no reason at all. So yes, I am worried.

But, chances go way down -- statistically, it is very unlikely. But nothing is guaranteed. I totally agree with the poster above who said that no time in life is safe, ever. Best thing to do is enjoy each day.

jillybean222

3rd timer and always some degree of worry...even when they are out of the womb!  i sleep with one eye and both ears open.  it is part of parenthood.  

 

MuseumMaven

My brother and I are 40 and 31 respectively.  My mom still worries about us.  I'm pretty sure that the worry is never going to stop!

CactusGirl

Mrs.Leah.Maria:

CactusGirl:

I am always worried that something will happen only because I spot (and sometimes bleed) -every-single-day-! It is super frustrating and stressful knowing that I really shouldn't be (although I know it is sometimes normal, bleh), but I am. And, they have no idea why so I am always suprised everytime that I go to the doctor that our baby is OK... I know it sounds horrible, but I always expect the worst.

I had no idea that this was still continuing.

Unfortunately, yeah. However, the good news is that for the past two weeks it has only been brown blood (which is great since I used to have pink and red blood).

genekelly

All the time but I try to just focus on the positive and not think too often about the "what ifs". 

Weezergrl

I'm 13 weeks and I started spotting yesterday.  Went to the doctor and everything looked ok.  I'm still spotting and am terrified!

x0stephanie

I'm not worried about miscarriage anymore, I'm worried about birth defects.  I was given a lot of medications in my first trimester (some before I even knew I was pregnant) and I'm really worried about it now... I'm hoping it didnt do damage.