to expect it or not??

nillian10

did anyone have a shower when their kids were close in age? and did you expect it or not? DS#1 will be 19 months old when the LO is born.
we don't really NEED anything other than a double stroller, new car seat, crib ... because everything else (clothes, etc) is gender neutral (team green both times), but i dont know if i should get my hopes up for a shower from either side, or just start saving to buy it all on our own?? i hate to sound "selfish" because that's not me at all... but it's something i think about, and kind of worry about. thought i would see what everyone else has experienced.

thanks ladies.

kgunz11

I would prepare myself to buy what I need for my kid.  Then, if/when someone offers to host a shower and you get some of the items you need, you can put the $$ into savings for your LO. Plus, in my experience, most folks give small gifts at showers and it looks like your "needs" list is big-ticket items.

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kgunz11:

I would prepare myself to buy what I need for my kid.  Then, if/when someone offers to host a shower and you get some of the items you need, you can put the $$ into savings for your LO. Plus, in my experience, most folks give small gifts at showers and it looks like your "needs" list is big-ticket items.

This.  I also wouldn't hold my breath for a shower since your first baby isn't even two years old yet.

pam1005

DS will be a little over two when the new LO is born and I did not want/expect a shower.  We have already started buying things with coupons from BRU and during sales.  In my family and social circle 2nd showers are not appropriate when they babies are closer in age.

pammeelala

I think you should prepare to buy it on your own, and then if someone offers, have a sprinkle instead of a shower.  Share that there are some larger items you need, but extras are always welcome, bottles, paci, new clothes, diapers, etc

rhubarb123

No shower for the 2nd and I didn't expect one either.  2nd (3rd or 4th, etc) showers are "not done" in my family or circle of friends.

You know your family/friends better than anyone.  What has happened in the past with other mom's of more than 1?  That should give you a clue as to whether someone might offer to host a shower for you.  I guess I would plan to buy anything I might need and if someone does offer to host a shower or sprinkle then great.  Most 2nd (and beyond) showers that I've ever attended it seems like people just bought diapers, clothes and a few other small things.

onislandtime

pook:

kgunz11:

I would prepare myself to buy what I need for my kid.  Then, if/when someone offers to host a shower and you get some of the items you need, you can put the $$ into savings for your LO. Plus, in my experience, most folks give small gifts at showers and it looks like your "needs" list is big-ticket items.

This.  I also wouldn't hold my breath for a shower since your first baby isn't even two years old yet.

Agreed.

flutepharm87

I don't think that anyone should expect a shower, regardless of it's their first child or their 4th child, whether you're team green or not, whether your second child is a different sex from your first, etc. Besides, according to your siggy, you're only 9 weeks along. There's plenty of time for someone to offer to throw a shower for you, although it's less likely since it's your second child. Whether fortunately or unfortunately, first time moms are more likely to have someone throw a shower for them because they usually have no baby-related items. If I were you, I would start saving now for the items you need. If someone decides later to throw you a shower and you've already bought certain items, you can always return them or the gifts you receive from the shower for other items you might need.