set myself up for tears!! Preg Mentioned......

SheLovesMrHip

I work in the radiology department and today could have kicked myself! Our male ultrasound tech needed a female in the room for an exam and I offered to help, not thinking through what he needed. So as I sat down, he started on the exam with the patient and as soon as he put the probe in I saw what I didnt need to! The gal didnt even looked like she cared. He showed her the heartbeat and told her she was 7weeks. She sat there, unphased, no emotion, not caring. I walked out of room crying. All i could think was why wasnt she happy? I would have been thrilled. I had horrible things rum across my brain, like maybe she didnt care she was pregnant, can she even afford this, am i paying for her hospital visit. Im sorry that sounds so mean, but it was my selfishness kicking in. I need this day to be over, I keep thinking about it......

BritanyV

Let me give you another perspective...maybe she has had a loss before and was scared.

 I was mortified at all of the ultrasounds when I got pregnant after my first miscarriage.   I showed no emotion, even when there was a heartbeat because I was so scared there wouldn't be, which did eventually happen, unfortunately.  I wouldn't show any excitement until after I left the appointment.   I'm sure my dr thought I was heartless and didn't care, when the truth was I cared so much that I was scared stiff!

I can imagine if I get pregnant a 3rd time, I might not even look at the screen until she tells me everything is ok.  

mom22labs

BritanyV has a very good point.  But I probably would have felt the same in your situation too.  Through all of this I have learned that you never really know what someone is going through by just looking at them.  And when someone gives congratulations to someone for having a baby, I look at it in a whole new way now. 

clarks415

I am sorry for your loss. I can completely understand how you felt. An honestly I would have had the same reactions. I know there are a million senarios of what could have been going on with her. But the bottom line is how you reacted to the experience was understandable. You have a selfish card right now with what you are going through. Don't ever feel like you need to be apologetic for your thought processes.

angelicalopez29

I didn't realize it until now, I was the same way, at every appointment, I looked careless, but I was terrified, I had a previous miscarriage, and every time I went to the doctor I had a "look" on my face, which made my doctor always react in some way to try to cheer me up, by saying "why the long face?, stop worrying so much your baby is fine, Look he is kicking like a soccer player, oh my God he has a pout, his hands are huge" I tried to be happy about it, but I just couldn't, I was too scared, all the time, even when delivering (I delivered early) I couldn't feel happy, I guess now it was because of the fear of everything going wrong..... But I love my child more than ever.... with every piece of my heart.

BritanyV

I just wanted to add that I didn't mean to imply (if it came across that way) that what you felt was wrong in any way.  I agree with everyone else that what you felt was completely normal.   I just wanted to give you a different perspective of why she could have acted that way. 

MDT082010

I'm so sorry. I would have had the same reaction. Witnessing someone else's u/s would be extremely painful right now. I hope you can relax tonight.

Mr&Mrs.B

I am so sorry for what you had to go through.  I work as a physical therapist, and we have this one OB/Gyn that is notorious for sending her under age  (19 or younger) patients to us for "low back pain."  Well, no sh*t, you're pregnant, your back is going to hurt.  What is so hard, is to see how easily these young girls get pregnant (some of them on their second or third, and how clueless they are about the whole process.  And yes, my tax dollars are paying for their visit, because most of them are on government funding.  I am so sorry you had to go through that today.  Hang in there sweetie....  (((HUGS)))