anyone else's dh not so darling??

cheerio9

Ok so my husband is trying to make everyone feel great and keeps inviting ppl over to our place to have dinner etc. I'm tried and cranky and barely sleeping. It's like this argument we keep having and he is blocking out the fact that i'm 36wks and really need as much me time as possible bc soon there won't be any and i don't want to hear what everyone else thinks i should be doing w/ my kid. is this just me feeling this or does every pregnant woman feel this way?

srs5624

Um... nope. We have excellent communication.

Have you flat out told him that the dinner parties need to cease? Try this... I'm 36 weeks pregnant. I'm tired, uncomfortable, moody, and can't get a proper night's sleep. There's a small person slowly tunneling their way out of my uterus. We have umpteen thousand things to get accomplished around the house within the next month. I'm not in a place to be entertaining guests so frequently and I need to know what I need to do to help you understand that we need to keep it to xx number of dinners per week (if at all).

Maybe he just doesn't "get" how uncomfortable you are.

ETA: Oh, I forgot to address this part "i don't want to hear what everyone else thinks i should be doing w/ my kid".

You need to learn to smile and nod. Any time someone gives you unsolicited advice... just smile and nod or say something to the affect of "we'll keep that in mind" or "thanks for the advice, but we're following pediatricians orders right now". Everyone thinks they know best and everyone will give you advice, solicited or not. It will continue forever. When your 2 year old bumps his head... unsolicited advice. When your 32 year old buys a house for his 19 year old girlfriend... unsolicited advice/gossip/judgement. Sorry, it's just how people are.

Manateearmz

cheerio9:

Ok so my husband is trying to make everyone feel great and keeps inviting ppl over to our place to have dinner etc. I'm tried and cranky and barely sleeping. It's like this argument we keep having and he is blocking out the fact that i'm 36wks and really need as much me time as possible bc soon there won't be any and i don't want to hear what everyone else thinks i should be doing w/ my kid. is this just me feeling this or does every pregnant woman feel this way?

 

If you don't want to hear what other people think than you might want to stay away from The Bump.

Nope, I my husband is pretty good about asking what I feel up to.

 If you don't want to entertain, then simply tell him that he can have people over, but you'll be resting in the bedroom the whole time.

Akorn3

You need to talk to him. He is probably feeling like he has to spend time with friends now because he won't be able to in a few weeks. Let him know that you don't feel up to entertaining and he has to limit the dinners if not cancel them all together. If he insists on having people over, don't prepare a meal and tell him he can entertain them while you rest in another room. I think it's pretty universal that none of us want people telling us how to raise our kids so we have to stand up for ourselves and just flat out tell people that you don't want to hear it. He needs to be more understanding and you need to be more vocal about what it is you really want or don't want. Subtle hints do not work.